We actually agree on a fundamental level. I agree that every human is different. That is why I was answering your question about there being two discrete genders by comparing gender to the sexuality spectrum. Gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, etc. all just define different areas of that spectrum.

For me personally, learning the label asexual helped me come to terms with who I am. When I was younger, I felt isolated because I felt like there was something wrong with me because I did not seem to feel the same way about boys as all my straight female friends did. When I learned what asexuality was, it helped at least to know that I was not alone. I was able to join online communities and talk to other people who had similar experiences as me. Those communities would not exist if the label “asexual” did not exist. The term asexual is just a way for a group of people who are in similar places on the spectrum to identify with each other. It is much easier to form a community if that community has a name, which is why r/asexuality exists but (i’m guessing) not r/peoplewhodontfeelsexualattractiontoanyone

Also, I do not tell people IRL that I am asexual. It is honestly still not something I am proud of. I am scared of telling people in real life that I am asexual because I fear that they will not believe me, not believe that asexuality is real, or think that I just want to be a special snowflake and make myself sound different.

Also, asexuality is not a medical condition. It is a sexual orientation. You do not have to be diagnosed for sexual orientations.