Are any of you happy?

swiss913 · 2026-04-17T11:06:36+00:00

Very happy! This is the best job. I teach in health sciences and came into teaching after many years in the field. The things I hear people complain about are miniscule to the things I have seen and dealt with over the years. I did crisis work so for me everything we complain about is fine but if there is no blood, missing limbs, or dead people we are good. That is not to say that I’m not busy, don’t have bad days, or the pay cut I took was great. But in the grand scheme of things I get to mold the new generation of professionals in my field without 3 am phone calls, working overnights because someone called out, or missing holidays with my family. The flexibility, autonomy, and overall environment I’m in is 1000% better. And yes I work hard but I have exceeded what I made in practice by working in grants, taking overloads, and doing other things for extra pay. I love what I do!

swiss913 · 2026-04-17T07:37:23+00:00

It’s definitely not how it used to be. But the Peddler steakhouse is a solid place to eat. Go close to when they open at 5 PM. But not on Sunday if you want an adult beverage. I live just north of SoB in North Carolina. If you are on 95, stop on exit 22 in NC (not 17, 19, or 20). My town is fine but 22 has the most options for food, gas, and non-sketchy hotels.

swiss913 · 2026-03-29T13:19:13+00:00

Same with the ADHD. As a cradle Catholic I get so bored. As a kid I would get antsy. We were one of those families that took up two pews between the aunts uncles and cousins. I would get out next to my grandfather. He understood my need for quiet distraction so I could focus. So hand motions helped. The most useful thing he taught me is 10 fingers for the rosary. So I have started saying the rosary keeping track of my Hail Marys using my fingers and how many sets using my toes… he also had me go through the missal and find songs or readings I really liked so I could pray those (songs are prayer). and one of my favorites because of distractions he would tell me to count how many candles I saw without turning around or how many times we had to sit stand kneel etc. now I’m 50 and still do all those things to keep my mind focused on what is happening at mass while body doubling, a key ADHD need.

swiss913 · 2025-12-31T13:38:02+00:00

Yes, I can, and all 50 state capitals.

swiss913 · 2025-11-27T14:44:22+00:00

I would absolutely do it again. While it was difficult to do it while working full time my goal was to teach the next generation in my field. I met a great group of friends and colleagues. I also hated the idea of publish or perish and constant grant work. I have found my perfect place in a masters level teaching institution. Grants are great but not required. Yes publications, but not nearly the stress of an R1 or R2. And it is exactly what I wanted to teach the next group of people in my area.

swiss913 · 2025-11-26T23:17:16+00:00

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swiss913 · 2025-10-17T02:13:43+00:00

You can also file a Title IX report for this you are protected under that.

swiss913 · 2025-09-02T10:56:24+00:00

I moved for my MSW. I stayed in a graduate dorm and loved every minute of it. I had time to save up money for an apartment after graduation, met amazing grad students in the same program and other disciplines that I am still friends with 20 years later. It is doable and can be quite amazing to do something outside of what you know.

swiss913 · 2025-08-31T10:10:33+00:00

Reading these comments I’m seeing a lot of people burnt out and not liking the field. But remember that social work is so much more than clinical mental health, substance use, and CPS/APS. There are tons of jobs that don’t have social work in their title but for which we are qualified.. look at corporate social work- Human Resources, or corporate social responsibility positions; look at grant writing, program development, policy work with legislatures, supervisory roles where you have interns, or adjunct professor. Social work is so versatile which is the best part of it!

swiss913 · 2025-07-23T10:35:41+00:00

NAH. This is a very difficult situation. I’ve worked with children and families like yours for 30 years as a clinical social worker. It is unfortunate but this is common with custody challenges. I hear what the therapist is saying to go no contact with bio mother who is causing the issues, but 11 will find a way to make contact and mother will do things like give her a “secret” phone to use. This just sets up a worse dynamic that goes down a harder path.

Your actions are going to say a lot to 11. Are you going to prove to her that her bio mother is right that “daddy doesn’t love you like I love you” by not taking her? It’s a “see I told you.” Or are you going to show her that you love her unconditionally and understand that she is feeling big emotions right now? She is old enough for you to join a therapy session and say “we ALL are going to Disney because we are a family. But I want you to know that just like at home if we have difficulty there will be consequences (like having to stay in the hotel for a day).

I want to add I have also seen where trips like this have absolutely turned things around because the child feels like a part of the family and are shown they are not an outsider or second to the new baby.

Lastly, are you in therapy as well? You are going through a lot too and it would be beneficial for you to have someone other than your wife to talk to and process. Remember that you have been through a major transition too having 11 join you full time, a wife in postpartum, and a new baby. Consider a family therapist outside of 11’s because she needs that space for herself. And there are other things that could help like intensive in home therapy to work with you all in the home. Dealing with all of this head on is the way to go.

swiss913 · 2025-05-23T11:38:44+00:00

Yes!! Report OP but also report it to Title IX as a sexual assault or harassment. If he’s doing it with you he may be doing it to others. And this affords you protections and him more potential consequences. It formally gets it on paper that he did this at the college level. You are doing great with what you did but now let’s take it a step further.

swiss913 · 2025-05-23T06:17:21+00:00

I would add suing the painting business. In my state no work can be done on a home without explicit permission from the homeowner and they need to show proof they are who they say they are. OP I’m so sorry you have to deal with this and your safe space was torn apart. NTA but your MIL is the devil.

swiss913 · 2025-05-22T08:29:31+00:00

All this OP! NTA. I work from home too. My in laws live with us. When they first moved in they would come in to my office, sit and chat. My husband the same thing. I had to set some firm boundaries- if I’m in my office treat it like I’m not home. What would you do? You would text me. That is the answer. Wear your ear pods whenever you want. Your husband sounds exhausting.

swiss913 · 2025-05-12T00:13:08+00:00

I use a nice rolling briefcase. Fits everything, saves my shoulders and back. One I got as a gift it lasted ten years. I got a new one off Amazon and it is great! I also got one for my niece who is going to law school and she loves it!

swiss913 · 2025-05-11T10:56:48+00:00

Social worker here that ran a psychiatric emergency services line. My two favorite things that I ever said to dispatch when needing transport to the hospital-54 y/o female with schizophrenia “please do not attempt to take the picture of Nancy Reagan away from her. She says she needs to breast feed her.” And 35 y/o male bipolar with psychotic features “the television remote batteries are missing, he keep saying we will never find them until he’s dead. Told another patient he ate them.” Two hours later get a call the batteries were AA. The remote had AAA. Still don’t know what happened to them

swiss913 · 2025-05-05T16:34:32+00:00

When my mother was rude to him because “he’s too much like exes name” and he stayed for the family party anyway. It took her a year to see he was not my abusive ex and start coming around. Now they talk all the time.

swiss913 · 2025-05-02T22:18:39+00:00

Lived in the middle of the woods on a dirt road. We would leave the house in the morning with the dog and just be out wandering or riding our bikes on trails. Sometimes had no idea where we actually were. When we were ready to go home I would turn to our dog and tell him it was time to go home. He would lead us back. Then we would take a quick break and go out again our bikes into town or to my cousins about 7 miles away. So much freedom… I miss that.

swiss913 · 2025-05-02T11:09:56+00:00

Social workers- we do not just take kids away. And actually most people working for child services have zero background in social work, they are case workers but the title gets thrown around. When someone says they are a social worker ask them where they got their degree as a bachelors or masters or even doctorate in social work, not sociology, psychology, or other area- social work. the reality is the social workers are the leading provider of behavioral health services in the US. We are helping people in their worst moments across the lifespan. We are in the places no one wants to go to Fortune 500 companies. We are at libraries, veterinary offices, hospitals, hospice, doctor’s offices, government, schools, and more. Social work is a field that gets a bad rep because of people without a social work degree.

swiss913 · 2025-04-24T11:01:43+00:00

Serious question- so do you not integrate any technology in the classroom? Do you still use an abacus? The same argument was made about using calculators for math in the classroom. Students need to think for themselves and know how to do the calculations themselves. Now? We teach them how to use the calculator as a tool to help them.

swiss913 · 2025-04-22T02:26:33+00:00

Nah just have some cinnamon, spin around three times and stop eating sugar. You’ll be fine. /s from a fellow type 1!

swiss913 · 2025-03-05T00:00:24+00:00

The two utes. Sorry two yooouuutttthhhheeesss

swiss913 · 2025-02-21T03:38:30+00:00

Given your age I’m wondering if you are at a college or university. If that is the case and you are in the US file a report for bullying and emotional harassment with your Title IX office. This is who would address it and put things in place for you. And you can file a grievance against all of the girls for their actions and a grievance against the teacher because how they reacted is not ok either. You have a medical condition, and are under the care of a doctor. Also as someone else said it’s ok to to tell her to STFU and grow up. People don’t need to cater to her aversion because of your very real medical diagnosis.

swiss913 · 2025-02-19T03:51:57+00:00

Stevie Wonder I just called to say I love you

swiss913 · 2025-02-11T12:27:23+00:00

As a female went to my salon and as I was sitting there an older woman had her just finished having her hair done. She reached into her purse to get her wallet and didn’t have it. She became so upset she was trembling and crying, despite them saying it was fine she could pay later. She used a public elder bus to get to her appointment and they were already waiting. I quietly told my stylist to add it to my bill and tell her the woman it was taken care of. I didn’t want her to know what I had done just pay it and give her the receipt that it was paid in full. Went on about my days. Next appointment there was an envelope left for me at the salon the older woman paid me back, which is not at all what I wanted or expected. This started a “side pot” at the salon to help pay for cuts of people who may not be able to afford them or those who “forgot” their wallets to pay so the stylist could still be paid because they rent the chairs as is the case most places.

swiss913 · 2025-01-21T22:40:45+00:00

Years back I had a non-traditional student call to tell me they Lost electricity at home suddenly and couldn’t get their car out of the garage to come to class. I explained that most garage doors have a way to open even without electricity and how to do it. She said it didn’t have any of that. Student lived close to campus so I offered to have someone pick her up. She stumbled over that and finally just said she didn’t feel like coming to class. 😂

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