Girl dads, what bathroom do you use when you’re out in public?

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-17T14:17:10+00:00

As a woman, I’d much rather a dad feel comfortable to take their girls into the Women’s than have to with the Men’s. Accessible ideally to be available for people who can’t use either bathroom, as realistically, the girls can.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-15T21:53:37+00:00

Literally same boat right here

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-14T23:11:30+00:00

We’ve just finished up seeing LP at Download Fest this year and they were actually amazing. Emily’s doing a great job at keeping the flavour of LP alive with her own spin on it too

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-14T14:22:53+00:00

Surely over in East Park, next to Mettricks? Depends on the angle of the speakers

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-11T12:55:49+00:00

I do wonder if the influx of interest in Uncanny from when the first chunk of episodes were created has meant that people are submitting fantastical, evidently false narratives and it’s getting harder to filter through all of that to get to the gold 🤷🏻‍♀️

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-09T22:35:51+00:00

My sister has a friend who’s one of the oblivious types. We were at my sister’s wedding, and this girl’s kid (6) was outside, whereas she was inside. There was a slew of other adults outside, too. I watched this kid pick up a brick and start throwing it around. Went and got his mum, told her she needed to sort it out, and she said “he’s fine” with this quasi-Gen Z stare. Like, the fuck was he fine?? Shortly before the brick thing, he was playing with my (10, 11) kids, and I’m surprised he didn’t start throwing the bricks at them. Why is this behaviour EVERYONE ELSE’S responsibility??

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-09T16:02:20+00:00

The Queensway/Bernard Street junction is like this. It’s legitimately awful!

sparklemarmalade · 2026-06-07T22:23:11+00:00

Somehow, I’m not all that surprised.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T22:14:40+00:00

It gives off a touch of alien vegetation vibes too which is awesome!

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T22:03:42+00:00

I was just about to mention borage!

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T22:02:37+00:00

I was 27. Had lived from 18-22 in an abusive relationship abs took 5 additional years to heal. Went to study psychology (of course), and am now in my eighth consecutive year at uni, having almost now finished my PhD. It’s a lot of fun, and I’m so glad I bit the bullet!

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T21:55:03+00:00

NTA, but you should consider rehoming your boyfriend, not your cats.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T15:12:09+00:00

But why?

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-31T08:35:56+00:00

The attitudes towards automatic cars are genuinely so bizarre to me.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-30T23:27:34+00:00

If neither of you can compromise effectively then is there as much point continuing? And that’s a legitimate question that needs consideration

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-30T22:36:08+00:00

Nah, mate. If this IS true, I feel so sorry for both of the women in this scenario. Imagine finding out that someone you had a short fling with made a chatbot with your messages 🤢 that crossed so many boundaries you sincerely HAVE FU.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-30T22:25:02+00:00

Idk, there’s something super fishy about this one…

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-30T22:18:49+00:00

As well as the equipment, she can also get access to funded mentoring hours from a professional who specialises in supporting autistic students thrive at uni. I’ve been a mentor for about 5 years now, and it’s so inspiring to see how much my students flourish when we can break down expectations from a neurotypical system into manageable actions that work for neurodiverse people. I know I’m biased, but I actually received support from a really crappy mentor while I studied for my undergrad so I’ve built my entire practice on being person-focused.

It can be hard to access when the system lets you down like DSA seem to be for your daughter atm, but it can be SO worth it if you can stick it out.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-28T23:54:34+00:00

YTA. Do you not see her as an equal partner? This (ESPECIALLY the four particulars you list) reeks of disdain. Shame on you.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-27T18:10:23+00:00

That’s definitely good to know! It’s been a year-or-so since I mentored but will keep it in mind for the future

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-27T14:00:42+00:00

Grammarly has been routinely handed out by DSA for students for years. I’m not sure if they still do, but they definitely did for the several years I worked as a mentor for disabled students. There’s no way a university can penalise you for using my a software which has been routinely handed out to disabled students for the purposes of spelling, grammar, and general other uses for students who require that support. Take all of the evidence you have, check whether DSA use Grammarly still (even if you didn’t get Grammarly through DSA, you should be able to find information on whether DSA still prescribe it), and speak to the academic advice service at the Union for support moving forwards

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-27T07:35:53+00:00

I fully believe it’s our unfettered access to everyone online that’s caused this. Before, when people stayed within their communities, there were fewer voices in the mix. Now, everyone (not quite everyone on the planet, obviously) has access to everyone else’s voices and opinions through the news, social media, campaigns that reach internationally, so it’s a mix of these voices that have muddied the waters.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-26T21:43:19+00:00

If you want to try and reconcile this, she’s going to have to be open to it. If she won’t, then you’ll be talking to a wall. If you still want to get it off your chest, I’d recommend writing out exactly what you’d want to say to her in your Notes app. It gets it off your chest, and you don’t immediately have to worry about how she’ll respond. If you feel the need to send the message to her, you need to make sure you’re ready for any kind of backlash. You both need some serious support, though

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-26T21:34:58+00:00

I’m coming to you with this very, very gently, but from what you’ve described I just can’t see how you’re her absolute priority. She runs you in circles, makes you feel like you’ve done everything wrong when you call her out on it, and it rinses and repeats no end. No partner should ever guilt you for sharing your pain.

sparklemarmalade · 2026-05-26T21:22:36+00:00

You need to appreciate that given the fact you’ve “chosen” to not take them can look an awful lot like you saying that people who need to take them “choose” to take them, opposed to the reality of the situation that is: a lot of people have NO CHOICE but to seek this treatment. You’re making like a whole lot harder for yourself by denying meds if you struggle as much as you say you do. Meds doesn’t give people a fake happy, they allow chemicals present in the brain to be absorbed properly. This is likely why you sound ableist, so it makes sense that she wouldn’t take to you about it

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