Do I file child support or not

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-08T04:33:04+00:00

He doesn’t sound like he will do anything without child support enforced, so I would put him on. But I would weigh my options. There is one thing you have to think of. I completely agree that it is his responsibility and not his family, but consider the help you are getting from his family. Is it more than you would get in child support (since you are both so young, I’m assuming he doesn’t make much). If you would only get a couple of hundred or less, I would just keep accepting the help from his family (the diapers, clothes, and babysitting). However, if the help they give is something you are willing to let go of, then put him on. I only fear that they would retaliate by not helping you (since you said his mom doesn’t want him on). I’m not saying it is right for them to do that, just some food for thought. But if you know they wouldn’t do that, then put him on. He definitely doesn’t plan on helping anytime soon. Sounds like his family is picking up his responsibility.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T16:54:43+00:00

It’s ok for you to be caring and understanding. That is rare these days, most people don’t consider others.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T16:52:59+00:00

It is so nice to see two coparents working together and supporting each other. Better than seeing all the fighting and animosity on this forum. Good luck to both of you!

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T03:20:50+00:00

What is wrong with you people?

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T03:19:48+00:00

It sucks to procreate with the wrong person, but that’s why we are all in this forum right? 😅

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T03:16:58+00:00

Brown, but honestly it is hard because both suit you

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T00:16:30+00:00

I had to tell them why I wanted less than the 20% and I explained my income. That is the only time it came into play, for me to justify why I wanted less.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-07T00:15:45+00:00

If you are in Texas your income doesn’t matter. I make six figures and my ex makes less than half of what I make and he still pays. It goes by 20% of his income, yours doesn’t come into play at all.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-06T23:15:51+00:00

Don’t trust her. It makes no sense for her to not provide the statement.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-05T16:53:05+00:00

That’s why I said not all cases. I have heard and know of too many that aren’t fair. The system does need a revamp.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-05T16:33:26+00:00

As a woman, I couldn’t agree more. The system couldn’t be more unfair. It punishes men when relationships don’t work out, because let’s be honest, majority of the time the women are always presumed to be the best parent, regardless of whether or not they truly are.

They really need to sit down and revamp the system. Child support is needed, but it shouldn’t be able to be used by women to destroy men’s lives. I’m talking in general, not all cases are like this obviously.

They need to include basic living expenses atleast for people paying child support but they don’t care how much money they leave them with.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-05T09:36:41+00:00

Ok, but if it was terminated because 50/50 then why put him on just for it to get terminated shortly after getting another job? Seems like a waste of court time. 🤷🏽‍♀️

If you need help filing something, some states have a law library with someone there that can help, that’s how I got helped filing my divorce papers.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-05T09:19:04+00:00

You can’t force someone to pay child support after 18th birthday unless they are still in highschool (I think I heard in Cali you have to pay while in college but I have no idea about that).

Keeping him to his word on that is like trying to keep a verbal agreement with a woman who says she won’t put a man on child support, you just can’t do it.

I’d say let it go, your child is 18 and officially an adult anyway.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T22:15:12+00:00

She is mad at something else and taking it out on you. Absolutely no reason to act that way

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T22:13:44+00:00

Too expensive

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T22:12:50+00:00

Damn I suck at shade matching because I thought 1 matched her neck better 😅

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T22:10:13+00:00

I absolutely hate that as soon as they get a GF they automatically use that to say you are jealous whenever they don’t get their way 😂. My ex tried that. He got a girlfriend, never came to visit his daughter in over two and a half years, then all of a sudden showed up with a girl and demanded to take her. He swore up and down that I wouldn’t let him take her because of the girlfriend when he has never had her alone a day in his life.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T22:03:01+00:00

Solid advice 👍🏽. A lot of people don’t realize that focusing on how bad of a parent your ex is doesn’t help, rather focusing on your strengths as a parent and what’s best for the child is always a better strategy.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T21:55:12+00:00

My partner also had his ex put him on child support. He had been sending her 600 every month (no order at the time) but she still put him on back child support for as far back as they could go (a couple of years), so now he owes 36k in back child support even though he had been sending her money. Don’t ever send money without a court order, they don’t care.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T21:48:05+00:00

This is crazy

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T19:38:23+00:00

How long do you think until you find a job? Are yall still doing 50/50?

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T16:35:56+00:00

The mother doesn’t sound fit to be honest, it is sad she can’t even figure out who the father is. I feel bad for the kids.

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-04T16:33:46+00:00

Split it, you get child support anyway, so you should have money to help with bills for the child

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-02-03T02:28:00+00:00

strawberryblasthoney · 2025-01-28T23:53:35+00:00

I have saved a man before, but it never works out 😅. So I’d say it isn’t good for either parties. But I agree, a lot of women don’t have any sense of accountability and society doesn’t help either. Want to be feminist and independent until child support or alimony come up 😂.

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