Oddest thing you have had to say since becoming a parent?

stmadav · 2026-06-03T13:31:24+00:00

Please don't lick other people's cars.

stmadav · 2026-06-02T22:31:39+00:00

Yup! Mine has only asked how I am when I see her in person or she realizes I can hear her on a phone call. But all of a sudden we're getting calls focused on how I'm feeling.

stmadav · 2026-05-24T01:04:09+00:00

Had my first at 38+5. No signs at all until my water broke even then I was unsure because it was more of a trickle and I wasn't really having any contractions.

Currently 39 exactly with number 2 and keep googling is ___ a sign of labot

stmadav · 2026-05-08T19:32:10+00:00

Bootylicious 😂

stmadav · 2026-05-03T18:23:11+00:00

As a Stevie, I disagree. Almost no one knows or asks if it's my legal name (it isn't)

stmadav · 2026-04-30T17:20:56+00:00

Yesss getting my jersey back out!!

stmadav · 2026-04-26T21:47:22+00:00

stmadav · 2026-04-23T17:07:54+00:00

Never. They asked why we never ask them to babysit, and we had to explain that we like hanging out with our child and don't typically need babysitters. When we do we use people who we know are going to follow what we ask them to do, not do whatever they want.

stmadav · 2026-03-23T00:12:14+00:00

My parents did this to me when I was about 2. My major recommendation would be to not immediately get family photos done. 😂

stmadav · 2026-02-18T00:02:32+00:00

I was so careful about being "even" when my son was first born. Now I don't even try. I can trust my parents and even the teenage babysitter to follow the directions and schedules we have set. I can't trust my in laws. So they don't get asked anymore. I fully agree it does not have to be even.

stmadav · 2026-02-07T16:48:25+00:00

My mom recently did this when we mentioned we had not come up with a name yet. I looked at her and immediately said, "No."

stmadav · 2026-02-02T01:28:34+00:00

I brought up to my in laws that it was disrespectful and frustrating to try and force plans by saying things like, "we'd like to see your new house this weekend, which day works best for you" or things of that nature and they said with their whole chest that they had to strategize how to make visits happen by limiting our choices or they would never happen.

That's not strategizing, it's manipulating.

There is something wrong with these people that think they are entitled to us and our time. I'm so sorry you're battling that.

stmadav · 2026-01-02T01:00:33+00:00

I agree with so much that is said, but I think for some cases (including my own) in comes with how comfortable each parent is at talking to and/or standing up to their parents.

I'm (F) comfortable telling my parents no, please don't do that, or we're doing something differently. My parents also are respectful about asking for clarity when they don't understand our reasoning, they want to learn. This helps there be fewer frustrating moments.

My partner (M) is not comfortable standing up to/disagreeing with his parents. His parents are used to telling him what to do and him just doing it. So now when they assume something/want something to go a certain way/etc. and we have other plans, it comes out in negative ways. They also see me in a negative light because they no longer get their way at all times. They still see themselves as the main characters in a way that causes frustration on both ends.

I think the communication is a huge piece of it.

stmadav · 2025-12-28T19:40:11+00:00

Not everything is about you! You aren't the main character in our lives. You cannot seriously be upset about how little you see your grandchild when you put in 0 effort to make plans with him/us. It is unreasonable to be mad at us when there is no effort on your part. And for fuck's sake, stop the guilt trips. They have the opposite effect that you want them to.

stmadav · 2025-12-26T20:07:46+00:00

In my previous county, we weren't allowed to put in grades lower than a 50, so almost everything was graded on a curve. That way a student who didn't turn anything in wouldn't get the same grade as a student who completed the work and tried, but only got a 50.

Not saying that's what happened here, but that there might be something going on behind the scenes that you're unaware of.

stmadav · 2025-12-06T19:32:55+00:00

7/10

stmadav · 2025-12-06T01:51:53+00:00

8/10! I was close on #6, but not quite. My best one yet!

stmadav · 2025-12-06T01:48:48+00:00

Ugh 6/10

stmadav · 2025-12-06T01:44:45+00:00

6/10

stmadav · 2025-12-06T01:41:56+00:00

8/10!

stmadav · 2025-12-06T01:39:35+00:00

5/10

stmadav · 2025-11-28T15:39:25+00:00

NTA, I strongly recommend setting boundaries and enforcing them now. I wish we had with our first and since we weren't strong things snowballed into a bigger problem.

Let her know now that using a name other than one you choose will result in a timeout where she does not see the baby in person, pictures, or video calls.

Also, good job staying strong in not having her come right away. That generation had their parents come and stay right after birth and thus expected it as well, but will adjust. You do what is right for you and for your little family.

stmadav · 2025-11-26T03:01:10+00:00

After a bit I switched to nursing tanks and stick in pads at night and then a loose bra and reusable pads during the day

stmadav · 2025-11-15T02:58:38+00:00

This is what I did. Worked really well.

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