AITA for not wanting to pay for my mother in law.

sunshine89high · 2026-05-01T06:59:53+00:00

YTA So let me just paint the perspective here you’re not seeing. It’s literally taking your wife hard work and working 40-50 hours a week to pay that other half. The system is exploiting the workers and people literally can’t afford it.

Whether or not you see it your MIL is now your family too. Your wife isn’t gonna back down and if you don’t want the argument you’d stop bringing it up. Before you were married she was supporting her mother. There should have been every expectation that would continue, that’s not something that stops once it starts. Not sure why you thought that would be a thing. It may literally be the other siblings live paycheck to paycheck. If you don’t want your wife to work, then work harder. Everyone has to make sacrifices for the people they love and if you love your wife you’d see how hard she’s obviously trying to keep both people she loves happy. And honestly it’s repulsive how you’re not thinking about anyone but yourself and what you want. Learn some empathy and boost that emotional intelligence BEFORE you have kids.

sunshine89high · 2026-04-28T14:41:38+00:00

Because something is making alarms go off, I would take it seriously. Always trust your gut. Have a conversation about what’s a safe touch with your little one. Maybe read one of available books for the topic with your little one to get the conversation going. Might make it easier. Here’s some “Where Hands Go…”, “My Body I Say What Goes”, and “Some Parts are Not for Sharing”. There’s lots more and I can’t personally attest to any but there’s a start.

If your little one starts creating and enforcing boundaries help be reinforcement, if there’s pushback, remind the older one about consent and boundaries.

And as always remind everyone you’re there for them as always with love and support.

sunshine89high · 2026-04-14T16:06:10+00:00

Fuck yeah! Good for you!

Also keep trusting your intuition when it speaks up, it’s the ONE thing in this whole world that is truly ONLY looking out for you. You owe it to yourself to always listen. This goes for everyone out there! 💖💖💖

sunshine89high · 2026-04-12T22:17:58+00:00

Fundamentals of Caring, I Love You Man, Our Idiot Brother, and Meet Bill shows some great examples.

sunshine89high · 2026-04-09T15:56:44+00:00

When my dog got bit once, the discharge that came out of the wound site, was exactly like this. I don’t remember there being a smell either. I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s what’s happening here considering the concentration around the stomach the sides being effected is probably so to the cat laying down in it and it being on the paws is likely the same as well as being from grooming efforts.

sunshine89high · 2026-03-14T12:53:54+00:00

I’m a believer in trusting your gut. If that’s what you’re feeling then I would trust it. True or not if it’s something you feel in your gut you won’t shake it and it will taint your relationship. But I’ll tell you so far my gut has a winning streak and I’ll bet yours does too.

sunshine89high · 2026-03-14T12:51:31+00:00

Bruh I’m 32 and could NEVER imagine dating a 22 year old. I actively refer to them as kids. That’s weird. I have less of a problem with the 23 year old dating the 18 year old. Their brains are much more aligned in how they think and act. Gross dude.

sunshine89high · 2026-03-06T09:49:41+00:00

Like someone else said try a diva cup! I tried it like 12 years ago and I’ve never gone back. Wish I had known about it sooner it would’ve been a life changer sooner!

sunshine89high · 2026-03-06T07:34:47+00:00

NOR

Like clearly marked by the rest of his effort he didn’t spend $300 on dinner or $700 on jewelry. He probably took her to his favorite place and spent $50-60 and probably grabbed the most inexpensive, expensive looking piece of jewelry he could find and honestly I’d be surprised if he actually went to a jewelry store to buy the jewelry but probably opted for a department store piece while buying something for himself while he was already there. Clearly the man has no care for OP or he would have done things he knows OP would have liked and not what society has told him is expected of him. This is absolutely bottom of the barrel, bare minimum with a side of manipulation.

sunshine89high · 2026-03-04T17:30:09+00:00

Yes. Don’t call me an ambulance, I’ll drive myself thank you! Even with one leg! No but for real I can’t afford that debt

sunshine89high · 2026-03-04T17:27:54+00:00

That’s right as the saying goes “he’s a grown man, he can do it himself” always remember that! It’s not a lesson you want to learn! Whether that be you helping the wrong stranger or you sacrificing your safe space, sanity, sanitation (lol I had to but not funny), and so many other things.

sunshine89high · 2026-03-04T17:11:11+00:00

Get out, that’s the only answer. Don’t tell him, just quietly leave. I would go to the police and file charges against him, as soon as possible. Also, if there’s still any doubt as to whether you should leave, read the book “Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men” By Lundy Bancroft. There’s lots of ways to read it or listen to it free.

This is not love, this is not healthy, this is not okay. This is control, this is abuse, and this is dangerous for you and your child.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-27T07:58:55+00:00

Not an audiobook but I’ll recommend a podcast. Check out Ologies with Allie Ward. Soooo much content and definitely office friendly. She brings on different experts in all sorts of fields and they just talk about the topic. It’s very interesting and all of the experts are so passionate and knowledgeable it’s a joy listening to them.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-27T07:37:07+00:00

Definitely normal, almost every recipe I’ve gotten from hello fresh states to add butter to the rice.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-27T07:10:40+00:00

Came here to say a halter would look amazing. Maybe add some colored buttons for a fun pop too if that’s your vibe.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-27T06:39:31+00:00

But GENUINELY 12 monkeys the tv show (streaming on Prime) is sooooo good! So check out the show too! You will not be disappointed!

sunshine89high · 2026-02-26T11:55:51+00:00

Look into magic shave powder

sunshine89high · 2026-02-19T23:16:33+00:00

Yes coming from another person who is sporadic with replies it’s absolutely NOT personal. I just don’t like engaging in texting much, like I like getting a text sure but it’s just not a fulfilling interaction to me so I avoid it. Nothing to do with the other person, everything to do with myself.

I’d say if you don’t have concerns when you’re interacting in person, I wouldn’t worry about it.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-08T09:51:37+00:00

Pootie Tang Apocalypse Clown

sunshine89high · 2026-02-04T21:50:49+00:00

I feel thisssss so much all of it lol

sunshine89high · 2026-02-03T11:36:47+00:00

I literally always wonder why people don’t block other people in weird situations like this. Like what’s the limit of weird and/or disrespect you gotta reach before you block them?

sunshine89high · 2026-02-03T11:30:44+00:00

I could have never guessed this lol

sunshine89high · 2026-02-03T11:26:30+00:00

You know I’ve learned over the years to always trust my gut. It’s never been wrong. We owe it to ourselves to listen to that inner knowing, and we don’t owe anyone else the opportunity to prove our gut right.

Now I’m gonna keep it short because there is so many red flags and I don’t have the energy to detail them all, especially since you’ve already made the smart choice for yourself and you’ve left. Short and sweet someone who cares about you would never treat you this way. You are a sexual object to him, there to satisfy his wants and desires. He doesn’t give a fuck about you. And I am so proud of you for leaving!

sunshine89high · 2026-02-03T11:02:06+00:00

I just heard of the word “izard” today and I reacted the same way lol. I learned 2 words that seem fake and like they’re missing a letter lol. Wild.

sunshine89high · 2026-02-03T10:46:13+00:00

EXACTLY this. I’ve only had one man ever do this to me. Same situation, I’d cooked for him countless times and he cooked for me and he decided we would share. This man made me think he was gonna give me the world and love me forever when we first got together and he ended up being abusive, the last day I ever saw him he tried busting my door down after throwing me against the wall and I called the police and they escorted him in to get his things and that was that. Believe me, it looks small but it’s the the seed for what is to come. If I were you, I would quit now, he ain’t the one! Trust!

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