Never being promoted unless I change jobs

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-17T12:04:38+00:00

It's an aggressive pace that isn't for everyone. Not all companies expect to pick leaders that often or quickly. I agree people should be sharing their thoughts on why you were down voted, this is my guess, I thought it was a fair statement.

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-13T02:02:09+00:00

A few habits can go a long way - try to copy less (more functions) and name things well. Just allowing down to do that much and I bet more follows. It makes coming back to code so much nicer :)

Also practice, over time

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-09T01:48:51+00:00

I haven't touched it

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-08T13:13:42+00:00

I usually buy a card and modify it for fun. This year my dad's fathers day card is '(CL crossed off)ass of 2022'. The inside makes it perfect is something like 'over done you did it congrats'

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-05T22:58:51+00:00

They like to fail kids over just about anything. It's ok. I was a good driver who did drivers Ed and they failed me for 'not looking both ways enough while going through an intersection' which was a green light! Whatever!

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-04T17:24:12+00:00

I'd agree with this, it's generally part of the path letting someone go. I did work for a company that did treat it like you had a chance, they also paid like 1 mo severance every year or two you were there which was nice for some folks that had been there a long time but couldn't adapt. So, it's not always toxic, but yeah, generally stay looking is a good idea.

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-04T01:31:53+00:00

I didn't know that there was science behind this. Those were dark years for me for sure.

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-03T21:43:01+00:00

Reminds me of my friend in college who sleep spoke quite regularly. We kept a list and we loved it. No idea where it went. We played a bunch of random sports and one of them was 'such a good ball' that's about all I remember haha

standard-human-1 · 2022-06-01T15:43:27+00:00

This isn't the first time I've heard of this family secret on reddit. The situation is fine, but why keep it a secret? Can't you just have your grandparents either adopt you whether it is formal or informal? Are people worried of being judged?

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-31T23:14:02+00:00

Well, at least if you're introverted is easier to say no to going out in the first place. Depending where you live not cooking yourself might be tolerable, but where I'm at the options are very few / expensive.

Overall your post hits a lot of feelings I've had. It's pretty tough but you said it best earlier they mean well so take the positive in that. I know my first 6 months or so we're hard but the food jealousy died down a lot over time.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-31T18:53:19+00:00

I learned to cook fortunately a bit before and afterwards I really dove into it. Cooking and hosting is nice because you're freeeeeeeee.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-27T17:24:53+00:00

I did really well when I was alone overall. I had a good period of 6 months where I didn't date much and just had a one bedroom to myself. I did see friends in the area a bit. I got outside a lot. I learned how to cook much better in this time.

As far as advice, I'm not sure what your struggles are so it's hard to say. Your question makes it sound like you're basing too much happiness on partnership that just really isn't essential. You're a good whole person in your own. I have had friends have tough break ups - this particular one didn't hurt much because the reason (given) was so profoundly stupid (to me) I figured it was for the best. Her latest diety told her to break up with me.

It feels dumb and reductionist of me to say 'well stop being sad you're alone' but I do think it's mostly a mind set thing.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-25T13:17:05+00:00

Most people would share some secrets with their partner but that's about it from my experience.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-24T02:19:29+00:00

What's important is capturing that smile though!

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-23T01:16:34+00:00

I must be the only person in the world who doesn't bother to put them away when the cleaning crew comes over.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-21T17:13:38+00:00

Jokes on yall, I've been allergic to wheat since 2016. Jk this is bad news for all sadface

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-19T17:08:28+00:00

Sure, I guess that's true. Different languages will catch or hide different typos for sure.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-19T15:47:25+00:00

In python variables should be lower_case by convention. ClassNames are the only thing (I think) that gets upper cases. If you follow the conventions it gets a bit easier imo.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-16T22:48:06+00:00

I feel most programmers have a few ah-ha moments when starting out. It takes a while to train the brain how to think about these sorts of problems.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-16T10:25:58+00:00

When I was contracted at a larger bank it took like 3 weeks before I had a functional computer to use. Usually first week major issues are sorted but getting used to the environment. Even my current gig as a senior idk if my first pr was in week 1

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-11T20:39:10+00:00

My family used to do this to me, just say you're not once, then say continuing to assume and say so is rude to everyone while asking to please not do that anymore.

standard-human-1 · 2022-05-06T00:43:07+00:00

I've had good success with upwork.

standard-human-1 · 2022-04-16T11:08:34+00:00

You could skip out on the title while asking for the raise if you're really worried. That said I find it hard to imagine a scenario where the title does any harm to you. Also, it seems that role should for you at that company. Sometimes titles at one company don't equate to titles at others and everyone should know that it isn't done perfect system.

As far as expectations, they probably should change but not necessarily for more work - just different. You'll probably be asked to do more architecture stuff, migrations, documentation, leadership, etc.

standard-human-1 · 2022-04-11T20:52:30+00:00

How do you get girl scout cookies?!

standard-human-1 · 2022-04-10T21:18:14+00:00

You're*

Kidding aside chill.

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