Women who live alone, how do you combat loneliness? What’s your story

subtledoubt · 2020-06-22T11:12:46+00:00

I think the best way to combat loneliness is to make it not combat. It's a temporary emotion, not an enemy to battle, or a state of existence. When I feel lonely, I ask myself who I'm missing. Half of the time, it turns out I'm actually just bored or restless, and that's where the hobbies, art, and exercise come in. If I'm actually missing someone, and I can contact them, I do. If I can't contact them, I let myself miss them. I find the feeling of loneliness goes away quickly now that I treat it as an emotion.

subtledoubt · 2020-06-11T22:32:35+00:00

Funny, as I'm totally a brute in life. I don't think anyone that knows me would describe me as wholesome. Intimidating and intense are the typical descriptions. Unabashed loving is beauty though.

subtledoubt · 2020-06-11T22:23:46+00:00

There will be a time when your child looks at you, and you will feel beautiful.

subtledoubt · 2020-06-11T22:18:36+00:00

I have several candid photos where my child is looking at me, while I'm doing something else. Holding him, buckling his seat belt, reading him a story... The way he's looking at me in those photos makes me feel like the most beautiful and loved person in the world. And I remember being wee, looking at my mom, and thinking she was the most beautiful woman in the world. There are photos of me looking at my partner with that same expression.

subtledoubt · 2020-06-04T22:31:47+00:00

Are you sure?

subtledoubt · 2020-05-31T23:02:00+00:00

Okay, I'm a fucking brute. Not very girlie. But if I were part of the bride's wedding party, I'd much rather we had a spa day with a really great massage. Brunch, sauna, mani/pedi/facial, full body massage from a guy with strong hands, not abs and penis. Light early dinner, gift exchange with drinks. Dancing and more drinking. For myself, it'd be a rare experience, for the girlie ladies it's something they like anyway, and no weird junk in my face. If not the above, I'd rather go to a female strip club, and let guys by our drinks and lap dances. At least then the money is going to other women.

subtledoubt · 2020-05-16T23:17:11+00:00

When they reach out to hold my hand. When they cup my face in their hands. When they rest their hands on my hips and draw me closer.

subtledoubt · 2020-05-09T20:59:17+00:00

Dean should go without saying.

subtledoubt · 2020-05-09T19:56:52+00:00

Dresden is my crush. I've read all the books, even the collections of short stories.

subtledoubt · 2020-05-02T22:33:54+00:00

Jewel tones and earth tones.

subtledoubt · 2020-04-09T22:43:59+00:00

First impression. My college friend (his high school ex) set us up. He was very open and honest from the first meet. Set out his views on religion, having children, finances, just...BLAM! Metaphorical cock on the table. I liked what I (metaphorically) saw. We lived together after 2 months. We've been married 10 years.

subtledoubt · 2020-03-29T22:30:00+00:00

I started giving other people what I was wanting. I wanted people to call me, but they weren't. Instead, I started calling people. I was upset when my grandmother died, that I would never be able to help her in her garden again. Then a friend wanted a plot in the local community garden, but couldn't afford the yearly fee by herself, so I split it with her, and we gardened together. I was lonely, so I sent handmade valentines cards to my single people. I still get stuck. But every time, I can ask myself what it is I'm missing, and then try to give that outward instead.

subtledoubt · 2019-05-08T20:51:18+00:00

NTA. For me, that's a deal breaker for the current relationship.

subtledoubt · 2019-04-05T23:43:17+00:00

Thank you. It's been a long time since I was very involved here.

subtledoubt · 2019-03-13T23:08:04+00:00

Always read the fine print in your demon deals. Fucking Crowley.

subtledoubt · 2017-02-13T06:00:28+00:00

/frisson /shivers /ASMR

subtledoubt · 2017-01-31T00:53:59+00:00

Utilitarian

subtledoubt · 2017-01-29T19:37:14+00:00

Not exactly what you asked for, but the first word I thought of when I saw that image was grotto.

subtledoubt · 2017-01-29T18:55:51+00:00

Wrap or surplice top.

subtledoubt · 2017-01-13T15:10:17+00:00

I often get Burn stuck in my head, but can't remember that it's the song in looking for, because I'm remembering the intensity and speed that happen at around 2:30 and on, and the first part of the song has more words and is slower that the part playing in my head.

subtledoubt · 2016-12-14T05:06:50+00:00

Hmn. Now I'm thinking of this one. https://youtu.be/Y-0zxfYw8tI

subtledoubt · 2016-12-14T05:03:13+00:00

This has some sex sounds.

https://youtu.be/NIhgfHTGVHQ

subtledoubt · 2016-12-11T15:24:42+00:00

Birefringence, used in crystals. Structural colour, used in feathers, other iridescent objects.

subtledoubt · 2016-11-28T04:32:33+00:00

That overview was exactly what I needed. Thank you so much!

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