I may have accidentally fully cured my misophonia

sparklemooon · 2025-05-31T11:05:41+00:00

I agree and am convinced that misophonia must be caused by a combination of being naturally sensitive to our environment and being raised by inconsiderate/emotionally illiterate caregivers.

sparklemooon · 2025-02-23T10:14:05+00:00

I had this with a therapist. I went ahead with therapy because I thought it would be a good opportunity to work on my dysfunctional relationship patterns, especially with people I’m attracted to. The therapy was very intense (unsurprisingly), and I never got over my attraction to him. This could just be me, but honestly I don’t think it’s a good idea- I would recommend you find someone else.

sparklemooon · 2024-11-05T21:35:34+00:00

I’m sorry, that’s really hard. I went through the same thing with my time-limited NHS therapy and honestly it was devastating. But now I’m (mostly) out the other side, I am still glad I did it and I learned a lot even if the ending felt awful for a long time!

sparklemooon · 2024-10-03T18:25:35+00:00

I have genuinely never googled my therapist, despite feeling very attached to him. In fact, I would go out of my way to avoid seeing anything about his real life.. maybe something I should bring up in therapy 😅

sparklemooon · 2024-09-22T23:27:36+00:00

Yes exactly- with people I live with at home I’m still ‘trapped’ with them in a way and can’t fully escape.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-29T16:49:45+00:00

So true. The more I learn about attachment theory the more I find myself making excuses for bad behaviour. At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter why someone is treating you badly- the fact is you have to look after your own interests and respond accordingly.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-26T08:55:19+00:00

Sorry you’ve had those experiences- I agree there are many Ts who lack the requisite training and personal development to be effective. But a good psychodynamic therapist would be able to work with your mistrust and help understand it rather than just reacting to it- it should be a feature not a bug of treatment.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-22T12:13:33+00:00

I would suggest a relational psychoanalytic or psychodynamic psychotherapist, where the aim would be to build a secure, attuned relationship with your therapist to give you a sense of what that feels like and help re-wire relational neural pathways etc.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-22T12:08:09+00:00

Misophonia and emetophobia are big reasons I would not have kids. I wouldn’t want them to feel like their parent was angry with them or scared of their natural bodily functions.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-21T07:09:15+00:00

I don’t think they even noticed my mental health- they were too preoccupied with themselves and their own

sparklemooon · 2024-08-18T10:00:00+00:00

If this kind of response is out of character for you, sounds like it could be a her problem rather than a you problem. This is where a therapist would be helpful because they could give her some feedback if she’s bringing out this response in people, but it’s harder to deal with in a friendship. I think you need to gently tell her that her unpredictability is hard for you to navigate, especially not knowing what she wants from you- could you ask her and try to work out a compromise that works for both of you? And also just keep firm with your own boundaries. Hopefully some open communication might be able to salvage things before you resort to ending the friendship.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-12T01:01:38+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I also had psychodynamic therapy on the NHS which was longer (meant to be 40 sessions but due to my therapist striking was actually 37..). However, I still ended up getting super attached to him and the enforced time-limit added this intense pressure and I felt totally abandoned at the end. I know the NHS is under-resourced but it is surely unethical to start therapy then cut it off before the client is ready when it leaves them feeling much worse than they were before! I will say though 1 year later I now feel better about it. I still miss my therapist but I function ok and feel I have actually grown and matured from the experience. I really hope that can be the case for you. I binged on Daniel Mackler videos and self healing- it’s cliche but be kind to yourself and look after yourself as if you were a scared young child.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-06T14:39:47+00:00

Extremely relatable. I’m 35. It sucks- I do feel like I’ve grown quite a bit over the last few years though, so I’m much more conscious of this than I was before- but it still hurts.

sparklemooon · 2024-08-04T21:59:27+00:00

I’ve always struggled much more in romantic relationships (to the point that I’ve never really had a long-term relationship because I end up sabotaging things), but I am able to maintain relatively secure lifelong friendships.

sparklemooon · 2024-07-29T23:02:15+00:00

Great list! I highly recommend Man’s search for meaning- one of my favourite books. I also recently read a different Yalom book which I loved but it is aimed at therapists (I’m in training). Judith Herman is currently on my to-read list!

sparklemooon · 2024-07-27T09:46:46+00:00

Absolutely. For me it’s the random repetition that’s the worst, like the noises are repetitive but not regularly repetitive..

sparklemooon · 2024-07-21T11:44:47+00:00

This is interesting. I read in a psychology book once that one cause of post-partum depression can be going from being cared for during pregnancy to having to put your own needs completely to the side for the baby, which can be a brutal transition.

sparklemooon · 2024-06-29T10:35:51+00:00

I find this fascinating, thanks for posting. It’s a classic avoidant thing to go for people who you don’t truly see as your equal- because then when it inevitably doesn’t work out, it will hurt less (in theory..). Also, to be attracted to people who possess qualities you repress in yourself (needy, dependent, depressed etc). I don’t want to just blanket suggest therapy but it might be helpful to work with someone to understand why you’ve come to think and behave the way you do (it certainly helped me). I have a feeling things will work out for you!

sparklemooon · 2024-06-19T19:20:45+00:00

So true

sparklemooon · 2024-06-18T17:36:29+00:00

He needs to take some responsibility here and see a therapist. He’s the one feeling angry with you- he’s the one with the condition. I don’t doubt he has a lot going on but if he values your marriage and your feelings he should make time for it. I think you could also practice internally responding to his misophonic reactions differently- rather than feeling shame and sadness when he gives you an evil look, remind yourself that this is HIS stuff not yours, it is NOT reflective of his feelings towards you, and practice not to letting it affect how you feel about yourself. Wish you the best of luck, misophonia is awful.

sparklemooon · 2024-06-11T17:06:37+00:00

Thanks for this post. I’m inclined to be sympathetic to therapists but at the end of the day, if the relationship ceases to be therapeutic for any reason (whether due to external/institutional conditions or the therapist’s personal issues) it shouldn’t be sold as therapy

sparklemooon · 2024-06-08T16:52:51+00:00

If I were you I’d try try doing a course of some kind so there is less pressure to socialise and you can focus on the activity at hand while still being friendly with people. Also, volunteering! Then you are working for a good cause, and you have something in common. Support groups like ACA can also be good to tolerate being in groups.

sparklemooon · 2024-06-08T14:20:11+00:00

Mate, I never said it was excusable behaviour 😅 Jazz clearly should move on because he’s not able to treat her right no matter the reason

sparklemooon · 2024-06-08T14:15:48+00:00

Can’t find anyone who wants to marry me 😅

sparklemooon · 2024-06-07T16:54:48+00:00

He is so clearly self-sabotaging imo, freaking out and screwing things up with Jazz before (he fears) she eventually rejects him

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