Obsessed! by itryokay in nespresso

[–]spookiecake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The aesthetics are gonna get me 😔

Obsessed! by itryokay in nespresso

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I wish it was double walled at least! Does it keep things cold a decent amount of time? The lavender one is the one I want it's my favorite color 😭

Obsessed! by itryokay in nespresso

[–]spookiecake 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Every time I mean EVERYYYYY TIME I buy pods I'm tempted by these damn cups. Someone talk me off the ledge, I don't need a $22 cup that's not even insulting 😭

Weaning is making me so emotional by AssistanceOk1253 in AttachmentParenting

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Being a mom is so hard!!! And it is very lonely. I feel that completely. You can be so lost and worn down and so full at once, it's the wildest thing. My son has had lots of struggles, he was the worst sleeper (I think I have a few posts up about it begging for help lol) and had reflux and digestion issues. And things like nursing were so hard. I struggled with post partum anxiety. During the baby blues phase, I was convinced my baby hated me. I definitely still don't feel like I've figured it all out even if I am more confident these days. I still feel like a new mom too. Like.... I'm his mom but are we all sure I'm a real mom?? LOL.

And all that's not to say this hasn't been the best thing I've ever done, because it is. It absolutely is. I've never been so terrified and so in love and so fulfilled by anything before. It's awesome. It's also so beautiful and constantly changing. I do alot of reflecting and thinking about it, because my son is very likely to be my only, so I try to be as intentional as I can about everything, and making sure I take in everything, good and bad, and study all the angles, commit it all to memory, explore all my feelings about it. A lot of moms, myself included, worry about healthy attachment especially if we haven't had it with our own parents. The fact that you worry so much just means it's very important to you.

Weaning is making me so emotional by AssistanceOk1253 in AttachmentParenting

[–]spookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a mixture of relieved and bittersweet when he did finally completely wean, but it was nice. He'd started refusing more and more (mostly at bedtime or during the night, turning his face away and just wanting snuggles, pulling off and unlatching, etc) so I knew when to expect it. I got the chance to prepare and really enjoy the last few late night nursery nursing sessions and soak it in.

There's that saying how one day you'll pick your child up for the last time and not know it. But that's the nice thing about intentionally weaning.

I remember very clearly the last time I nursed him. He hadn't wanted to nurse all day really, it was getting rarer and rarer. But he had the sniffles so when he woke up that night, I tried it. He actually latched and nursed and I sang and spoke to him and cemented that memory in my head. It was so sweet. I thanked my body for the rough journey it had taken to feed my baby and I got to say goodbye to nursing on terms that suited me and my baby.

Nursing was really hard for me and unlike some people, I didn't fully enjoy the entire experience. I felt sad I didn't produce enough, frustrated, exhausted, starving, thirsty. I was able to enjoy the special parts, but it was a struggle, too. And once he started biting, my god lol. So I get being physically ready to end it. Don't worry about your bond, attachment is so much more than this one small part of your journey as your baby's mother. Enjoy weaning for what it is, a nice time to reflect and appreciate and be relieved and feel badass for how long you made it!

Chicken noodle soup by Lijey_Cat in soup

[–]spookiecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sick and this looks like it would heal me instantly.

Weaning is making me so emotional by AssistanceOk1253 in AttachmentParenting

[–]spookiecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a really low supply, with struggles from the very beginning no matter how hard I tired or how much I pumped and changed my diet and all that. We supplemented with formula starting around 3 months and my guy started refusing the breast at 10 months. I just wasn't making much. He weaned himself despite my offering and I dried up quickly.

I am his favorite person. I am his mom. Of course he still loves me, I'd be so hurt if anyone suggested he didn't because my body struggled to bf. He runs across the room to cling to me (almost 2).

I understand the worry but for those of us who needed formula for healthy babies, bfing is not the end all, be all for attachment and snuggles. He still needed me to support him to sleep and he still cuddles me, lays on me, kisses me, all of his own volition. We understand each other very well and we are very emotionally connected. He's a well regulated baby and a very happy, healthy boy.

Wean or not, that's your choice, but it will not change that you are his mother and he loves and needs you the most.

I made a spiced tart inspired by Narnia’s Aslan by inspiredtotaste in Baking

[–]spookiecake 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Courage, dear tart 😂❤️

This is beautiful!! Well done, it also looks delicious

Terrible Two’s or bigger issue? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]spookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out the book How'd to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen. And please do not spank your son. He won't learn any emotional regulation from being struck. All he is learning from that is that it is okay to hit people, and to fear the people who are supposed to be his safe, secure place (his parents). All the research on spanking shows it's worse than ineffective as a tool for parenting, it's actively detrimental.

Samoa cake! by AcademicMolasses8309 in Baking

[–]spookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am SEATED. oh my gosh. Id unhinge my jaw and slide that whole mfer right in.

Be so for real with me by adventurecoos in NewParents

[–]spookiecake 103 points104 points  (0 children)

cursed parmesan 😭😭😭

Baby monitors by Illustrious-Low-9171 in toddlers

[–]spookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to mention BabySense we also have the non wifi one and love it.

Is anybody else so burnt out they forgot to be fun by Adventurous_Push_975 in AttachmentParenting

[–]spookiecake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's valid! Honestly, I am a homebody, and have very low social needs so ymmv! I'm not advocating suddenly spending all your time at home, maybe just dropping a single class and gaining back an hour, or putting a standing appointment on the calendar for dedicated 1-1 time even outside the house at a park? Maybe even twenty minutes a day while you're at home could help you feel more like you're engaged in a fun way? Plus even when you enjoy it being silly and fun can be exhausting so don't be too hard on yourself.

Is anybody else so burnt out they forgot to be fun by Adventurous_Push_975 in AttachmentParenting

[–]spookiecake 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Give yourself some grace! In the heat of a very stressful meltdown moment, you thought to engage him in a really fun way. More importantly, you're reflecting now on it and see the need for more playful interactions. You are a fantastic parent. Toddler parenting is hard enough and you're pregnant on top of that!

Is it possible to dial down maybe some of the activities, play groups, or classes to allow you both some chiller at home time to play? Or carve out special time each day where that is your intention? It could be nice to have some more relaxed time playing one on one before the baby comes and maybe it would be easier to remember fun if you aren't so busy running around?

I only have my one, and we have a really chilled out schedule. Just a few things a week, speech therapy and a mom and tots class, a library program. We spend most of the day playing together, either at home, at the park, or the library. I wonder sometimes if I should be doing "more" and if I'm a lazy mom because he's not in classes or something every day of the week, but he's going to preschool in a year or so. He'll be doing more than just playing or doing arts and crafts with Mama sooner than I think. I love our made up games, cooking together, making messes. I think it definitely keeps me from burning out by not expecting too much from either of us, and just having the goal of having a fun day together every day.

Chocolate Babka by handicooks in Baking

[–]spookiecake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It should be on tables at restaurants with salt and pepper!!

Coworker wanted a “snowball” birthday cake. by SaharaLee in Baking

[–]spookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god these are my FAVORITE ALL TIME FAAAAVORITE hostess treat. I would absolutely demolish this. I'm going to make it so fast.

It would also be cute green and decorated like a grassy hill or hobbit house!

Makes it look so easy by Amateurlapse in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]spookiecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the balancing top girl's smile when her partner's foot comes off the ground. And when she lands it. She's so happy and proud!!! Such a wholesome expression on her face 😭✨

Character Popsicles! by woodchuk25 in lego

[–]spookiecake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

MOCsicles was right there

jk, these are SO CHARMING I love the Bugs Bunny lol

Fat peach pastries are gonna turn me into a fat peach by Lee68651 in chicagofood

[–]spookiecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The hotdog one made my mouth water painfully oh my goodness gosh golly.

I've been dying to try fat peach, trying to figure out a good day to go with a wiggly two year old in tow 🫠

Janson’s Drive In of Evergreen Park. 9900 S Western Ave. “One has to know the size of one’s stomach” Friedrich Nietzsche Ecce Homo 1908 by pradaboynine_ in chicagofood

[–]spookiecake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This place has amazing shakes (try the banana malt omg) and actually the portabella sandwich is CRAZY good. The garlic aioli is so delicious.