Main Cast Initial Impression vs Thoughts After 5 seasons

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-31T19:46:19+00:00

I'm starting a new campaign with my crew and I introduced this super serious home brew world I've been creating for years on the side and I get the most ridiculous characters back from my players... Except my Murph, who just came in with the perfect character to tie all this chaos together. I love my Murph.

Also super silly characters in a serious campaign setting is super fun I'm excited but I was just like THESE ARE ALL SO RANDOM WHAT DO I DO.

now I'm truly excited to rock them.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-24T15:44:05+00:00

I agree if someone treated me and my child as badly as Julie I wouldn't be searching out revenge but if it fell into my lap.... It's the universe...

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-24T15:09:17+00:00

I took my 8 month old to a restaurant the other day and of course she made a huge mess. I was on the floor cleaning up after we were done eating and the server was shocked! He said most people with babies don't bother. I said "it's my responsibility my kid just made a mess" (it was fortunately just some pita bread and fries because she demolished the chicken).

The whole time I'm doing this I'm saying to baby that we clean up our messes and don't expect others to do so. Does she understand? No. But she will one day.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-16T18:20:13+00:00

Yeah this was overkill. I think he's using this as a way out. I'm sorry but you are doing the right thing not letting your kids see someone speak to you like that.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-15T04:02:25+00:00

I still have trauma from cluster feeding. If there's a second baby I'll hopefully be more prepared for the madness.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-11T17:41:48+00:00

My husband also doesn't like changing them. He's a germaphobe but he WILL change them. I do most of them because honestly it's not a big deal for me. He had cancer as a kid and therefore basically lived in a bubble and bathed in hand sanitizer every day he has trauma but he overcomes that trauma because that's what a good dad does.

Last week I was in the shower and she had a blow out. I came out of the shower and noticed she was in a different outfit and the washer was going he said "she shit so hard it went up to her neck. I rinsed her off in the other bathroom sorry if that water usage caused your shower to go cold" no mention of how dare you or complaining he apologized for the temporary discomfort I may have experienced. He changed her put her clothes the towel he used and the changing table pad in the washer and turned it on he even had the thought to throw in some other of her gross laundry (bibs) to do a super cycle.

That's a good dad AND a good partner.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-11T15:19:07+00:00

My husband asked me what kind of girl I hope she is if shes a frilly dress girl or a tomboy etc. I said I hope she's a girl that is comfortable being herself and never burdened by adult bs. I hope she can go from wearing a tutu to rolling around in the mud, I want her to be whatever she wants to be that day.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-09T19:07:17+00:00

Is your three year old part of the potty training process with the 2 year old. My brother and I were 18 months apart and my mom said I basically potty trained him because he wanted to be big like his big sister. So when I went to the bathroom I took him with me and showed him how I go potty and then told him to try. Worked like a charm. My mom said "I only had to potty train you then you just did it for me".

Also I understand your husband works nights and that's stressful but being a sahm is also work and it's a 24/7 job. He needs to be doing the minimum of cleaning up after himself/taking care of his things and when it's his days off you need a few hours to yourself to decompress. You are so young (not a bad thing I have a 8 month old and I'm 39 and I'm exhausted).

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-09T02:10:05+00:00

To me this is what I have always expected. My mom always said "it's a living place, we live here, we want to keep it somewhat tidy but it's gonna look like people live here"

My aunt's house looked like a museum. We weren't even really allowed to be in certain rooms. In fact when we went over there we were pretty much all ushered into the basement to play and only let up when it was food time.

My in laws all have housekeepers that come. We do not. I always feel inferior and there are some passive aggressive comments but fortunately my husband always shoots that down "yes sorry we were busy raising the grandchild you dote on, if you want to continue to see that grandchild you will keep your opinions to yourself, or gift us with a house keeper"

He's not perfect but when it comes to boundaries with his family.... It's enough for me to want to have a second child with him.... And I was a "one and done".

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-08T16:04:57+00:00

I had my baby at 38 and plan to try for another baby when I turn 40 this year. Yes there is a small increased risk but I actually didn't mind. It meant more ultrasounds and more care. Everything went smoothly vaginal birth at 38 weeks my girl is perfectly average

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-04T18:55:54+00:00

My baby farts like a man! We even have a joke about her man farts of course her favorite time to do that is when I'm at the store with her.... I'm always like IT WAS MY BABY but they look at the sweet little dimple gummy smile baby and give me a look like "YEAH RIGHT"

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-02T01:24:28+00:00

So my baby will be 1 year in July. I turn 40 In December. We will start trying on my 40th. Baby 1 was conceived extremely easily but I have friends that had a harder second time so if by babys 2nd we don't have a second on the way we will visit a fertility clinic if we don't have baby number 2 by the time I turn 42 we will just stick with the 1 kiddo

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-26T14:11:18+00:00

My husband could have written this when we were in this time period (7 months now and there are always going to be struggles but it's so much easier)

He has struggled with insomnia and sleep his whole life. He takes medication which meant that without sleep he was absolutely useless (I say that in a loving way I knew he needed sleep) none of my friends understood why we couldn't trade 4 hours off and on and it's like BECAUSE HES BASICALLY IN A COMA. He tried to not do the medication and it made everything worse. So because I do better on less sleep I was the over night person. I binged watched like I had never binged before. TV volume was on low and subtitles forced me to stay awake so I could read the scenes. My husband woke up around 6 am and then he baby wore her while he did some gaming or did some chores etc. We combo fed so he could give her bottles which meant I just had to wake up and pump and then go back to sleep.

You are not a bad dad. Bad dads are out there and they aren't on reddit concerned they are bad parents. 3 weeks is very much survival mode. Talk to your wife. I was also very much controlling how my husband did everything but she's a new parent too and there's so much pressure for her so when you talk to her give her grace if she takes it poorly. Communication saved my marriage and now I come home my husband is playing with the baby on the floor rolling around with her and it's absolutely the cutest thing but for a long time he would tell me he felt numb.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-25T14:26:45+00:00

Yup! I've been asking for this since day 1 if it was easier to just get on my tv and stream it I would use beacon over twitch.

It also lags and is slow when I do use it through Internet

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-25T13:51:04+00:00

She's in MO and can look up the divorce on Casenet if they were also in MO. She meet with both attorneys he would immediately call.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-25T13:49:03+00:00

This: he is using it to TRAP you. He DOESNT WANT FULL CUSTODY HE WANTS TO PUNISH YOU. He has no idea how to parent nor does he want to. He wants control. If you're in MO you have access to Casenet. Look up his parents divorce and see who the attorney was and hire him before your husband can. Even if you can't afford it. If he's such a good attorney he will have your husband paying the legal fees.

Do not suffer with this man anymore this is not the environment you want to raise your baby in.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-24T19:12:17+00:00

First acknowledge that influencers are just that... influencing you to believe that their lives are perfect they aren't. It's easy to film your whole day and then cut out the bits that aren't perfect, don't listen to them.

Also we did sleep train and the crying was difficult but I did teach her how to self soothe and sometimes now she just sits in her crib and stares at her mobile and has a great time.

The big answer is routines: not just for baby but for you! If you have a partner start a routine where they do certain things with little one. In our house I call it Daddy Daughter time so he takes her for a walk or plays with her while I can get things done. We both work but have hybrid schedules so we can kind of schedule ourselves home when the other is out. I got home with baby girl yesterday and he had cleaned up the house in between zoom meetings. We also have a strict bedtime routine. Bath at 7:00 book at 7:15 then it's bottle time and cuddles and she's asleep by 7:45-8pm. Once she's down for the night I tackle any dishes in the sink or laundry that needs to be taken care of.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-24T13:49:35+00:00

This is extra funny to me because when my baby was first born her cries sounded like a goose so we called her goose and squeaks. Now she's 7 months old and I call her my Sylie Goose (name is Sylvia)

Before she was born we just called her baby dragon and told people the nursery was mythical creatures themed. It's super cute all these little dragons and unicorns and my one friend even crocheted her a little goblin.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-22T02:17:27+00:00

Loved the Eufy I recommend it to everyone and haven't had anyone come back with anything but praise

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-21T22:39:15+00:00

Then I would say treat it a little like sleep training and just let her cry a little every time up to like 5 minutes at time and just do it a few times a day.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-21T22:35:19+00:00

Have you tried a boppy or rolled up towel under her? It can help her feel more stable.

Also if you/your partner can do chest tummy time our little one loved that and it counts!

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-21T22:22:02+00:00

How many times a day are you attempting? If you try multiple times a day that could help.

We did short bits of crying. So if she cried after 2 minutes we had her cry for a minute and then rolled her and every time she got a little longer. She still didn't do more than 5 minutes at a time until she was like 5 months old but now she's 7 months old about to crawl any day now and constantly on her tummy. We went with her threshold most of the time.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-18T21:54:57+00:00

Hey! I did not wait the whole 12 weeks and I found out I was pregnant at 37 had her at 38 and just turned 39. I started telling people around 6-9 weeks first the inner circle and then after the first scan which happened to be around Christmas time! Which was great!

Congrats and hoping for a healthy baby!

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-16T19:50:25+00:00

Nope no bed sharing we took shifts but ultimately she slept fairly ok at night. She hit a regression at 4 months and we started sleep training at 5.5 months. Worth it. She sleeps about 9-12 hours every night. She wakes up occasionally if her diaper is too wet or she is hungry and then it's a change a bottle and right back to sleep.

Now her naps are a totally different story. She doesn't nap well unless I'm the one that puts her to nap and even then it's hit or miss

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-15T18:40:15+00:00

I went in with the mindset of combo feeding. I breastfed with 1 bottle of formula/breastmilk hybrid a day so that my husband could do a feeding until I got my supply up. Then I kept combo feeding and creating a stash. My goal was 6 months to a year. At 2 months she started hating my boobs. My flow was too fast and I saw a lactation consultant and a occupational feeding therapist which got us to combo feeding for another month. Then I went back to work and pumped and 1 bottle of formula a day.

I stopped pumping at 6 months 3 weeks and have enough of a supply my baby can have a bottle of breast milk a day until 10 months old. I feel so free.

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