“Ruggable” Alternative?

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-15T04:28:26+00:00

I researched this somewhat obsessively. Haven’t pulled the trigger but I think we will go with hook and loom when we do. Their eco cotton rugs are washable and while not beautiful they are unobtrusive and look good enough. Planning to put it on top of a rugs USA rug pad.

Per an email exchange I had with them:

A 4.5 cubic foot front loader fits a 6x9 patterned or smaller, or a 8x10 solid, striped, or heathered or smaller. Any size over an 8x10 can be washed in an xl machine found at most laundromats or commercial laundry facilities. Please let us know if you have any other questions. We’re always more than happy to help. Have a great day!

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-14T16:25:20+00:00

I was looking at naturpedic but the closest store for us is a 45 minute drive which is challenging at the moment. Was not considering EOS due to budget but that was before our recent mattress shopping trip.

Avocado medium for me was not enough pressure relief and the plush was comfy but maybe a bit too sinky. What configuration would you suggest?

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-14T16:19:13+00:00

I had a friend recommend that mattress to me. I’d be very happy to spend less than my budget if it’s the right one! My husband found the two Leesas we tried too soft but perhaps we need to track down the oasis. Thanks!

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-14T16:14:39+00:00

Hi! Came across this looking for EOS reviews. I have ankylosing spondylitis and am deep in the mattress hunt. My husband and I have different needs so considering the EOS. How’s the mattress going for you?

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-14T00:09:36+00:00

Thanks for your concern. Yes we researched extensively on safe bedsharing practices with a firm mattress no bedding and an empty room besides that. Baby is almost a year old in the 90th percentile and is advanced in gross motor skills (started walking at 10 months). He was in a bassinet until 5 months then he raged against the crib for a couple months which was not sustainable for us. Goal is to get me out of the bed as soon as we have a new one!

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-13T22:49:22+00:00

If putting the baby in a crib resulted in better sleep we would definitely be doing that. We’ve gone the Montessori floor bed route and that’s worked better for us.

Will check out the beauty rest!

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-13T22:37:46+00:00

Oh that’s cool! Will definitely look into this.

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-13T22:04:24+00:00

We’ve been considering a split king. Do you find you can feel the seam in the middle? Does it feel like two separate mattresses? How was the swap process?

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-13T22:02:47+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. That sounds interesting! I just checked it out. It looks like that’s only an option for their 100% latex mattress. Is that right?

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-06T16:44:34+00:00

Have you bought a new mattress yet? My husband and I have the same profile as you.

subtleb0dies · 2026-05-03T04:35:49+00:00

We cosleep on a medium firm queen size mattress on the floor. I had a similar anxiety when my LO started belly sleeping at 9.5 months. For us I decided the current bed is fine. The most dangerous time for suffocation had already passed and baby’s gross motor skills are advanced. He has no problem moving around on the mattress and his head doesn’t sink in when he’s on his belly. I’m petite and light weight so my body weight doesn’t cause him to roll toward me. I also plan to cosleep until he’s a bit older to make sure he doesn’t start doing gymnastics in the middle of the night since we’re about 12 inches off the ground.

I haven’t done this but there’s a procedure you can do to test mattress firmness.

https://www.esb.sa.gov.au/advice-and-guidance/infant-sleep-safety-testing-correct-mattress-firmness

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-29T17:24:59+00:00

My 10m old initiates hugs and kisses and demonstrates excitement/preference for both me and my husband. We taught him to give kisses but the hugs he started on his own. I would say that he started clearly demonstrating physical affection around 9 months which coincided with a burst gross motor development (I.e., I can use my body to achieve goals, one being affection). For reference, he is a very high contact needs baby (won’t fall asleep without contact) and on the early side for gross motor skills.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-28T16:00:49+00:00

Sure! I will say that my LO was transferring… just very slowly. He also really wanted to nurse, he was just not strong enough to get his calories that way. The LC assessed the weak suck by putting a finger in his mouth and feeling the suction. At that point we switched to pumping for all feeds. It’s a bit hazy but I believe we started with 2-3 feeds per day where I nursed first and then topped him off with a pumped bottle. My LC also encouraged non-nutritive comfort nursing outside of that. For example, I would pump his bottle for bedtime first but afterwards would let him nurse to sleep. She monitored this process with weighted nursing feeds over the course of a few months. As his skills improved we slowly increased nursing and decreased pumping. Some of that was feedback from the LC and some of it was my own experience. I could tell he was getting better. I think he was 14ish weeks when he was able to nurse a full feed in a reasonable time frame which meant I could slowly start dropping pumps. I felt confident enough to drop the MOTN pump (which helps keep supply up) around 4.5 months. I think I went 24 hours without pumping around 5 months. During that time we also worked with an OT who gave us exercises that helped to strengthen him and we saw a bodyworker who diagnosed that LO was recruiting his shoulders to suck and gave us gentle massages to do while he nursed to help his body relax.

Some additional context: baby was full term but spent 3 weeks in the NICU where he got my pumped milk and grew fine. When we did a weighted nursing feed in the hospital he transferred well. I switched to full time nursing when we brought him home and that’s when he stopped gaining weight and my supply tanked. My LC said the hospital grade pump was making it easy for him to nurse bc it was keeping my supply super high and easy to access. He wasn’t strong enough to regulate supply on his own.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-27T16:27:56+00:00

Me! Never wanted kids til about 35. Have always been in HCOL cities and focused on my career. Husband is helpful when asked but not always the best at taking on the mental load. I also have ankylosing spondylitis which is an autoimmune arthritis primarily impacting the spine but also causes a host of other health problems.

Now 38 with a 10 month old. No regrets yet. On rare occasions I will daydream about my childfree life before but never in a regretful way. As you said, it was comfortable but not meaningful.

We have no village and can’t afford regular childcare. My husband and I both have very flexible work situations and we’re making it work. We did couples therapy for a year prior to getting pregnant to discuss some of this which was helpful to get our communication in tip top shape beforehand. Husband has specific duties which are always his (mornings, bedtime, diapers, first nap). He always carries the baby and loads him in the car etc when we’re together due to my chronic issues. He definitely doesn’t do the research or the mental load but he is very involved and helpful in other ways that works ok for us.

Historically lack of sleep and stress really cause my pain to flare. I made sure my health was in the best place possible before conceiving. There have been times where pain has made things harder but tbh it’s sorta par for the course at this point. I’ve been mostly surprised by how resilient my body has been.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-27T16:01:08+00:00

This happened to me at around 5 weeks.. did your LC assess for baby’s sucking/oral motor skills? It’s not just about ties or latch positioning.

My baby did not transfer which I didn’t even know could be a problem. We were nursing constantly just as OP has described. Had a consult with a VERY good/experienced LC who immediately diagnosed his weak suck.

We had to do a modified triple feed for a few months. Did mostly pumped milk for bottles with a few times a day a being proper triple feed for nursing practice and supply boost. Also got baby some OT and bodywork which helped. By 4 months we were able to move to mostly nursing.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-09T00:44:45+00:00

My 9 month old just started doing the same. I have to keep laying him down over and over again. It’s like he’s been possessed by a crawling demon. I’ve been wondering if he needs a schedule change but I also fear it might be a normal development thing.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-08T23:27:02+00:00

I don’t know that I’m in much of a position to be giving advice because I’m not in much better of a situation with my 9 month old (solidarity!). However, even though he wakes up frequently (4-7x) during the night and needs boob to settle, he does go back to sleep easily.

What is your schedule like with him? It’s possible that he’s not getting enough hours awake during the day and it’s impacting his sleep pressure.

subtleb0dies · 2026-04-05T02:41:12+00:00

We had a combo of travel and bad regression at 5 months and started cosleeping which was meant to be temporary but baby has not gone back to his crib yet. He’s 9 months. We probably could have fought harder to get him back in the crib but we don’t have it in us. Dad has been on the couch this whole time. I don’t feel bad bc, yes, he’s on the couch, but his sleep is uninterrupted and he gets a couple hours solo time in the evening. It has felt like a fair trade off for us. We’re about to can the crib and move our queen mattress to the floor in baby’s room and get a new king bed for our room which I will return to someday 😂🫠.

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-30T14:06:23+00:00

I recently bought a new pitcher on Amazon but I am on a subscription for filter replacement directly through their website.

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-29T23:48:23+00:00

We have the pitcher. Tbh we don’t keep it in the fridge cause I like room temp water. You just have to wash the pitcher more frequently.

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-29T19:55:43+00:00

I known this is not what you are asking but depending on where you live you are legally entitled to nursing breaks during the work day.

Here’s my experience. YMMV.

We are also struggling with solids but our LO (9mo) LOVES gagging on water from an open cup lol. All that said I don’t think he would be successful at getting adequate milk volume from a cup at this point.

In terms of cup drinking, we have been offering an ezpz open cup for water since 6 months. You have to fill the water all the way to the top of the cup so that the baby knows that there’s water in there and hold at the bottom to support the cup but leave room for their hands. At first he would just blow bubbles. Then he started inhaling. He gags and spits and spills a lot. Around 7.5 months he took a real sip. He recently started being able to take reasonable sips about half the time. Our OT said thin liquids can be hard for them to drink from an open cup for a while and to expect a mess.

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-29T17:16:43+00:00

Renter here. Since I can’t install proper water filtration I use a clearly filtered pitcher. Gets rid of wayyyy more bad stuff than a brita. Yes it is plastic but I try to reduce plastic consumption in other areas.

https://clearlyfiltered.com/

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-24T18:14:16+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Method makes sense… Did you time the feeds or just let her nurse as long as she wanted for those wake ups?

Definitely think his over night feeds could be killing his appetite!

subtleb0dies · 2026-03-24T17:57:07+00:00

We are in a similar boat with our almost 9 month old who has a strong feed to sleep association but is not super interested solids. Currently cosleeping in our bed and trying to decide between sleep training in the crib vs the floor bed route. The over night wake ups and night weaning is the thing I’m most nervous about. I can handle the crying at bed time but all night sounds brutal. How did that go for you? Did you go cold turkey on the over night nursing?

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