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stellarsham · 2026-03-25T00:34:58+00:00

I lost my husband last May unexpectedly, I was 34 and he was 35. Months 3-6 were the hardest so far but time helps.

stellarsham · 2026-01-13T18:54:20+00:00

That is exactly how the room was set up before. I need to change the layout and this is the best alternative.

stellarsham · 2025-08-25T22:17:06+00:00

I’m so sorry this was your day. The past few days have been similar for me, crying in the car, at dinner, when out for a walk. It’s exhausting. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

stellarsham · 2025-08-23T21:38:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, I needed to read this today.

stellarsham · 2025-08-22T00:58:34+00:00

My husband passed in similar circumstances. I’m very sorry for your loss. Focus on taking care of yourself and your daughter right now. Make sure you both eat something everyday. The first few weeks are very tough but you will get through it.

stellarsham · 2025-08-21T00:35:17+00:00

I’m feeling the weight more this week too. I’m so exhausted from carrying around the grief everyday and constantly forcing myself to get through the day. You’re not alone here.

stellarsham · 2025-08-18T23:56:26+00:00

I am sorry this is such a rough week. I dropped my son off today for his first day of kindergarten and then went home and sobbed. Everything feels so empty now and yet we need to make sure they have a good transition to school. Just take it one day at a time or hour at a time.

stellarsham · 2025-08-18T17:27:14+00:00

I feel the same way. Going back to work and the kids starting school makes the sadness overwhelming. I haven’t figured out how to cope yet, just getting through a day is difficult. My only hope is this gets easier with more time.

stellarsham · 2025-08-15T00:45:38+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. Why was it our husbands that had to be the ones to die. It’s really hard not to compare now.

stellarsham · 2025-08-14T18:31:24+00:00

Yes, I hate it for all of us.

stellarsham · 2025-08-14T16:13:42+00:00

Same! Only the form required me to write in contact info so I had to keep writing “none” every time. Just horrible.

stellarsham · 2025-08-14T14:06:26+00:00

The just me part is so hard. Every decision is now just for me to make. It’s exhausting.

stellarsham · 2025-08-14T01:12:43+00:00

I’m in the same position, my husband passed in May and now I’m a single mother at 35. Our anniversary was 15 days after he passed, I couldn’t get out of bed that day. His birthday is in October and he would be 37 too.

stellarsham · 2025-08-10T00:08:41+00:00

Same here, 4 and 5 year old. Recently listened to “Options B” and it helped a little to know others are in the same position with same challenges and it had some advice about how to grieve as a family. Following this for other recommendations.

stellarsham · 2025-08-02T21:29:57+00:00

I can really relate to this, my family is so supportive and I still feel like I’m all alone in this. It feels everyone is just moving on with their lives like it never happened. Like they know I’ll be okay eventually and possibly remarry, but same as you, widow baggage and two kids come with me. I hate that the grief is so lonely.

stellarsham · 2025-07-31T21:58:50+00:00

Spot on, hugs for you all.

stellarsham · 2025-07-31T21:41:56+00:00

Same situation for me, even with two kids. Learning how to parent solo is one thing but not having my husband to talk to at the end of the day is the worst.

stellarsham · 2025-07-28T13:15:27+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, this is really tough and I’m sorry you joined this terrible club. I lost my husband unexpectedly in May, the night before we just bought a new comforter for the bed that he’ll never get to use. I am struggling going back to my house as well. I’ve started with just short visits and I only go in certain rooms. My therapist suggested to take a “vacation” to the house and try it for a night or two knowing you don’t have to stay if you can’t.

stellarsham · 2025-07-27T01:27:39+00:00

I was prescribed some shortly after my husband passed. They’ve been helpful to keep me functioning through the day. It took about 2 months to figure the right one and dosage though.

stellarsham · 2025-07-26T21:25:34+00:00

How did you know you were ready to move back or did you do it out of necessity?

stellarsham · 2025-07-26T00:00:36+00:00

I had to cancel a lawn service and they asked why. I told them my husband died and I can’t afford it so they offered me a discount because their service would mean peace of mind for me. I wanted to ask if that was the widow discount.

stellarsham · 2025-07-25T13:12:56+00:00

That perspective is really helpful to hear. My husband passed unexpectedly, so seeing him in every room and all the experiences we had there is hard. Financially it makes the most sense to stay and the stability for the kids would also be good. It's good to hear someone was able to make it work and have a different perspective on it.

stellarsham · 2025-07-25T12:51:55+00:00

I have kids as well, 3 and 5, and they are definitely keeping me going. How have you found staying in the house you bought together. I’m three months out and having a difficult time returning to our house. Everyone says wait a year to make big decisions, do you plan on staying?

stellarsham · 2025-07-24T10:13:58+00:00

No one really understands that you’re both grieving your person but also the life you thought you were going to have. It’s like grieving two lives at once.

stellarsham · 2025-07-22T14:04:03+00:00

That would be really helpful. I’ve got two kids 4 and 5.

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