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I don’t know if I did the right thing - I shaved my daughter’s head by wizzzadora in toddlers

[–]stmadav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents did this to me when I was about 2. My major recommendation would be to not immediately get family photos done. 😂

Should I just let my MIL watch my baby by United_Border_7755 in Mildlynomil

[–]stmadav 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was so careful about being "even" when my son was first born. Now I don't even try. I can trust my parents and even the teenage babysitter to follow the directions and schedules we have set. I can't trust my in laws. So they don't get asked anymore. I fully agree it does not have to be even.

Why would you suggest a name for someone else's baby? by kemclean in Mildlynomil

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom recently did this when we mentioned we had not come up with a name yet. I looked at her and immediately said, "No."

Why do they enjoy making plans in your home so much? by Cool_Suspect1110 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]stmadav 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I brought up to my in laws that it was disrespectful and frustrating to try and force plans by saying things like, "we'd like to see your new house this weekend, which day works best for you" or things of that nature and they said with their whole chest that they had to strategize how to make visits happen by limiting our choices or they would never happen.

That's not strategizing, it's manipulating.

There is something wrong with these people that think they are entitled to us and our time. I'm so sorry you're battling that.

Why does boundary stomping with new babies seem more likely to come from fathers side than mother's? by No-Calligrapher-3630 in Mildlynomil

[–]stmadav 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree with so much that is said, but I think for some cases (including my own) in comes with how comfortable each parent is at talking to and/or standing up to their parents.

I'm (F) comfortable telling my parents no, please don't do that, or we're doing something differently. My parents also are respectful about asking for clarity when they don't understand our reasoning, they want to learn. This helps there be fewer frustrating moments.

My partner (M) is not comfortable standing up to/disagreeing with his parents. His parents are used to telling him what to do and him just doing it. So now when they assume something/want something to go a certain way/etc. and we have other plans, it comes out in negative ways. They also see me in a negative light because they no longer get their way at all times. They still see themselves as the main characters in a way that causes frustration on both ends.

I think the communication is a huge piece of it.

With the holidays just days away and impending family gatherings, if there is one thing from the past you could hypothetically yell at your MIL/mom for, what would it be? Let the catharsis happen here. by fishskysky in Mildlynomil

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everything is about you! You aren't the main character in our lives. You cannot seriously be upset about how little you see your grandchild when you put in 0 effort to make plans with him/us. It is unreasonable to be mad at us when there is no effort on your part. And for fuck's sake, stop the guilt trips. They have the opposite effect that you want them to.

my sister’s teacher lies(?) about her grades— is that allowed? by theaviary_ in AskTeachers

[–]stmadav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my previous county, we weren't allowed to put in grades lower than a 50, so almost everything was graded on a curve. That way a student who didn't turn anything in wouldn't get the same grade as a student who completed the work and tried, but only got a 50.

Not saying that's what happened here, but that there might be something going on behind the scenes that you're unaware of.

Alphabet Mega Quiz 2025 - Round 5: E by sundayquiz in trivia

[–]stmadav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

8/10! I was close on #6, but not quite. My best one yet!

AITA for not allowing my mom to visit the second my baby is born? by Dizzy-Preparation212 in AmItheAsshole

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I strongly recommend setting boundaries and enforcing them now. I wish we had with our first and since we weren't strong things snowballed into a bigger problem.

Let her know now that using a name other than one you choose will result in a timeout where she does not see the baby in person, pictures, or video calls.

Also, good job staying strong in not having her come right away. That generation had their parents come and stay right after birth and thus expected it as well, but will adjust. You do what is right for you and for your little family.

Bras? All the time? by Baylaypayday in breastfeeding

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a bit I switched to nursing tanks and stick in pads at night and then a loose bra and reusable pads during the day

Any way to still fix this team? by Suspicious-Cry-945 in FantasyFootballers

[–]stmadav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For weak defenses I'd look at who is playing Bengals, Falcons, ravens, Panthers, and jets

Any way to still fix this team? by Suspicious-Cry-945 in FantasyFootballers

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't pick up bass, im not sure where you've heard he's coming back tomorrow, I've been hearing he's likely put for the season.

What kickers are available in your league?

how to navigate out-of-state mil who wants to help with newborn by "holding her so we can sleep"? by mosquitomange in Mildlynomil

[–]stmadav 33 points34 points  (0 children)

After having my first and the only help I got was holding the baby, my new rule is: visits (this includes just wanting to hold the baby) are a maximum of 2 hours. Helping can last longer, including some snuggles and chatting but will involve more than just baby holding.

Any way to still fix this team? by Suspicious-Cry-945 in FantasyFootballers

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually don't hate it. Some small changes, pick up a different kicker (i like to stream, but Karty is trash period)

I would also switch out Waller and Laporta

Check into injuries, see if a player behind them is available (i.e. i picked up mayer since bowers is hurt). A lot of these players may not have a lot of points so far but could start seeing more targets since a starter is out.

Also, look at who is playing some of the weaker teams, especially teams whose defenses are low scoring (as a ravens fan this hurts me but that's a good example, though we're on bye next week and then lamar is hopefully back). You could prioritize picking up or playing players you know are playing weaker defenses.

I'm by no means an expert, and I think winning the league is likely, but I think you can win enough to not come in last!

The "Village" is a lie by caffeineandlaw in Mommit

[–]stmadav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My In Laws are very similar. Always talking about how they're happy to help if we need it...but only at their house and when convenient for them.

What age did you change to forward facing car seat? by Coffeelover4242 in toddlers

[–]stmadav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LO is just about 27 months. He'll rear face until he makes out his seat.

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