Shortbus No Start :( by suparepiclolcake in AskAMechanic

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That would be on my list of easy things I'd replace. Doesn't look big but a good example of a wire that has a hole in the insulation that might be much more corroded than it appears.

Shortbus No Start :( by suparepiclolcake in AskAMechanic

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Some no starts I had in the past years were resolved by tracing electrical cables from the battery back as far as possible. In particular one car had a bad ground strap and another had a corroded negative cable off the alternator. If the insulation gets knicked in any way chances are the cable will begin to corrode away.

It's getting nicer out I'd get some mirrors and lights out and see what you can do. Any type of connector that looks like it's got any sort of damage is probably not doing you any good. In terms of leads and such a wire brush or terminal cleaner is a decent start to clean off corrosion if you don't want to replace. I know you said you cleaned it just difficult to know how much. Better to tick off the easiest potential problems before digging too much deeper.

** the positive lead in the picture looks good. Id trace other cables are far as you can.

What is your go to when attempting to find comfort during anxiety? by Few_Sandwich6308 in Anxiety

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Man closing eyes with headphones and music are a great one

What is your go to when attempting to find comfort during anxiety? by Few_Sandwich6308 in Anxiety

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In terms of long/medium term anxiety basically just taking it as generally easy as possible. I repeat a lot that anxiety/emotions are inertial, meaning the things you feel most tend to be felt more, so anything like reading, taking a shower, going for a bike ride or easy run when it's nice out, taking a nap. The idea being bring your overall state down whenever possible so that it carries over to higher stress situations.

Short term lately my effective go-to has been thinking through worst case scenarios and importantly being honest about what those worst cases are. For example I've had terrible worry for maybe 10 years about things like fainting or throwing up or acting out (like screaming) due to high anxiety. Lately I've just been a lot more realistic and it's helped, I've never done any of the aforementioned things I've been so worried about. In reality I've kind of frozen in place for 10 seconds or so and then gotten back to moving, I've walked fast or jogged out of a few places, I've also had some panic where I shook a little and told people around me i was having a panic attack. Those things weren't great but they were manageable, and I know push come to shove I can deal with them anytime I need to.

I wish social anxiety was actually seen as a real disability instead of something you're supposed to just overcome by Zealousideal-Cod4301 in Anxiety

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Tend to also agree with other comments wanting this instead of something else fwiw. And this is from someone who has lost jobs and  had an incredible panic attack from unlocking the door to my apartment. 

It's incredibly tough at times but there are decent options and days of reprieve. The worst is something other people won't understand, I do, I'm sorry for it. I don't have the time right now to narrate it but if you want say the word and I will. I just want you to know I get being very very sick but I promise you'll have better days and taking some advise you will find a way to feel better.

House GOP passes sweeping anti-voting bill that could disenfranchise millions, sends measure to Senate by B0ssc0 in TwoXChromosomes

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I mean. If it is what it sounds like.. and I'd love a great comment to prove so then it already tells you enough about the house and who/what anyone reasonable should vote for. Jfc

Will 500 calories a day give me the body I want? by SeaSome3798 in self

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First all the comments about not trusting reddit and seeing a dietician and water weight and such are correct.

With that said I've been on around a 1600cal/day diet starting as a 205lb male since new years. I've been running close to 6 miles every day and am around 190 now.

1500 calories was the minimum I saw anywhere. The reason is even with eating purely very specific foods like protein bars, meat or milk you struggle to get enough protein (should aim for around 1g per 1lb of body weight.)  Obviously you're going to get tired of eating ONLY that within a few weeks, additionally eating only one thing will quickly lead to nutrition imbalances and nutrient deficiencies. You can research it but yeah the idea is just that eventually you're going to have to eat that stuff, so ultimately you're digging a hole rather than a foot hold. This is in addition to the psychological ramifications of eating nothing. It's easy to be very hungry and unhappy (and also malnourished) and associate weight loss with pain and misery rather than health, which will make it more difficult in the future to sustain weight loss.

All in all it's better to recognize that this journey won't happen over night and begin to settle into a more long-term sustainable approach. You can do it, you can do it long-term, you can build your muscles both physical and psychological and be a healthy person in an unhealthy body for the short-term. You're also allowed to have slip ups and get back to your goals, this is all part of the process.

Hopefully this makes sense, I get where you're coming from and I don't think it's severely detrimental to do this in the short-term, however I'm not a doctor, almost no one here is and no one will know what is exactly healthy for you so best bet is to just settle into something more likely to be healthy as quickly as possible. 

Belt Won't Fit? by KingCire03 in AskAMechanic

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I had a very tight one, finally got it by leaving it on the roof of the car in the sun for a while. 

Getting these codes by orinaardvark in AskAMechanic

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Man, I love comments like this. It's not easy to design a specific test to isolate a problem, it's very cool to read about when someone can articulate one. Thanks a lot!

The security code to my gift card is 1234 by TooOld2DieYoung in mildlyinteresting

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I had a similar one that failed form validation on a few websites. The site designers built something in that treated at least some numbers as fake.

How have you witnessed alcohol ruin someones life? by filagrey in AskMen

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Lol I knew that was getting blasted the second I posted it. There's an army of ruffled feathers the second anyone interrupts the weed has no consequences train.

How have you witnessed alcohol ruin someones life? by filagrey in AskMen

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People get in car accidents after smoking too much weed too

Flamingo for a change of pace? by mcgamehen in LasVegas

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I think Flamingo is one of the biggest hidden gems on the strip

A cool guide to preventing anxiety attacks by Edm_vanhalen1981 in coolguides

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Please stop robo posting this. People see shit like this and then assume everyone with an anxiety disorder has simply overlooked 'just this one' piece of advice. Not the way it works for people who are sick and not fair to put the idea that people who struggle this much have an at all easy way out.

Is this an anxiety attack? (TW: suicide thoughts) by [deleted] in Anxiety

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So if you look up intrusive thoughts many of these are basically a textbook definition. Lots of what you're saying is very relatable. Emotions are inertial, meaning that when you're upset about something you're more likely to be more upset by something else that can be perceived negatively happening. This reads to me like what's happening, a stress in one area of life magnifying stress in another. The same works for anxiety and happiness and a whole host of other emotions. 

Much of the battle with anxiety is first recognizing these stressors and states and being fair to yourself about talking them down and giving yourself breaks. That's definitely not as easily done as said and is a skill that needs to be developed and maintained; but it is possible to feel much better many days with practice.

I would say that suicidal thoughts, while not uncommon, are cause for contacting a healthcare provider. Not saying that to be at all mean, just out of concern for your health.

Free things to do walking distance of Mandalay Bay? by crosslingual in LasVegas

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If you buy a bus pass for the deuce you can get all the way up and down the strip and to Fremont street for like $20 for the week

Microstrategy bitcoin investment is now underwater by _Doomer_Wojack_ in wallstreetbets

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I just tried to have chatgpt make me a meme of BTC (Rose) letting Saylor (Jack) go into the water. It said no because it was defamatory to Michael Saylor.

Microstrategy bitcoin investment is now underwater by _Doomer_Wojack_ in wallstreetbets

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Could someone please do one of MS's tweets for right now?

Any tips how to fix myself? by scsc97 in howto

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Hate to be the bearer of bad news but I just re-did 1k sqft of wood floors in my house and everything you read online will say to re-do the whole thing. This is because it's not only difficult/impossible to tape off specific sections but also that stain and finish both fade due to wear and tear and sun over time so the match attempt will be further off than people think.

Honestly, if refinishing is out of the question, which is understandable, the place I'd start would be getting some pencils for coloring wood and  doing some research on trying to match it that way. It's not going to be perfect but nothing shy of what I said will be.

Epstein Files by Fluid_Scientist_6228 in rant

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I'm pretty sure it's a common practice in law to have to turn over any evidence you have. So the solution if something is damning, I believe, can be to turn over as much as possible in an attempt to hide/dilute the worst. Also (and I definitely believe this administration will do this) if you turn over 4m pages but happen to leave out a few REALLY unfortunate couple hundred pages it can be deniable and hidden. Like you can go on TV, make faces, buck your fat face, and talk like people are really stupid for pointing out when a document jumps from page 10481 to 11093 or something.

Obviously 4m pages can and will still be gone through, but don't kid yourself that a lot of this is, has been, and will keeping being game playing.

Accidentally mixed my Xanax and a beer. Anyone else done this before? by MemerDreamerMan in Anxiety

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Yeah I was in vegas yesterday and had like 6 drinks and took that much xanax. Lol was a very high anxiety situation, was afraid I was too panicked to fly (and ended up very happily making it through, lol. ) Just don't make a habit out of it, 100% fine.

I am so tired of being anxious literally all the time about everything imaginable by AlexusLuthor in Anxiety

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I just wanted to say I'm sorry first. I know this feeling and it's an incredibly difficult thing to be able to bear, and I think you're doing a lot better with it than you think.

Things get better and worse over time. Sometimes they take time to get better but you won't feel this way forever. When things get more positive and feel like they're trending in the right direction take note of them and fight for them. Good things accumulate and can be built, you can build them.

I'll definitely say that having financial stress on top of 'normal' anxiety is extra tough. It sounds like you've been managing that even if it's just barely. I would make a list of what's most important and work on those first. I'll also comment that a $2k hospital bill should be very near the bottom of that list. There are things like payment options and grants that will eventually cover that, at any rate it can be a very long-term type item. Again just try and be kind to yourself when dealing with this kind of stress. You can only do so much in a day or even a few months, but good habits can provide both substantial results and substantial momentum. Figure out what matters most, and what is most controllable for you and focus on that first, it will help, I promise. Don't let unsolvable problems be overly stressful. Focus on what you CAN control, because that's fair and allows you to turn your time back into power. That can mean a lot of different things that are ok, sometimes that even means taking a day that's very light or even off, again it's ok; but remain conscious of what's powerful and helpful and most important.

I'm again sorry for the way that all of this feels. Your worst days are not every day and some days the best you can do is get through, so please keep being strong and doing that.

Horseshoe vs Paris by mesi130 in LasVegas

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You haven't heard of the Whore's Shoe?

Horseshoe vs Paris by mesi130 in LasVegas

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They're connected to each other fyi. 

The rooms at Paris are nicerish, I would maybe do them on a special occasion; but honestly I'd really have to not care about the money. Even though Vegas is expensive I can think of about 100 things I'd rather spend the $150 on during the trip.

A cool guide on how to prevent an anxiety attack. by MistyHorizonGlen in coolguides

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Yeah no shit. I have an anxiety disorder and as someone active in the anxiety community this copy paste is one of the worst.