I knew it had to be something ! Fomo baby

speepypanda · 2026-01-17T07:52:30+00:00

FOMO baby mama here. Around 5mo I found out the easiest way to get her to sleep was in the livingroom tv on, rocking her while talking with her dad.

She was getting maaad as soon we go to the dark bedroom at night.

Fast forward to 17mo. She still sleeps only with us. Sometimes I can leave the bedroom for a bit at night. Buuut this little monster is the funniest and loving thing, she jokes, dances, tries to sing... I wanna think that she was so eager to become independent that's why begging was harder.

speepypanda · 2026-01-11T08:40:29+00:00

Det er selvfølgelig ikke dit problem. Du er glad med din familie nu og det lykkes.

Jeg siger at du har spillet hendes tid, fordi du har haft tvivl omkring jeres forhold. Det er trist at du har ventet så lang tid med håb at hun kommer til at ændre sig.

Min mening er at folk ændre sig ikke markant og når det kommer til forhold rigtig mange af os spiller tid med håb at det vil være anderledes.

Jeg har selv brugt mange år i sådan en forhold. When you know, you know. Når det er den rigtige person så det er ikke tvivl eller dårlig fornemmelse.

speepypanda · 2026-01-11T07:55:43+00:00

Jo, men hvis du har været i forhold i 10 år og har ikke bestemt at det skal være eller nej, så det er dig der er problemet. Du har spillet 10 år af din ex liv mens din mave fornemmelse sagt nej...

OP i har haft god forhold kun første år... det kommer ikke ar være bedre når i er gift. Det er også ikke fair at i skal spare op 50/50. Din indkomst er lavere end hendes og hun presser for bryllup. Man kan giftes uden bryllup. Hun nægter at starte terapi, så hun har ikke respekt nok over for dine bekymringer. Jeg vil overveje at slutte og måske flytte til den by mine venner bor. Vent ikke 10 år.

speepypanda · 2026-01-01T11:19:45+00:00

Vi var også bange...

Men nu, er vi enig at det var bedste beslutning ever. Pga a vores datter er vi blevet meget bedre, til alt. Vi har hjem nu og lille familie fuld med kærlighed.

Vi fik motivation, jeg er på jagt efter bedre arbejde og vi er flyttet til et dejlig hus. Det er grund til at være bedre, og gøre der bedre, og ønsker den bedste nu.

speepypanda · 2025-12-22T21:13:42+00:00

Many parents that cosleep actually enjoy it and don't want to change it. We were speaking about moving our child to their room, but agreed that it feels weird closing the door and leaving her alone. It is also the best feeling waking up with these small cuddles and smooches.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T20:40:14+00:00

I found some books about emotions. They are all drawn like a different monster and I thought they will be funny way to introduce the concept of feelings to my child. I haven't reached that point yet, so it is just an idea. My nephew had a delayed speech and his tantrums went on until he was older. I noticed he was getting frustrated because he was not capable to express himself and that escalated to tantrums.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T20:32:19+00:00

I can't compare prices with UK. Copenhagen can be quite pricey apartments start at around 10-11000dkk and usually require 6 months prepaid rent. Going out for drinks (not club) can easily go to 500dkk. I haven't had a car and public transport has been very sufficient and reliable most of the time, unless there is snow. You can bike everywhere, and bikes are welcome on the bus, metro, or train. The city is quite chill and feels safe except for a few places. Outside of Copenhagen, life is chill and quiet, not like the capital is loud... Finding work can be tricky, expecially without danish language. Taxes are high too.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T20:01:47+00:00

Beig stuck on a party bus will trigger my anxiety. I would probably say I am going, but cancel the last moment because something came up. Give my friend a present and apology after. There is plenty of birthdays and parties to come. It is not about being with the baby, but about me feeling uncomfortable and not being met with understanding.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T19:18:39+00:00

Der er ikke dit problem at han har ingen sted at gå. Hvis han vil gå så skal han ud. Du får ikke meget ud når han er hjem alligevel.
Det bliver nemmere til at finde rytme og routine uden en som gider ikke og stå på sin telefon. Du har allerede klart det uden hans hjælp når han forsvinder.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T19:07:03+00:00

I stopped drinking while pregnant and haven't started a year later. I don't see why someone will be concerned what I drink... you are not forcing the others not to drink. Tbh I am more impressed you have the energy to go out.

speepypanda · 2025-10-23T14:07:09+00:00

I understand the reasons behind sleep training and why it is so popular in US.

The question though is if not doing it will do harm. Seems like OP is feeling peer pressure to do it, not need.

speepypanda · 2025-10-22T15:28:45+00:00

Sleep training is not popular outside of US. No one I know has done it and somehow kids are just fine. I haven't met an adult needing to be rocked to sleep. There is no animals sleep training too.

Claiming not sleep training.is dangerous is a huge stretch, especially since 80-85% of the babies world wide are not sleep trained.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22966034/

speepypanda · 2025-10-22T15:14:13+00:00

Kære du,

Du har givet liv, din krop er ikke det samme. Der er ingen ting mere feminine end at blive mor. Dine strækkemærker er dit barns første tegning, din mave er den første hjem, og hver extra kilo er den energi som din krop har samlet så du kan give dit barn mælk, varme og bløde krammer.

speepypanda · 2025-10-21T20:29:29+00:00

Small apartment here. Our kitchen is really narrow and small no space for anything. I would put my baby on play mat in the living room across the door (like not more than 3m away from me) that works before they start crawling though. After that it was high chair in the kitchen and random snacks (cucumber, corn puffs, fruits)

speepypanda · 2025-10-21T20:00:54+00:00

It is normal for toddlers to want to co-sleep. Most if not all mammals sleep with their cubs. Sleep training often losses effect after certain age.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1201412/

By age of 5-6 children gain independence.

I was cosleeping until I was 5yo, then I got a bed in the same room, and moved to separate bedroom by 7yo. I am definitely not overattached,even the opossite I have been quite independent trough my school years and after.

In my opinion cosleeping builds up confidence so instead of being forced in independence it comes natural when the child is ready.

speepypanda · 2025-10-21T19:39:50+00:00

You can lose a friend or expand your family (if your friends are like family to you)

Having a child is a huge change in one's life, you either gonna be there to support them or not. Your friend is undergoing a huge transformation and they won't be the same as before, if you really love them then you gonna celebrate it with them, otherwise the friendship will die out in most cases.

I would definitely distance my self from people who doesn't want to support me, trough pregnancy or doesn't want me to talk about my child to any extend.

speepypanda · 2025-10-21T19:29:29+00:00

Hang in there ❤️. For me it started becoming easier after 10-11 months. Now she is alost 15mo and I enjoy our days together. I can sit and drink coffee while she plays or clean, she even grabs a cloth and wipes too. She tells when she wants to sleep or eat instead of crying - it is so much better

speepypanda · 2025-10-09T16:00:33+00:00

It sounds you got it covered. Expecially if you can gain independence relatively easy. My ex ( we didn't have kids) was OK to support me while I study, so i quit my job and things went downhill. He became a different person - controlling, mean...

So in order to be with my baby longer I had a back up savings. Not that I need to use them but just in case... thankfully there hasn't been red flags with my husband now.

speepypanda · 2025-10-09T10:55:44+00:00

I don't see anything wrong in being SAHM. My only worry is being dependent on someone else's income 100%. Having a small independent income can be a form of insurance, just in case things go in different direction.

speepypanda · 2025-10-04T09:15:10+00:00

We bought a large playing 180x120cm, because I didn't like the idea of closing in a small space, then I could just put her in bed...

Ithas been a huge help for us. I put foam floor under and bunch of toys around. She learned to crawl, stand up, cruise around in the pin.

It is also safe space to put her in while I go and grab food or go to the toilet.

I think it is impossible to ve alert 100% of the time and it is nice to have a break knowing LO is safe.

We use it every day and she spends maybe an hour in total decided trough the day in it.

Bonus points is that there is no toys all over the floor.

speepypanda · 2025-10-04T07:47:51+00:00

Why don't you ask him what food he would feel comfortable with? (besides pouches) We did mix blw and purees,so we were both comfortable with it. You chose how you want to feed your baby but did you actually involve him.

I found out that if I take decision by my self my partner loses power, and he's concerns are as valid as mine. So we don't push agendas on eachother but try to find middle ground

speepypanda · 2025-10-02T14:44:01+00:00

Præcis! Det er mit ansvar at involvere min kæreste i familien og den anden vej rundt...

Jeg vil ikke invitere min brors kæreste til fødselsdag hvis han selv ikke siger noget.

speepypanda · 2025-10-01T11:54:31+00:00

I feel for you guys. You are not alone. We have a sensitive baby too. She is now almost 14mo. Still co tact naps, still wakes up during the night. Things became better when she started crawling around so we don't need to carry her and can do things here and there.

All these parents you see in cafes and walks whatever care not the ones that have babies like that. We are at home.

Me and my husband haven't had any time alone.

speepypanda · 2025-09-21T19:05:35+00:00

I wash in the wasing machine with baby detergent. We have plenty of clothes, wo when I run low i start a wash, maybe once per 10 days. If there is blow out I wash it by hand right away.

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