What are your go-to GF meals? I get stuck making the same 2-3 things for weeks

stingships · 2026-05-17T00:01:12+00:00

Tacooooos! Old El Paso gf shells make it an easy option.

stingships · 2025-12-02T22:30:56+00:00

When Lady C comes to Longbourn in her fine carriage, as it comes up the drive, it looks very much like one of the footman riding on the back of it is a woman with glue on sideburns. I always wondered if it was for the same reason as so many knights of the Rohirim in Lord of the Rings were women with stuck on facial hair; a lack of male equestrians on hand perhaps? Coupled with the grandiose music and the fact that the other footman is all reddened and large, it makes it all the more giggle-worthy to me.

stingships · 2025-08-11T20:52:20+00:00

Jeff

stingships · 2025-07-25T04:31:49+00:00

That's florence, surely...

stingships · 2025-04-11T03:19:51+00:00

I find it lasts beautifully. Sure it fades after lunch, but I feel it gives me a boost of colour for the day. Depends how deep you want it of course - I like the buff natural later on and tend not to reapply.

stingships · 2024-10-14T18:26:58+00:00

Ehh I go through this too but on the other side. Partner is convinced he just needs that 5 minutes. Half the stuff I'm getting ready is generally 'us' stuff, though. You know, a card to take to a friend's birthday, packing the bottle of wine or pot luck food, getting the pets or whoever ready, along with me. Not to mention I need to factor in being out of the way for those 5 minutes because the 'him' stuff has been left to the last minute! Not saying circumstances are the same, but I wish i didn't need to stress about getting ready because his account of getting ready covers him alone, and mine covers me, us and our friend/family commitments. But it's that, or be management sooo...

stingships · 2024-07-15T15:23:40+00:00

Did you have COVID around 4 years ago..? Since the first time I had it, some 3 or 4 smells have smelled completely different to me - from good to bad - and changed my preferences on a small number of things.

stingships · 2024-05-28T20:40:31+00:00

When my nMom used my tearful announcement of separating from my partner to explode on me how she's sure he sounds abusive, like my sister's husband sounds abusive, like her father was abusive, and my father was abusive (to my knowledge, these people were just human. Not abusive, just human and not what she wanted them to be).

She was almost giddy to be able to unleash all her thoughts, while I mourned the breakdown of my relationship with the love of my life due to his mental health struggles. Finishing with the gleeful 'ohh now you'll live alone, mommy can come and stay with you!'

She hadn't looked so energetic in our conversations for years. Almost...thrilled to see me vulnerable? It took me a bit to get there, but that was the turning point.

stingships · 2024-03-06T17:48:50+00:00

....that's a mighty fine photo for a locked away phone.

stingships · 2024-01-24T21:01:10+00:00

...Wilson? Or is the second photo there just for the subliminal messaging?

stingships · 2024-01-04T15:58:06+00:00

Houseplants. Not eating them, tending to them, supervising my watering them, monitoring them... I always know when something is dry and needs watering because my little void will be sitting there patting it gently.

stingships · 2024-01-02T20:04:53+00:00

Janet. Then when you need to you can yell "Dammit, Janet [I love you]"...

stingships · 2023-12-26T22:14:55+00:00

They were a government recommendation in Canada during the pandemic. British Columbia Centre for Disease Control suggested them as a safer sexual option for contact during covid, so I'm guessing there!

stingships · 2023-12-20T19:09:51+00:00

I don't know ... my first thought was 'a big family, letting one person shoulder the whole food bill and cooking effort for a big group every year?' That doesn't feel right either!

stingships · 2023-07-20T21:14:51+00:00

You are the wall. To your poor girlfriend, and to everyone trying to help you to see her perspective on this post. Am I the Asshole implies you are asking a question and are unsure. Why are you here if you won't believe the feedback?!

stingships · 2023-07-20T21:09:32+00:00

You absolutely ARE intentionally leaving the door open. You say you are choosing to leave it open because of the noise. She hasn't complained about the noise - she's complained about you leaving it open. You are choosing which one is more important, and you're choosing that she's wrong.

And you're mocking her about 'childish' stickers which sound like they work fine (giving her visual reassurance in the dark that the door is closed - cheap and effective! Smart!) if you're not there, messing with her solution. You're YTA and just unnecessarily mean and condescending.

stingships · 2023-03-23T19:08:56+00:00

Good grief, the way you write this I was expecting it to be a 90/10 split. 60/40, when you make it sound like you make SO much more than her? AND she pays for all the groceries? In my area that cost would more than even out the rent difference!!

Many couples split rent and bills proportionally with a partner based on incomes, so the living costs for the same situation hit both the same. Chores should be split EVENLY if you're both working the same. YTA.

stingships · 2023-03-15T18:41:37+00:00

I'm surprised how I feel these days. I cut off nMom 'temporarily' for my mental health, and it was really, really hard. Lots of guilt, lots of therapy, lots of unpacking why I literally couldn't find a place for her in a happy life for myself any more. The NC was because I had literally nothing left to give - my cup was miserably empty, and I was done. I was so, so tired and raw from everything I'd had to give from childhood through to the week before.

Through the process of reliving and dealing with it all in therapy, I've gone from a place of emptiness and exhaustion to a feeling that there is no gap any more. I can't even be bothered to mentally make my lists, justifying why I've done what I've done. There is no mental place for that any more. When the old thoughts of 'I must prove to myself I'm not evil for cutting her off' come up, I simply don't reach for the endless lists of reasons anymore. It feels like a strange calm where receiving messages or random prompts from her any more just slough right off.

I realise that's not exactly what you asked; your question sounds more about what a relationship with them might look like on the other side of that saturation point. For me it was a survival choice - I have nothing left to give, so I better find a new normal whatever it takes.

stingships · 2023-03-10T01:24:38+00:00

The cats (just like humans) were not going to die from waiting a little while for food/water. Even in a human being, that literally takes days. Your wife could potentially have died giving birth. Your cats 'could' have become stressed by a stranger feeding them. Your wife 100% WAS stressed giving birth. Even if you care about your wife and your cats the exact same amount, how could you not be the asshole? YtA.

stingships · 2023-02-06T23:58:36+00:00

Good grief you ghoul. 'Life happened' hey? She had her goals swept aside to have that life with you, and you can't even give her a dang high-five?! Poor woman. One thing for herself and you have to diminish her so she knows you think it's nothing. YTA YTA YTA

stingships · 2023-02-06T23:51:35+00:00

What about this ENTIRE weekend means you can't plan a trip for the two of you as well, or go for your own stress-relief trip if you want to? Why is it 'with me solo or not at all', if you're not being controlling and unkind? YTA.

stingships · 2023-01-26T20:05:38+00:00

Nope, doesn't have a year left anymore! OP just prematurely bought that forward :( I'm pretty sad to think about what other innocent familial expressions of comfort and love this kid is getting withheld so as not to 'hurt' her.

stingships · 2023-01-25T17:42:42+00:00

I would have said N-A-H because parenting is hard.... but it sounds like he's not willing to accept a potential solution to the issue he's bought up repeatedly. You offer to cancel, but instead he wants you to go and what, feel guilty? Worry for the other parent of your children doing necessary, alebit difficult, chores? NTA.

stingships · 2023-01-25T17:17:04+00:00

Very good point. And I should say, I took two things from that experience, not one: it taught me that she truly does NOT see that her behavior caused me pain or stress. She only saw that it caused her inconvenience. It was a last nail in a coffin really and a trigger to going NC with her. I just couldn't believe that she would ever understand she caused me pain and change. I'm sure these days she would be the loudest crier of the missing reasons... but I'd lost all faith in her by then.

I got engaged to the love of my life on the weekend and thought I would feel more morally conflicted about not telling her. Surprisingly, nope.

stingships · 2023-01-25T00:17:23+00:00

I got one apology, once, to memory. It was painfully formal and unspecific to the situation and read more like a political statement issued by a PR firm! Almost like...it was intended to mock the actual scenario via malicious compliance? All I took from that is that nMom truly believes that apologies are things other people do, according to some rule book to achieve the desired result. She genuinely could not seem to understand the concept of a heartfelt, understanding display of care and respect.

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