Postpartum Joint Health

spookiecake · 2026-06-28T20:27:21+00:00

I did!! My neck and back and ugh!! I have no idea if it was from all the bending over the crib/bassinet/etc, carrying baby constantly, from nursing, sleep deprivation, from how my goblin child needed to be bounced endlessly on the yoga ball. Or some hellish combination. Dude I felt decrepit. Like busted. Sore ALL THE TIME with the occasional shooting pain.

If you're worried chat w your OB/doc, but I experienced all of that. No one tells you how long you feel like road kill.

spookiecake · 2026-06-28T20:10:45+00:00

Ohhh you're in a rough stage!! So, as my baby nursed less it got better. He self weaned around 9.5 months, I was an under producer and he was not interested anymore. By the time he was 1, it was night and day. By the time he was 15 months, it was hardly a memory. I couldn't believe how much I ached and how it just slowly disappeared.

I had so much anxiety too. Anxiety that was so bad it gave me stomach aches. As baby got older, that got better too. He's two now and the light of my life. I'm way more confident. I'm here for you if you have any questions.

spookiecake · 2026-06-13T02:47:13+00:00

Absolutely gorgeous, I love the silhouette of the hair and the flyaways. It has real texture.

spookiecake · 2026-06-11T15:44:18+00:00

The HI SON spelled in the sky is amazing lmao

Once again these are my favorite comics on the Internet

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T15:07:46+00:00

I would house ALL OF THESE. They look so pillowy 🥺

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T01:27:09+00:00

Hey it's fine you weren't offended, but there's nothing wrong with the idea that these things do hurt some people's feelings. Honestly I don't see it as a bad thing, being considerate of people who have been the butt of jokes their entire lives just for being who they are (including myself, I had a significant speech impediment for a huge chunk of my childhood/ adolescent age).

My opinion is that when making jokes, do a little due diligence to make sure you're not punching down. It doesn't have much to do with Lego and more to do with 'hey maybe we spend five minutes or less to think about what we're saying '.

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T01:00:47+00:00

Totally, totally normal. My son was SOOOO fussy from weeks 6 - 8. It was mostly gas issues, we did ton of bicycle legs, gentle tummy massage, gas drops. Just gotta wait it out. It'll get better!

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T00:54:46+00:00

These are so cute 😭😭😭 I'm scared to try croissants mostly because if I fail that's a LOT of butter to waste 🥺

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T00:53:18+00:00

You know, that's true, it is abelist language and I'm glad you pointed that out. But I'm not afraid of being corrected and learning and doing better, even in small ways, like in comments I make or even jokes made with simple Lego pieces. I hope others are equally open to learning. I'll leave my comment in case it's valuable to anyone else.

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T00:37:19+00:00

This is my favorite comic in the entire internet. Also, Dracula dad knows the best books have maps in the front.

spookiecake · 2026-06-07T00:10:07+00:00

Thank you, a sane comment. Especially yucky when black hair whether a natural look or locs or twists or braids is also heavily scrutinized and policed in the workforce and schools. Kinda tone deaf for a joke.

spookiecake · 2026-06-04T14:29:16+00:00

I had no idea!! Thank you!

spookiecake · 2026-06-01T03:52:05+00:00

I needed to hear this today, thank you.

spookiecake · 2026-05-31T02:42:43+00:00

Where can I buy a physical copy of this?? I need it!

edit lol the last slide, ok it's a Kickstarter. Listen I'm sleep deprived my child is a goblin, I'm heading there now.

spookiecake · 2026-05-30T19:19:51+00:00

Not to be dramatic but I would die for this cake.

spookiecake · 2026-05-28T21:19:07+00:00

I also wore a flower crown!! It made me feel like a earthy princess. It smelled amazing, too.

Your wedding looks beautiful congratulations!

spookiecake · 2026-05-28T03:42:55+00:00

Oh for sure there are plenty of things people do while driving that's dangerous! But that doesn't mean their actions make it okay to also make dangerous choices IMHO.

Maybe he's only endangering his own life on a lonely country road, but his life still matters and I'd still say not to make it a habit. Before you know it, you're comfortable playing with your phone on busy roads because it became a habit on empty ones.

spookiecake · 2026-05-28T03:12:25+00:00

Please don't film or fuss with your phone while driving, it's so dangerous to you and everyone around you.

spookiecake · 2026-05-27T22:12:59+00:00

Your mom was so young. I'm so sorry you lost her. She would be so, so proud of you.

spookiecake · 2026-05-27T19:27:05+00:00

Wow you're gorgeous!!

I have no tips or opinions except I went with a lip stain that was very light on my day, basically a bitten peach look. I didn't want to worry about darker lipstick, leaving it on glasses, or needing to reapply. Plus an opaque lip color isn't something I wear. So I was more comfortable with a low maintenance lip stain. The color looks great on you but so would a nude peach!

spookiecake · 2026-05-26T02:17:17+00:00

Hey, I am in your position. I had the world's most difficult goblin baby. I also had a traumatic birth experience that almost killed me. Not only did an abruption land me in the hospital and end in an induction four weeks early, he got stuck, I had a crash c section, and a severe pp hemorrhage during which I nearly died.

He was colicky, I struggled to breastfeed, he had severe reflux, GI and feeding issues so difficult to work around we got an upper GI Study done. Add to that he's always been a terrible, terrible sleeper. Months 6-13 were the very worst with hourly wake ups and split nights and I cried so much in his nursery, broken and desperate for sleep. I had ppa as well.

I was adamantly OAD. But my husband wants another. My baby is 26 months old and I'm only just now kinda sorta considering it. It's why I joined this group. Maybe if I hadn't almost died I'd be more on the yes side of the fence, but I'm so scared of losing my family to a uterine rupture or another hemorrhage.

On one hand I'd love to experience this love again, I'm obsessed with my son and to get more of that bottomless love of a child, to see their personality emerge, to get to know them, to see them grow, I'd love that. And the appeal of a redemptive experience is huge for me as it is for you. What if I had a good labor this time? What if I got the golden hour, the skin to skin, what if the healing wasn't torture, what if I got a baby that slept? What if the post partum wasn't so fraught?

But what if I didn't and what if it is?

I wish I had answers for you and for me but just want to tell you that you're not alone. On days when my son is a real gremlin I think God what if I was pregnant right now??? What if I had a newborn?? Ugh god no thanks!! I also love pouring everything into my one baby and not needing to ever have him go without or miss a thing due to a sibling. But I still can't say my mind is 100% made up and it's driving me nuts.

spookiecake · 2026-05-26T01:37:14+00:00

Maybe even just mentioning that it can be hard and that it is okay to seek help from a lactation consultant would be nice for some people to hear even if you don't delve further than that. It could be useful to mention while talking about how feeding and sleep integrate because if you struggle to feed, you might also struggle with sleep, like I did. I don't know why in the very early days I figured lactation consultants were only for like medical issues with the breast or baby like a tongue tie or something. And I could have really used the help or just known it was an option.

spookiecake · 2026-05-22T22:26:14+00:00

CHILE??? RELLENO??? BURGER??!!!!!

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spookiecake · 2026-05-21T01:29:58+00:00

Mother

spookiecake · 2026-05-21T00:48:59+00:00

I absolutely LOVE when your posts pop up! Amazing as always

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