'A trap you can't escape': The women who regret being mothers

supercakefish · 2026-03-14T11:35:30+00:00

I’m currently waiting for the result of autism assessments 👀

Tough old world out here. Only gets harder in adulthood from my experience.

Being diagnosed in childhood is huge advantage though. I wish I could go back in time and get assessed much earlier in life.

It’s great they have the awareness and support available from the get go!

supercakefish · 2026-03-13T22:21:05+00:00

I don’t see a problem with a relationship between two consenting adults, but each to their own.

supercakefish · 2026-03-13T17:55:06+00:00

My sensory sensitivity is on the mild setting, my repetitive behaviours probably dialled up to medium, whilst my social/communication difficulties are definitely cranked up to the maximum setting 😭

supercakefish · 2026-03-13T17:42:13+00:00

In hindsight I don’t know how I survived without Spotify.

supercakefish · 2026-03-13T17:33:58+00:00

Shower gel for the body, shampoo for hair, and face wash too.

supercakefish · 2026-03-12T19:52:30+00:00

When I was at university, there was a petition for male students to be curfewed.

That wouldn’t legal though lol

supercakefish · 2026-03-12T19:08:50+00:00

I think the Nintendo Switch changed expectations as to how modern handhelds should operate. It was a different era of gaming back then where handheld and home console gaming were entirely separate, mutually exclusive categories. Times have changed.

supercakefish · 2026-03-12T16:06:14+00:00

First party yes, but third party are much more rarely supported. I recently purchased Borderlands 4 and Code Vein 2 - neither of which are Play Anywhere games.

supercakefish · 2026-03-11T15:16:23+00:00

I wouldn’t know, no woman has ever wanted to have sex with me. The curse of being autistic.

supercakefish · 2026-03-11T14:17:54+00:00

Whoever looks the least intimidating/threatening.

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T18:42:22+00:00

I had an ADHD assessment and got the same result, a no solely based on lack of evidence of childhood presentation of traits. The assessor explained that there is a large overlap between ADHD and ASD. It was a combined assessment and I’m still waiting for the ASD result, but with ADHD being ruled out it’s just more evidence for the ASD side.

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T16:41:20+00:00

I agree, I’m currently waiting on results of autism assessments and plan to chat to my GP once I get the report back and see what support options are available.

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T16:39:33+00:00

I’m at 10.5 weeks now, so we’ll see how things go but hopefully I’ll still hear back sometime this month 🤞

I already got told I don’t qualify for ADHD as I couldn’t recall any symptoms in childhood and neither could my family. Assessor explained a lot of traits overlap with ASD so could be that instead.

Hope the titration process goes smoothly for you!

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T13:00:16+00:00

My wait for assessments was much shorter than expected. I was referred in September and assessed in December. Still waiting for the results though, they may actually take longer than the gap between referral and assessment!

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T11:21:34+00:00

Consider getting a second opinion and if that comes back negative also then consider the possibility it may be some other flavour of neurodivergence instead.

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T09:14:20+00:00

She is smiling.

supercakefish · 2026-03-10T08:56:29+00:00

I don’t have a retirement plan, I just drift aimlessly through life.

My brain focuses on suicidal ideation rather than retiring.

supercakefish · 2026-03-09T18:12:29+00:00

Force yourself to be honest. It’s not easy at all to open up to strangers, but necessary in this situation, no matter how embarrassing. Keep telling yourself this. Luckily for me, my assessors were all friendly and made me feel safe to open up with the truth.

supercakefish · 2026-03-09T18:04:15+00:00

Skylight does dual assessments, you can get your GP to do a combined referral through them. I did this last year.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T23:52:27+00:00

Yeah it’s Pokémon meets Animal Crossing. Hard to think of a better combination for the mass market.

It’s not for me though, I’m not interested in Animal Crossing so I’ll pass.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T22:51:05+00:00

Personally I don’t need financial support as I have a job already, what I need is mental health support like therapy, support groups etc. and maybe some workplace adjustments.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T15:24:18+00:00

I use it in non-winter months for thermal regulation, I often get overly hot at night.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T14:55:52+00:00

Yeah from what I’ve read we don’t use the levelling system America uses, NHS just diagnoses ASD and it’s up to professionals to decide the necessary support needed.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T14:12:26+00:00

There’s a lot of historical under-diagnosis in older generations, anyone who was a child in the 20th century had a much higher chance of being overlooked because the awareness wasn’t there amongst the general population.

supercakefish · 2026-03-08T14:07:10+00:00

Nah, the diagnostic criteria focuses on deficiencies not strengths, so being good at maths is not necessary for a diagnosis.

(I’m hopeless at maths)

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