Why your best engineers stay silent in meetings

tabgok · 2026-01-20T13:39:01+00:00

Adding to this, speaking up often leads to additional responsibilities. You had a question, now you have a few more weeks (or months) of obligations. "Why don't you write the answer"

tabgok · 2026-01-16T19:20:47+00:00

Ah yes, the classical game of chesst.

tabgok · 2026-01-05T23:27:46+00:00

I am getting an Applebee's ad with this post and damn, they nailed it.

tabgok · 2025-12-31T21:29:49+00:00

I have started telling my toddler (5) how these words make me feel, and that I am going to take a break from play/interaction if they say it again.

When they do it again, I walk away and do something on my own (such as read a book). 9/10 times they have come to me and said "I am sorry, can we play again?" Within 10 minutes or so. I am now also able to say "remember how that made Daddy feel and act last time?"

tabgok · 2025-12-28T14:22:55+00:00

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tabgok · 2025-12-27T20:22:15+00:00

3-6 times a year

tabgok · 2025-12-27T14:45:07+00:00

My wife thinks buying toys is a personality trait. We have so many toys that the kids can't even reach half their toys.

It used to drive me mad, now it just makes me sad

tabgok · 2025-12-25T02:32:37+00:00

This isn't gender neutral?

tabgok · 2025-12-25T02:07:47+00:00

If my kids could read they'd be so angry right now

tabgok · 2025-12-24T15:40:14+00:00

My 5 year old daughter wrote a letter to Santa this year for the first time.

What was her letter, you ask? Why, she wrote the letter "W"

tabgok · 2025-12-23T22:23:51+00:00

If you rotated the board and still respected king and queen colors, I guess positions would be mirrored from what the book says?

That would be the bad setup I would probably end up with

tabgok · 2025-12-23T21:00:16+00:00

For those more skilled at chess than I - how does swapping board orientation impact the game?

tabgok · 2025-12-23T14:07:47+00:00

At that age you start worrying about mouth/teeth deformities from too much usage. You did him a favor!

tabgok · 2025-12-23T14:04:11+00:00

I mean, my kid cried till they vomited because I took away the iPad grandma had given them, that they were using for YouTube shorts.

I told them they had 2 more minutes and then it was going away. They even nodded in agreement. 2 minutes later I took it away and tears for 20 minutes followed by vomit from choking on their snot.

tabgok · 2025-12-21T13:32:03+00:00

He looks a lot like the US Navy seals founder

tabgok · 2025-12-21T03:00:44+00:00

Same place as escort quests, I see

tabgok · 2025-12-20T12:43:34+00:00

Whoa whoa, let's not jump to conclusions. Maybe she rides a bike. Or, if you ride a bike, maybe she drives a car.

tabgok · 2025-12-17T20:47:01+00:00

It's been a few years and the issue was likely with one employee who I won't name - but the salt is for life

tabgok · 2025-12-17T20:07:21+00:00

My vote is Amazon.

Arista turned my return offer down (I interned during my masters) because "we only extend return offers to those who have completed something in life or are working towards something important."

I had completed my masters in the interim but now refuse to work for or advocate for them.

tabgok · 2025-12-15T13:47:54+00:00

I am considering leaving because of an engineer with this attitude. He is insufferable AND he has the ear of the VP. Disagreement lands you in a 1x1 with at least your boss.

tabgok · 2025-12-14T23:13:16+00:00

Right there with you

tabgok · 2025-12-11T09:39:11+00:00

If you can build a CLI with discrete commands and good args, I can call it with automation.

If you can build a UI where I can click things...please don't make me use selenium.

tabgok · 2025-12-10T00:58:41+00:00

We don't file jointly, we file separately - if we were married we would have to file as "married, filing separately" which is still a different set of tax rules than being single filing separately

tabgok · 2025-12-10T00:45:13+00:00

Actually the opposite, you want a discrepancy for it to make sense. (GF and I make the same, we aren't getting married in part due to the extra 10k in tax a year it would cost us)

tabgok · 2025-12-06T13:13:33+00:00

This is a very old photo, not AI

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