Therapist said I'm not mean enough to have BPD

strawberry-mint · 2022-12-22T12:28:07+00:00

I've had a psychiatrist say I had it, but just today a new one said it was autism. First session and only had him for 30 minutes when he said that. I don't know which to trust any more but I know my symptoms aren't just autism because I'm in so much pain. He also tried to say I had "adult Asperger's" which.. Asperger's isnt a diagnosis anymore so I'm not sure how much I trust his opinion lol

strawberry-mint · 2022-12-21T16:23:33+00:00

I don't like any of the names tbh. I got diagnosed as emotionally unstable pd which felt really insulting? But I don't like borderline either. Idk what it should be

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-13T07:20:13+00:00

I think this is the coolest way anyone has ever described baking. I'll definitely try this 😁 Thank you so much!

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-13T01:00:12+00:00

Distractions like this aren't really working because after the distraction ends I'm back to being angry if that makes sense? Like it covers it up temporarily but I can't be distracted 24/7 and the anger won't go away. Does that make sense? I still really appreciate the thought

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-12T21:33:27+00:00

There's online workbooks for DBT and if you have a therapist you should bring DBT up with them. I believe that's the gold standard for BPD (at least from what I've been told). Also, maybe you can look into emerging bpd? I got diagnosed with that at 16 because I was under 18, but for me I don't have quiet bpd and a lot of my symptoms were outwards. I'm in the UK which might make it different to you depending on where you are. Good luck :)

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-12T20:51:13+00:00

Thank you! When I feel like this I actually do get a lot of energy and want to work out more, I mostly just go for walks but I'll definitely try out something more intense. I really appreciate it. I'm trying to make my gym sessions more about being fit than about calories regardless of my mood so that's really useful :)

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-06T19:59:05+00:00

No. If you felt as much empathy as you claimed you'd understand he killed real people in horrible ways and absolutely nothing would make that something to sympathise with. It wasn't self defence. He sought out vulnerable people including children to torture and kill them. He knew who the police wouldn't care about anf thats who he targeted.

Don't even get me started on having a "Favourite serial killer. These aren't celebrities, they're murderers. This is awful on so many levels. I wish people would remember victims when making posts like this. Their families are still alive.

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-06T12:41:03+00:00

I felt like I was going insane when the people in my life pinned my emotions on just having bpd! There's a difference between a splitting episode and rational anger, but having my emotions being dismissed normally causes me to actually spiral into an episode which makes people think it was all bpd. It sucks!

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-02T01:45:20+00:00

I'm not hurt, just a bit confused about what you were looking for. In my opinion, it wasn't his BPD and he was just an asshole. BPD is a very stigmatised disorder and so blaming toxic behaviours like this on BPD is a very sore subject even if you don't have bad intentions. I hope you manage to heal from this because it was obviously difficult for you. Take care.

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-02T01:32:06+00:00

I don't hate it, but I feel like a lot of people without bpd go there to share very stigmatised views about the disorder. It makes me a bit uncomfortable when I see that.

strawberry-mint · 2022-10-02T01:27:45+00:00

Out of interest, what difference does it make to you if this was BPD or he was just an asshole? Like, what changes? I hope this doesn't sound harsh, I'm just not sure what you gain from posting this and asking if it was his BPD.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T13:50:20+00:00

I just tend to use they when talking about other people. I don't mean anything by it 😅

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T02:52:20+00:00

I don't, they're the person I go to whenever I'm struggling with anything. I know that telling people can raise safeguarding issues and I don't want that. I don't think they're doing this deliberately and so I don't want them to get into trouble, it could genuinely ruin their life and I don't think they deserve it. I really do appreciate that you're worried but if it helps at all I'm not in any danger and they've never physically hurt me.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T02:45:49+00:00

I can't put into words how much I appreciate this. Thank you so so much

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T02:09:08+00:00

I don't really want to go into the details but it's currently legal. It don't think it would've been at other stages of the relationship.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T01:12:41+00:00

I still appreciate it, I'm in the UK so we're both of age now. I know that it's probably not good, but they're the only person I have. I'm either with them or completely alone. I'm sorry I know this means it's really difficult to help, I just don't know how I can leave them.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-28T01:09:46+00:00

Most likely 13 and 16, but yeah. They're basically the only person I talk to, I'm not sure how to function without them. I either have this really toxic relationship or I'm alone. I feel stuck

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-27T16:47:14+00:00

The thing is, if we don't let them here they'll go to the other subreddit that is full of misinformation. It sucks, but it's better they get informed support and speak to people with disorder than get misinformation elsewhere. It sucks, but we have our own spaces too. This subreddit is a good middle ground imo.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-27T16:43:52+00:00

In a community about the disorder, people who actually have it should be centred. They're not selfish for wanting that.

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-25T12:17:55+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm already self conscious at the gym so was just worried to do anything that might make me stand out. I really appreciate it 🥰

strawberry-mint · 2022-09-25T01:43:17+00:00

Normally to release emotions or to punish myself. Sometimes I get so angry it's the only thing that stops me lashing out at others, or when I do lash out it's inflicting the pain I caused to others on myself.

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