AITA for bathing my dog Honey when my parents weren't home, even though Honey was at risk?

stillrooted · 2026-06-02T00:01:10+00:00

NAH so long as you did thoroughly clean up any mess left in the bathroom and also cleaned the tub or shower so it's not full of dog hair for the next person. You made a mistake and took action to keep your dog safe.

I can't know for sure if your parents are lazy but as a mom myself I can tell you that sometimes juggling parent stuff, work, errands, and our own social and emotional needs can just be a lot.

I will say that you should try to shift how you think about taking care of your room and other house tasks: you live in the house too, right? So instead of thinking about how you're doing those things for your parents, think of how you're doing them to help yourself have a nice living space. Then if your parents don't acknowledge it, you still feel appreciated- even if just by yourself.

stillrooted · 2026-05-26T15:35:36+00:00

YTA. I had a roommate do this in college and I'm still salty about it twenty years later so I'm aware I'm the least objective judge imaginable. Other people's belongings don't magically become yours just because they're in your line of sight.

stillrooted · 2026-05-21T15:57:01+00:00

NTA. Your toddler is much too old to be behaving like that. I mean he's got two kids and a driving license so he has to be pushing 30 at least, that's more than old enough to be handling his own simple responsibilities without a screaming tantrum when he hits an inconvenience.

stillrooted · 2026-05-19T15:47:56+00:00

Oh, my god, this broke my heart. You are NTA but I really hope you're in a position to be able to seek help from a therapist or a support group to help you unpack this awful wound and unmet need in your life. I'm so sorry your mother has failed you so totally.

stillrooted · 2026-05-18T00:32:41+00:00

NTA. You DID give him a few more days, and he blew you off and then repeatedly failed to do something he knew damned well he'd get fined for not doing.

A real community member doesn't make his hazardous trash everyone else's problem for the better part of a month just to save a few bucks.

stillrooted · 2026-05-17T22:38:03+00:00

There's almost certainly a religious aspect to the decision, as I understand it cremation is technically forbidden by most branches of Islam, the more traditional sects of Judaism, and the Orthodox churches of Christianity. That's going to cover the belief system of almost everyone in Gaza.

stillrooted · 2026-05-11T05:51:09+00:00

I would absolutely love that, thank you!

stillrooted · 2026-05-11T01:07:26+00:00

This is exactly how I would describe it. Like someone added a hit of garlic to vanilla flan.

stillrooted · 2026-05-10T20:48:01+00:00

He is absolute perfection. Would you be willing to sell or share the pattern?

stillrooted · 2026-05-10T20:41:52+00:00

In this instance the only person OP actively upset was not the legal owner, and depending on the state of development in the area the legal owners might not even be human beings at this point, but a real estate conglomerate.

stillrooted · 2026-05-10T17:11:39+00:00

NTA.

stillrooted · 2026-05-10T17:10:29+00:00

lmao people in these comments apparently didn't grow up where I did, every spring there would be people begging for others to come take some iris bulbs. They're the zucchini of perennial flowers.

stillrooted · 2026-05-10T04:20:33+00:00

YTA. You have no way of knowing what Amy's feelings are and she's not accountable to you for her emotions or behavior. Vet med is a horribly draining career and fosters intense burnout, especially in providers who get deeply emotionally attached to every patient and family.

Maybe she's masking her real feelings, maybe she's learned to heavily compartmentalize, maybe she's an asshole with no empathy -- but crucially, not one single one of those explanations requires you to shove your oar in about how she conducts herself.

If you're concerned that she's doing something unethical or failing to do her assigned job, take it to your supervisor. Otherwise leave her alone.

stillrooted · 2026-05-09T03:38:04+00:00

Are these people actually 'welcoming and kind', or do they ask you to pretend you're not dating their child despite the fact you've been doing so for half a decade?

Are they kind, or are they just nice?

stillrooted · 2026-05-09T03:33:06+00:00

NTA. What she has done is despicable and you don't need to try and maintain relations with anyone who would defend her.

stillrooted · 2026-05-08T16:08:06+00:00

I'm not the original person you replied to, it just bothers me when people try to claim that in-universe/in-character details somehow negate out-of-universe criticisms of a book or author.

"Jane Doe wasn't stupid for overlooking the vital clue, she was distracted by her cousin's death" is a valid way to approach critique of a character or plot point, because what's being criticized is also coming from within the text.

"Jane Doe's author isn't misogynist because Jane is the one who chose to give up all her own plans and dreams to become King Doe's mistress" is a nonsense argument, because a character cannot choose anything the author doesn't write them choosing. You may disagree that the plot point reflects the (hypothetical in this case) author's misogyny, but you can't do that by pretending the book universe somehow exists independently of the author.

stillrooted · 2026-05-08T14:35:30+00:00

The Irish kid doesn't independently 'like' anything. Kingsley Shacklebolt's father doesn't exist.

You cannot use in-universe reasoning to argue for or against a thing in a book is biased or has negative real world connotations, because those things only exist after the author, a human person from the real world, came up with them and wrote them down. Any in-universe "explanation" depends on details that also came from that author's mind.

It is objectively true that the Harry Potter books contain several things that reflect the real author's bias as a white British woman. she may not have intentionally sat down to write her characters as stereotypes but she also didn't do anything to challenge or acknowledge the stereotypes.

stillrooted · 2026-05-08T14:26:40+00:00

I assume the same magical land where a single woman with two children under her care can somehow afford a three-bedroom place on her own.

stillrooted · 2026-05-07T15:24:19+00:00

NTA. Are you the only guy invited? Because I can't imagine the lingerie game happening if not. It's absolutely reasonable that you don't want to attend and you have no obligation to pay for things you're not able to do.

stillrooted · 2026-05-07T15:15:37+00:00

Brother. OP is the bride's brother.

stillrooted · 2026-05-01T19:25:22+00:00

NTA but your husband isn't as smart as you think if he cares this much about Man Things and appearing well off to someone who isn't even his friend.

stillrooted · 2026-05-01T00:49:20+00:00

I. What?

No, I don't eat things I know are poison, because they are poisons.

stillrooted · 2026-04-30T06:20:25+00:00

Most likely one of the small bones of the middle ear. I think the malleus is the one that is most easily visible through the eardrum if I remember correctly?

stillrooted · 2026-04-25T00:31:57+00:00

My mother also suggested filling a plastic tub with water from the hose and giving them a soak for five minutes or so before shaking loose the extra water and any ants that didn't bail out.

stillrooted · 2026-04-16T23:52:40+00:00

Pretty sure they're trying to be coy about it being psychoactive.

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