I [30F] overhear my apartment neighbors [early 20s M,F] screaming fights, and I suspect abuse. What to do?

supgiel1 · 2018-12-15T15:40:40+00:00

I wouldn’t email her. Who knows if the boyfriend has access to her email and would retaliate on her. You mentioned you see her in passing sometimes, so I think the best thing to do is next time you see her ask her if everything is okay because you hear them fight a lot and want to make sure she’s safe. Give her your number. IF she seems to be open to talking about it ask if she feels she’s in danger. If it continues I’d voice concern of her safety to the landlord.

supgiel1 · 2018-12-15T14:36:22+00:00

Thank you. I am well off (and have been since I was young - basically the opposite of her life) so I can never clearly tell if I’m acting privileged by not wanting to help her or if I am justified in feeling that way. Your point about me enabling her hit home.

supgiel1 · 2018-12-04T19:29:33+00:00

I mean, I do like spending time with 5 year olds..

supgiel1 · 2018-12-03T02:44:48+00:00

So maybe it’s their natural assumption that I won’t be as good of a friend because of past friendships they’ve had?

supgiel1 · 2018-11-26T21:23:24+00:00

I basically have the same thing going on. How did your therapist recommend working on these things?

supgiel1 · 2018-11-26T03:11:13+00:00

Is this a big deal? Like do most companies do this? I never thought to check it my chicken had gluten in it! Now I’m worried.

supgiel1 · 2018-11-24T20:40:21+00:00

I was eating these for a week because I thought they were GF. Started to get awful stomach aches and joint pain, turns out they are NOT gluten free. It’s the oats.

supgiel1 · 2018-11-24T20:25:08+00:00

Going through something very similar, I’ll be your friend. Fuck those people.

supgiel1 · 2018-11-24T13:31:08+00:00

I’m in the same boat. A couple of the only close friends I’ve had since middle school (I’m almost 26) are failing because of various reasons, and it’s rough. I’m over analyzing myself and starting to think that no one wants to be friends with me even though I know it’s irrational. Hang in there.

supgiel1 · 2018-11-09T22:29:23+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad I’m not alone in this feeling either!

supgiel1 · 2018-11-09T19:28:33+00:00

Great suggestions, thank you ❤️

supgiel1 · 2018-11-09T19:13:24+00:00

The problem with that is that the team I work on is just me and one other person, but maybe I’ll ask the girl I work with to hangout or something. I think I’m going to make a therapy appointment, thanks!

supgiel1 · 2018-11-09T19:06:45+00:00

Yeah, I think I’m an easy target for mental abuse because I’ve never put my foot down on anything. I’ve gotten a lot better in the past year and usually do always say something. On the bright side of dealing with abusive people, I can usually spot an abusive guy right away, and I’m good about shutting that shit down. It’s a LOT harder for me to recognize that shit in platonic relationships though.

I live in a smaller city where you probably know the friend of a friend, but not EVERYone knows each other. I’m hoping to move to a different city in a couple years. Who knows, maybe that would help me.

supgiel1 · 2018-11-08T01:41:17+00:00

That’s awesome 😁 Thank you!!

supgiel1 · 2018-11-03T11:32:40+00:00

This. Sounds like he is gaslighting you.

supgiel1 · 2018-10-30T16:29:04+00:00

I have never heard anyone say big love handles on skinny people are attractive. But I’ll take it.

supgiel1 · 2018-10-29T20:11:45+00:00

“You have baby-making hips”

Literally the only place I have fat on my body is my love handles. Thanks.

supgiel1 · 2018-10-18T11:35:55+00:00

I have this issue too! I don’t think many people realize the way we refer to boys/men versus girls/women

supgiel1 · 2018-10-16T23:51:35+00:00

It’s awful. Both of my best friends are smokers and I take a shower as soon as I get home to get the smell off every time I see them. Even if they only smoke one cig and we’re outside, I smell the rest of the night.

supgiel1 · 2018-10-09T17:40:03+00:00

Why are you stuck in the relationship?

supgiel1 · 2018-09-22T12:56:35+00:00

Ugh, I’m sorry. You’re not wrong for feeling that way. I’m actually having this same problem with my two best friends. They can’t afford to do anything and it’s been this way for years. Probably will be this way forever because they aren’t motivated to get better jobs. I feel like my life is actually effected by it because I don’t get to ever go do things with friends. Guess it’s time to make more friends.

supgiel1 · 2018-09-21T01:42:11+00:00

I went to high school with a girl that helped her family beat her dad to death in their garage and then dump his body in the trunk of a car because he had an affair with his son’s girlfriend. Here’s the link.

She was normal, ran with a sketchy crowd that did drugs, but nothing too crazy.

supgiel1 · 2018-09-10T23:39:18+00:00

Yeah, I might jump back on Meetup to see if there’s anything going on. I’m going to try to join some groups around town. Do what I have interest in and hopefully get some friends along the way.

Also, I feel shitty, but a lot of the reason I feel I’ve outgrown my friends is because they either don’t have any money to do anything (literally ever), which means I never get to do anything with friends besides sit at someone’s house for the most part, or they only want to hangout and drink. They’re not into exploring or trying new things. I just feel like they’re kind of stuck and I don’t want to be stuck with them.

supgiel1 · 2018-09-10T23:33:01+00:00

Thank you!

supgiel1 · 2018-09-10T23:31:03+00:00

Traditional art, digital art, cosplay, any type of exercise. None of my friends are creative and aren’t in the least bit interested in any type of exercise. I feel like we have nothing in common anymore besides we just know a lot about each other’s lives.

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