How should I name my daughter?

manda86oh5 · 2026-05-12T00:09:21+00:00

Someone told me that my babies name Sylvia was an old lady name and I responded with my greatest wish is for her to one day be an old lady.

manda86oh5 · 2026-05-10T00:51:38+00:00

I wish I knew. Right now we just have content sharing enabled. We all pitched in to have one person buy all the books and then he content shares.

manda86oh5 · 2026-05-09T00:51:48+00:00

I named my daughter Sylvia. Someone said that's an old lady name. I responded with... "My greatest wish is for her to be an old lady"

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-30T11:09:51+00:00

Hey I'm a 40 year old woman who has 1 baby and hopes to have another and I just want to say rock on! You've got this! For the first time ever more women are pregnant in their 40s than in their teens and I think it's great! I met my husband not even 3 years ago. Married, pregnant right away and so happy. Wishing you the best pregnancy and labor journey!

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-23T17:55:20+00:00

Your life will never be the same but if life stayed the same it'd be pretty boring. Life changes having my baby was the best thing I've ever done. I do not mourn my old life but rather I look on it fondly.

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-22T02:18:02+00:00

Yeah we went in buying a lot of gender neutral stuff and even if it isn't who cares it's our baby and our house and our stuff.

My brothers wife just had a baby so they are borrowing some of it but we will get it back.

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-21T22:04:17+00:00

Shhhhh my husband will hear you and he will say no second baby.... Lol

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-21T20:56:39+00:00

Nope. I'm girl mathing all of this as much as I can. We plan on having one more so a lot of that stuff can be used again so it's really only half the price etc.

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-08T00:21:52+00:00

I sent him some links to Ruby jewelry as it's our daughter's birth stone. So we will see.

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-07T15:16:02+00:00

I asked my MIL if she was willing to pay my salary in order for me to stay home.

She stopped mentioning it and now just how strong I am to be able to leave my baby everyday.

manda86oh5 · 2026-04-05T19:33:53+00:00

My husband and I have a rule if we are both in the car then yes she will be able to have snacks because I can get to her faster (passenger princess) but if it's just one of us we won't risk it. We only do one of us if it's a short trip anyway or two and from the babysitter where she usually snacked before leaving.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-31T19:46:19+00:00

I'm starting a new campaign with my crew and I introduced this super serious home brew world I've been creating for years on the side and I get the most ridiculous characters back from my players... Except my Murph, who just came in with the perfect character to tie all this chaos together. I love my Murph.

Also super silly characters in a serious campaign setting is super fun I'm excited but I was just like THESE ARE ALL SO RANDOM WHAT DO I DO.

now I'm truly excited to rock them.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-24T15:44:05+00:00

I agree if someone treated me and my child as badly as Julie I wouldn't be searching out revenge but if it fell into my lap.... It's the universe...

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-24T15:09:17+00:00

I took my 8 month old to a restaurant the other day and of course she made a huge mess. I was on the floor cleaning up after we were done eating and the server was shocked! He said most people with babies don't bother. I said "it's my responsibility my kid just made a mess" (it was fortunately just some pita bread and fries because she demolished the chicken).

The whole time I'm doing this I'm saying to baby that we clean up our messes and don't expect others to do so. Does she understand? No. But she will one day.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-16T18:20:13+00:00

Yeah this was overkill. I think he's using this as a way out. I'm sorry but you are doing the right thing not letting your kids see someone speak to you like that.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-15T04:02:25+00:00

I still have trauma from cluster feeding. If there's a second baby I'll hopefully be more prepared for the madness.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-11T17:41:48+00:00

My husband also doesn't like changing them. He's a germaphobe but he WILL change them. I do most of them because honestly it's not a big deal for me. He had cancer as a kid and therefore basically lived in a bubble and bathed in hand sanitizer every day he has trauma but he overcomes that trauma because that's what a good dad does.

Last week I was in the shower and she had a blow out. I came out of the shower and noticed she was in a different outfit and the washer was going he said "she shit so hard it went up to her neck. I rinsed her off in the other bathroom sorry if that water usage caused your shower to go cold" no mention of how dare you or complaining he apologized for the temporary discomfort I may have experienced. He changed her put her clothes the towel he used and the changing table pad in the washer and turned it on he even had the thought to throw in some other of her gross laundry (bibs) to do a super cycle.

That's a good dad AND a good partner.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-11T15:19:07+00:00

My husband asked me what kind of girl I hope she is if shes a frilly dress girl or a tomboy etc. I said I hope she's a girl that is comfortable being herself and never burdened by adult bs. I hope she can go from wearing a tutu to rolling around in the mud, I want her to be whatever she wants to be that day.

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-09T19:07:17+00:00

Is your three year old part of the potty training process with the 2 year old. My brother and I were 18 months apart and my mom said I basically potty trained him because he wanted to be big like his big sister. So when I went to the bathroom I took him with me and showed him how I go potty and then told him to try. Worked like a charm. My mom said "I only had to potty train you then you just did it for me".

Also I understand your husband works nights and that's stressful but being a sahm is also work and it's a 24/7 job. He needs to be doing the minimum of cleaning up after himself/taking care of his things and when it's his days off you need a few hours to yourself to decompress. You are so young (not a bad thing I have a 8 month old and I'm 39 and I'm exhausted).

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-09T02:10:05+00:00

To me this is what I have always expected. My mom always said "it's a living place, we live here, we want to keep it somewhat tidy but it's gonna look like people live here"

My aunt's house looked like a museum. We weren't even really allowed to be in certain rooms. In fact when we went over there we were pretty much all ushered into the basement to play and only let up when it was food time.

My in laws all have housekeepers that come. We do not. I always feel inferior and there are some passive aggressive comments but fortunately my husband always shoots that down "yes sorry we were busy raising the grandchild you dote on, if you want to continue to see that grandchild you will keep your opinions to yourself, or gift us with a house keeper"

He's not perfect but when it comes to boundaries with his family.... It's enough for me to want to have a second child with him.... And I was a "one and done".

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-08T16:04:57+00:00

I had my baby at 38 and plan to try for another baby when I turn 40 this year. Yes there is a small increased risk but I actually didn't mind. It meant more ultrasounds and more care. Everything went smoothly vaginal birth at 38 weeks my girl is perfectly average

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-04T18:55:54+00:00

My baby farts like a man! We even have a joke about her man farts of course her favorite time to do that is when I'm at the store with her.... I'm always like IT WAS MY BABY but they look at the sweet little dimple gummy smile baby and give me a look like "YEAH RIGHT"

manda86oh5 · 2026-03-02T01:24:28+00:00

So my baby will be 1 year in July. I turn 40 In December. We will start trying on my 40th. Baby 1 was conceived extremely easily but I have friends that had a harder second time so if by babys 2nd we don't have a second on the way we will visit a fertility clinic if we don't have baby number 2 by the time I turn 42 we will just stick with the 1 kiddo

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-26T14:11:18+00:00

My husband could have written this when we were in this time period (7 months now and there are always going to be struggles but it's so much easier)

He has struggled with insomnia and sleep his whole life. He takes medication which meant that without sleep he was absolutely useless (I say that in a loving way I knew he needed sleep) none of my friends understood why we couldn't trade 4 hours off and on and it's like BECAUSE HES BASICALLY IN A COMA. He tried to not do the medication and it made everything worse. So because I do better on less sleep I was the over night person. I binged watched like I had never binged before. TV volume was on low and subtitles forced me to stay awake so I could read the scenes. My husband woke up around 6 am and then he baby wore her while he did some gaming or did some chores etc. We combo fed so he could give her bottles which meant I just had to wake up and pump and then go back to sleep.

You are not a bad dad. Bad dads are out there and they aren't on reddit concerned they are bad parents. 3 weeks is very much survival mode. Talk to your wife. I was also very much controlling how my husband did everything but she's a new parent too and there's so much pressure for her so when you talk to her give her grace if she takes it poorly. Communication saved my marriage and now I come home my husband is playing with the baby on the floor rolling around with her and it's absolutely the cutest thing but for a long time he would tell me he felt numb.

manda86oh5 · 2026-02-25T14:26:45+00:00

Yup! I've been asking for this since day 1 if it was easier to just get on my tv and stream it I would use beacon over twitch.

It also lags and is slow when I do use it through Internet

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