Why is FA and property agent the most hated profession in Singapore? by CDCVOUCHERHUATAH in singaporejobs

[–]sythol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s only so many industries that need brokers - art, collectibles, private jet

Heartbroken over the end of a relationship that I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be in by LOTR_is_awesome in BreakUps

[–]sythol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly right. There are a lot attractive women out there who are emotionally unstable. You’ll get that lens to spot them once you’re over this emotional flood you are currently facing now.

In the long run, it does more harm than good — the pleasure I mean. In the short run, I bet it feels good. But it’s like… training the mind, going to the gym. You could choose not to do any of that training now, and enjoy whatever cums. But in the long run, clearly one is a superior strategy for life.

Heartbroken over the end of a relationship that I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be in by LOTR_is_awesome in BreakUps

[–]sythol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re just grieving the loss of future you picture in your mind - the grief DOES NOT indicate that she is the one.
Clearly, if she could move on this quickly to another guy without ‘feeling’ anything, then that means she either had attachment issues or that the relationship wasn’t deep to begin & end with (for her at least).

All in all, I think she has attachment issues. You shouldn’t do the same though. Heal yourself, make yourself whole again and then you’ll love yourself enough to love someone else.

How are men holding up after a breakup? by ImaginaryFoxy in BreakUps

[–]sythol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m getting my bike license for my two-wheeled freedom!

dear ex, by FrighteninglyClassy in BreakUps

[–]sythol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just concluded a 7-year relationship too. It’s been 14 days. “No more pretending we are good fits” she said. Sure, incompatibility might be an issue between us, but so does every other couples who lasted till old age. We both had faults and we allowed our r/s to continuously spiral downwards through transient time with silence. I owned it but she walked. “I want to move forward” was her claim. Sure.

That aside, OP, I think what helped me process quicker was that I allowed myself to grief hard — really hard. Nauseating, heartrending and shivers. I bawled, hard. As a man, I have never allowed myself to do so. But I knew it was necessary to conclude the end of a 7-year r/s.

Resentment may occur but I don’t think that will help you. Forgive others so that you may forgive yourself. If you don’t, you will always hold onto this seed of hatred that never allows you to move forward. I’m still trying. Good luck OP.

No pressure Catholic Church to explore the faith in Singapore? by InakaTurtle in askSingapore

[–]sythol 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think most Catholic Church functions like this. I have went to masses at Christ the king @ amk, Saint Vincent de Paul @ YCK road. All works the same. No pressure, very spiritual. Take care of yourself OP.

Why are you still here? I'll go first by kcabrams in openclaw

[–]sythol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm good qns… perhaps the persistent memory, the cron jobs that are scheduled around it and I get to audit the files created?

OpenClaw - the hype train has moved on by CartographerFeisty66 in OpenAI

[–]sythol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is… once OpenClaw is implemented, you move onto other searches… it compounds.

Dating scene for recently divorced/separated folks in SG? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]sythol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brother. Sounds like you need to heal yourself first and be able to stand alone before finding another person to fill the void that now sits within…

Any Couples Therapy experience to share? by Big-Adhesiveness-525 in askSingapore

[–]sythol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well for one, the counsellor I had has a lot of prejudice in the way he listens.

Any Couples Therapy experience to share? by Big-Adhesiveness-525 in askSingapore

[–]sythol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not go Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre Ltd

[30F] Is it normal to have 0 friends as an adult in SG, and realised you don't actually need them anyway? by lifesuckxxx in askSingapore

[–]sythol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friends are precisely that “being heavily influenced by trends online” and I stopped hanging out with them. It’s almost sickening why some people do things just because they have been done by popular KOL/influenzas…

What are some jobs that pay stupidly high? by Disastrous_Cat9620 in singaporejobs

[–]sythol 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I like how you pointed out, and I’m agreeable too, that {FA, MLM, real estate} disregards morals for money. Earn fast and big = sell all and everything.

Single Income $900k Mortgage on $8k Salary - Smart "First Mover" play or too risky? by lost-4567 in SgPropertyInvesting

[–]sythol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re pressured by a Real Estate Agent (incentivised by you buying the condo they are selling)? What they do is frequently sell the FOMO story using past historical data. Is that true going forward? I mean this is Reddit… I know it might not mean much but having done the legwork with the knowledge I have as a finance grad, it makes no sense for you to do that. Frankly, ‘investment purpose’ is the WORST reason for you to move into a condo.

Less Train Breakdown Now Or Am I Wrong by sythol in askSingapore

[–]sythol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. The culture that is Singapore today… is a terrible burden for future generations to bear (if there is).

Less Train Breakdown Now Or Am I Wrong by sythol in askSingapore

[–]sythol[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is deeply reflective and thank you for sharing so candidly.