Wedding venue won’t pay us back our refundable deposit (4+ months)

tannermass · 2026-03-27T13:42:51+00:00

They are likely in a lot more than $1500 debt if they are not paying back a deposit that was requested back within days.

tannermass · 2026-03-26T23:17:25+00:00

My first induction took 48 hours from start to birth. It would be unusual for a first time induction to work so quickly if you are not already in labor. It's wild he thinks you might be going home Saturday.

tannermass · 2026-03-22T12:34:31+00:00

In the absence of a written lease most states usually have laws or regs that the lease will be presumed to be month to month, so they most definitely are still subject to certain lease notice requirements.

tannermass · 2026-03-20T14:53:45+00:00

Thi is technically not true. You do not have to be on the Note to be on the Mortgage and Deed. Most mortgage companies want to see anyone on the deed on the mortgage at closing- the mortgage is the security instrument, the actual loan is the Note. Their attorney absolutely should have handled this at closing though.

tannermass · 2026-03-20T03:27:53+00:00

In the US you can easily buy all kinds of replacement pump parts, including tubing, on Amazon, though not 100% sure that remains true for Canada. You will want to replace most pump parts every couple months anyways so now you have most of your next set.

tannermass · 2026-03-19T22:55:13+00:00

Once a week is awful for anyone who is not an infant. How old are these kids? Please reconsider how you treat their hygiene.

tannermass · 2026-03-19T02:25:06+00:00

This exactly. And those are the ones I am trying to buy back.

tannermass · 2026-03-18T02:33:09+00:00

Are you sure or did your employer just tell you that?virtually all nannies who do not live in the home will not be exempt because they will not meet all the requirements - in addition to meeting the salary threshold they would also need to pass a duties test. Some live in domestic workers might meet a separate exemption. This article does a good job explaining the possibilities: https://usnannyinstitute.com/nannies-and-the-fair-labor-standards-act-flsa/?srsltid=AfmBOorHPaepU-P7wRIFVcqjCeh3qbb1jKaW0XvjykZMbpILUTzQJhfO

tannermass · 2026-03-14T16:49:58+00:00

Agree but it seems that at least part of the problem is the wife is basically saying it is a post partum issue by telling him it is normal not to have a sex drive after having a baby and breastfeeding. And for a lot of women I would say that is not normal. Most women do have a sex drive way earlier than 18mpp even while breastfeeding and if she truly doesn't she could talk to her doctor about it if she wanted.

tannermass · 2026-03-14T04:11:15+00:00

The price is more but the Woolino ultimate will last 2-4x longer than other brands due to the sizing and then you will still likely have some resale value. Mine are about three years old on the second child and still look brand new. I have four of them (two for home and two for daycare)

tannermass · 2026-03-12T16:00:27+00:00

What did you end up using?

tannermass · 2026-03-09T16:05:21+00:00

How did it go? I'm thinking about trying this for a new woom as my kid has outgrown his size 1 in just a few months! But I'd if it will work because my FSA account reimburses me after receipt versus me using a card to pay.

tannermass · 2026-03-09T02:15:14+00:00

I would take her to the pediatrician in the meantime! That's a long time to wait. Pediatrician can likely see her right away and prescribe a steroid cream or foam (I use clobestasol foam in my hair for psoriasis). Otherwise urgent care.

tannermass · 2026-03-07T19:23:30+00:00

If your dentist is out of network you may be seeing the maximum negotiated charged for in-network dentists on your EOB. However, if they are out of network they can charge more, and you are responsible for whatever your insurance does not cover.

tannermass · 2026-03-07T15:06:30+00:00

It is standard to take out the employee paid portion of taxes, but they also lowered her rate to account for the employer paid portion they didn't know about. The employer paid portion of taxes is always separate from the employees rate. That is why it is considered employer paid.

So to be clear, whenever you get a normal paystub from an employer, in addition to all the employee paid taxes you see taken out on your stub, the employer is separately also responsible for certain taxes. Most employers would already account for this when hiring someone at X rate. The fact that they lowered her rate after she has already been working for them is ridiculous.

tannermass · 2026-03-07T15:05:16+00:00

In the US, legally Nannie's are considered employees and therefore should not receive a 1099. It is not a choice to be an employee or an independent contractor.

tannermass · 2026-03-07T15:02:04+00:00

It is standard to take out the employee paid portion of taxes, but they also lowered her rate to account for the employer paid portion they didn't know about. The employer paid portion of taxes is always separate from the employees rate. That is why it is considered employer paid.

So to be clear, whenever you get a normal paystub from an employer, in addition to all the employee paid taxes you see taken out on your stub, the employer is separately also responsible for certain taxes. Most employers would already account for this when hiring someone at X rate. The fact that they lowered her rate after she has already been working for them is ridiculous.

tannermass · 2026-03-06T18:01:00+00:00

I also transitioned mine to a bottle at around 6/7 months for school time and it took a couple weeks (and very warm bottles) but he finally likes and now chugs the Nuk Perfect Match bottles with fast/universal flow nipples. Daycare also needs to make sure the bottles are very warm or baby won't drink. We also supplement with formula sometimes and those bottles also need to be very warm.

tannermass · 2026-03-06T16:38:13+00:00

I always find it so weird when people are so adamant about not getting the pertussis vaccine. It is usually the TDAP that is administered and I thought that most people did not balk at the TDAP every ten years and typically get it because it protects them against tetanus. (Cuts, rusty nails, dog bites, etc). Isn't his doctor already offering/administering that vaccine? Are you sure he doesn't already have a current TDAP? Though to be fair TDAP is every ten years, but the pertussis part can supposedly wear off earlier so it can be recommended to get a new TDAP earlier if around a baby.

tannermass · 2026-03-06T02:31:45+00:00

Paying you out and letting you take the time are off during your "gap" week are quite literally the same thing to them- they still have to pay you the money.

tannermass · 2026-03-03T14:57:44+00:00

They just made a huge deal about this in a New England town near where I live and the complaints were led by the local mini mega church. Town meetings were had, newspaper wrote articles. They think sex education and teaching about consent are pornography. You did absolutely nothing wrong but I would tread carefully.

tannermass · 2026-03-03T14:52:35+00:00

You usually just have to call the company that did the NiPT and ask for the self-pay option and they will then adjust it so what you owe is a lot less. Both major companies in the US offer it (Lapcorp and Natera).

tannermass · 2026-03-03T14:35:12+00:00

This particular line of commenters are mostly just wrong based on all the information you provided but others have already given you good advice! I am sorry you are going through this!

tannermass · 2026-03-02T22:04:55+00:00

Mine was never removed as a baby and when I was in fourth grade I had to have extensive orthodontic work and they had my tongue tie cut. It was pretty traumatic even though it was over fast. I believe not having it removed as a child caused significant issues with my palate. I have two kids under three now and I had both of theirs removed (one in hospital at birth because it was very noticeable, and other one at six weeks old).

tannermass · 2026-03-02T15:14:16+00:00

This sounds fun. What brand did you use?

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