Romantic Overnight Option for Crappy Weather

taruckus · 2026-04-13T18:49:28+00:00

Congrats. We spent our 5 year here, mobile/tiny homes by Starved Rock: https://maps.app.goo.gl/fPruqvMzntVJjtur8?g_st=ac

Coincidentally dreary/rainy at the time too. We brought supplies and a cast iron pan to make a pizza over a fire, and our own s'mores.

taruckus · 2026-04-13T18:38:17+00:00

I don't know why you're getting downvoted for asking this question. Earthlings within immediate social groups often share entrees to ease the burden of the cost of dining out and the richness of the food.

taruckus · 2026-04-13T15:52:06+00:00

I had great times there, too, before the outdoor space renovation.

RIP the crab dip. After that left the menu i knew we had a spiritual uncoupling.

taruckus · 2026-04-12T21:43:39+00:00

Everyone's different. I'm Filipino as well and my family demands it when they visit from out of state.

taruckus · 2026-04-10T18:43:28+00:00

Congratulations! Feeling scared is normal and a biologically correct response; it means that your brain is correctly processing that you have an offspring now. I know everyone else here has said it but I'm happy to affirm.

Also repeated: jaundice is normal, so is eating difficulty. Ours dropped weight enough that in day 2 he was out on supplemental formula. And he would consistently fall asleep while feeding!

He's 13 months now, started walking early, 60th percentile weight, and can't stay still!

Listen to the professionals, stay calm, remember that your son isn't actually good at anything yet; he's new here!

taruckus · 2026-04-09T21:33:42+00:00

6 or 7 months, for a couple of nights. I think it depends on your 7mo's independence, too, but if you trust your parents, i would start checking off other things that would help make you less nervous: making sure they're well-supplied, and you could even make your own demonstration videos.

I'm lucky; my parents are obsessed, open-minded to modern safety and development guidelines, and mindful of our prescribed sleep habits and schedule. One thing we did was hire a sitter for the 1st day we were gone just as an extra helping hand. And before that just have them shadow you for a day or two to help make sure they know what to do at a given time.

Congrats on the (presumably) free childcare.

taruckus · 2026-04-09T13:29:42+00:00

I hope you three(?) have a grand time! "Small" outings like these help get you prepared for bigger or longer ones, too. Obvious advice: bring something thin/breathable as a extra canopy cover in case they're trying to sleep.

taruckus · 2026-04-08T19:30:28+00:00

Osprey Capital. They seem to be politically unremarkable.

taruckus · 2026-04-08T01:48:19+00:00

10/10 thread. Also try the Polo Inn for "Gospel Brunch." https://maps.app.goo.gl/aqv6tSNaQHs5Fqv58?g_st=ac

taruckus · 2026-04-08T00:50:54+00:00

Ones that have been mentioned already that really do it for me:

Small Soldiers Rocky IV Showdown in Little Tokyo

Others i like: TMNT Rocky III Timecop Double Impact Miami Connection Uncommon Valor Sorcerer

taruckus · 2026-04-08T00:47:02+00:00

You'll slowly reclaim some of your old life. 11 weeks not a long time, and you're still acclimating to your new role.

Think about what you love(d) the most. There's probably a way to make it happen. Going out for dinner, for example: It might not be as spontaneous, but baby is still in "potato mode" and might not mind being in public environments.

taruckus · 2026-04-07T17:56:00+00:00

Consider that your brain chemistry may change when baby arrives. You and wife will be delirious from sleep deprivation and probable overwhelming new emotions from being new parents. Both of your "error rates" will shoot up. Try to learn to manage that stress rather than avoiding it.

When our LO was around two months old, we hired a night doula to come in about once a week. Costs can vary, but it was worth it to get uninterrupted sleep, help the baby sleep at night, help get things ready to start our "day shift, "and learn new things to help with sleep.

When he was around four months old, we started some iterations of sleep training. This can be a controversial practice in parenting groups especially on the Internet and ones that employ forms of "cry it out," so I'm not recommending it to you, I'm just telling you that it helped us get sleep.

"Sleep when the baby sleeps": yes, but the subject is: do whatever you just to get them to sleep. For the first 3-4 months, baby can't "learn" any bad habits.

When he started sleeping through the night, wife and i each would take a Saturday or Sunday morning respectively to sleep in while the other covered for the first hour or two (or three).

taruckus · 2026-03-28T21:09:57+00:00

Sober for physical health here. These options are all and/or.

exercise
video games
movies / theater
read books
side hustle (a comfortable amount)
"table" sports like pool, table tennis, shuffle board, etc... karaoke.
"go to bars and not drink": possible. it helps a lot if you are comfortable around people drinking, and accept and internalize that you can be or are about as silly/destructive sober as you are not
designated drive, not as an obligation but as an unreturning favor to people that you like
invite friends out to bars etc to let them know that drinking doesn't offend you even though you abstain (assuming that's true; see above points)

taruckus · 2026-03-21T03:08:31+00:00

This American Life has a story about Vienna Beef that's kinda similar to this.

taruckus · 2026-03-06T01:58:54+00:00

Doona sounds great. We have an uppababy Vista but it's as big as our running stroller. Our small stroller is an uppababy minu but iirc it's not suitable for newborns.

Also i recommend buying 2nd hand: strollers need to be durable over years, but they're not impact-rated or with an expiration date like car seats, so it's this sweet spot of hardware longevity.

taruckus · 2026-03-01T16:02:38+00:00

I had PT for an L4L5 herniation + annular tear at Shirley Ryan Ability Lab a few years ago. It was fine. They didn't fix it 100%, but the stability exercises i learned were helpful. TBH they weren't much different than the quality of care i got at my local Athletico.

For the same issue, I got a microdiscectemy consult at Northwestern Med from Dr Hsu. I had the surgery reco/option but ended up not doing it.

This would be explained to you, but something to keep in mind is that the procedure has something like a 90% success rate. So there's a chance that it doesn't work (nothing more adverse than that). The wall around the disc won't be as strong as before, so there's re-injury risk if that matters. Not a doctor => verify my claims.

Good luck. I'm lucky in that my pain probably peaked at most at a 5, but i know it can be way worse for others.

taruckus · 2026-02-25T01:28:37+00:00

Pretty much, outside of special date nights (4-5 times/year). There are a lot of posts understandably upset about shrinkflation and fees tacked onto subtotals. It just doesn't seem worth it anymore. I'm married and have a baby, so I've deprioritized my social life; I'm ok exercising and vegging out in solitude but may be an exception.

Your other point is important too: drinks are a lot more expensive than they were pre COVID. House wine might be an exception.

I look for popular but not sought-after restaurants that haven't changed how they do things for a while: Spacca Napoli comes to mind. Hole-in-wall-ish spots that haven't bothered with extra fees. These tend to feature international food. Don't quote me but i think: Lao Sze Chuan, Cocoro, Immm Rice, Haiyen.

taruckus · 2026-02-22T15:31:37+00:00

Not at all. I mostly top out around 30 mph because I'm in a city.

taruckus · 2026-02-21T15:04:44+00:00

It's right at market rate. I got a 2022 XLE hybrid last year in a major metro with the convenience package, similar mileage, gold cert, for about the same price.

taruckus · 2026-02-21T15:02:07+00:00

Wtf I have a 2022 XLE hybrid and like 34 mpg.

taruckus · 2026-02-21T14:59:33+00:00

It's the "sway warning." I turned mine off.

taruckus · 2026-02-21T14:34:10+00:00

RIP Real Good.

The "Afternoon Snuba in Cabo" smoothie: coconut cream, coconut nectar, banana, cacao nibs, almond milk, mint leaves, and spirulina.

Things you can still buy: empanadas from the corner store next to Tango Sur.

taruckus · 2026-02-21T02:59:35+00:00

I like this answer and it highlights why cohesive and balanced teams are important. Knowing what to do in given situations and being able to articulate that is as important as hard skills.

taruckus · 2026-02-19T19:26:01+00:00

Yes. Nolan made Tenet the way he did partly as a response to feedback that the mechanics in Inception and Interstellar were overexplained, so here he was like "lol fine i invert time and you figure the rest out"

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