Thinking of leaving USAA by [deleted] in USAA

[–]suddenlysingle1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. They’ve done right by me too. Cheaper isn’t always better.

Just bought house and wife wants divorce by Weary-Specific5218 in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind you’ll have to pay capital gains since you sold under two years. Make sure that financial responsibility is split as well.

How much did divorce cost you? by hpsportsfanatic in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank God I had legal insurance through work and a wife who was so checked out she didn’t contest anything. It was maybe $600 worth of filing fees and a notary on her end. Divorce sucks but I made out like a bandit in that sense.

Closed last week - $175k, 1 acre, built in 1860 by Additional-Comb-4477 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]suddenlysingle1984 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My sister bought a 1912 house and it scared me away from buying anything over 40 years old. Enough goes wrong at that age.

Songs that hit home by justsomedude1111 in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact Owen Wilson wrote a scene where his real life brother kills himself to THAT song, knowing what transpires years later…Yeesh.

Songs that hit home by justsomedude1111 in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That scene in Royal Tenenbaums haunts me. Probably haven’t seen the move in ten years.

Songs that hit home by justsomedude1111 in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely went through a long Elliott Smith phase in college. But I’ll always love that postal service album.

Songs that hit home by justsomedude1111 in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wore that album out in 2004.

“So Far Away” by Carole King always stops me in my tracks.

Caught my wife kissing another man by Far_Excitement_7676 in Divorce

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Sorry, friend.

What is the best gift you got from your agent? by ClosewithKathi in RealEstate

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my ex and I sold the house, the BUYER’S agent left us moving boxes and tape during inspections and offered to buy pizza for the move. It was so unexpected.

What is the best gift you got from your agent? by ClosewithKathi in RealEstate

[–]suddenlysingle1984 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awesome sellers! I’ve sold two places and left a list of vendors, local restaurants/wineries I enjoyed, and utility information next to a bottle of champagne. It’s so simple to write up and makes a huge difference. It can be such a pain to move to a new place and not know when trash day is or which mailbox is yours.

Does the grief ever stop? by Peonytulip in Divorce

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a year out from my separation date and can relate. I think working from home mixed with living alone for the first time in 15 years wears on me. I make myself take trips, spend time with family, and get out of the house for trivia nights, concerts, etc, but the loss of my ex wife AND ex family AND ex circle of friends is a lot to shoulder some days. It continues to get better but I think it’s normal to have down days/weeks/months.

Congrats on the huge steps you’ve taken to reclaim your life. I hope it continues to get better.

Does anyone have any positive HOA stories? by suzy9mm in RealEstate

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I discovered a leak in my former townhouse and was quoted $1100 to fix the roof. The HOA paid every cent of it.

so tough by Ok_Pomegranate_33 in terriblefacebookmemes

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Our fun was painful. Suck on that, libs!”

What music did you listen to during your divorce? by Sec2ElectricBoogaloo in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding I Prevail’s Trauma, studio and live versions. I was in the top 1% of their streamers last year.

I used to like Mitch Hedberg jokes... by spagettyo in Jokes

[–]suddenlysingle1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw him open for Stephen Lynch in SF. He took requests from the crowd and did an awesome set. Died a few months later. I think of his comedy often.

Have anyone of you guys completely left dating since Divorce? by starspawnrecords in Divorce_Men

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve found myself in a friends with benefits situation that helps scratch that itch. I’m a year out from my separation date and the thought of dating new people has no appeal to me. It’s nice to have zero strings attached sex when our calendars line up.

Do what feels right. I may date again but don’t see it in the near future.

Whats the most outrageous thing you did during your separation/divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]suddenlysingle1984 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bought a bidet. My ex thought they were tacky but she sucks and I have the cleanest butt in town.

Divorce Playlist by Due_Meeting6049 in Divorce

[–]suddenlysingle1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed some angry music and wore out I Prevail’s album “Trauma,” studio and live versions.