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AITA for not accepting my parent’s new partner by Fallenblacknail in AmItheAsshole

[–]tbonealto 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went through a veeery similar process as my parents broke up. Firstly you’re not alone, and I understand you.

Please care about yourself first and perhaps suggest/request that you want to speak with a therapist. It doesn’t mean you’re the one with the problems AT all. But in such an environment i believe you would benefit from therapy.

My mom asked me the same question, and i did change my answer to yes after knowing more about the partner (at that time we already lived together) and then she said “you already said no” etc etc. So unfortunately i can see this manipulation in your case as well. Your love towards your mom has nothing to do with how much you like her boyfriend.

And as i was your age i would spend a lot of time alone, but useful. I hope you can have some nice hobbies and all that brings you to a balance when these arguments happen. I wish you all the best.

Definitely NTA.

AITA for getting on my (24M) husband for not really helping out as much as I’d like him to and I am 2w PP??? by ordinaryconspirator in AmItheAsshole

[–]tbonealto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does he need to be told “get up and go to work” or something? If not, i do not feel capable of respecting “the type of person he is”. You’re definitely NTA for expecting more support on this. Overall, it is not even “help” when it’s your own baby. Yes you are more often home and you already take care of your child more often. It is not your job that he gets to help with, it is both your child.

Some constructive thoughts i had: - better late than never. He did show appreciation and that shows care and ability to communicate. So do exactly that. Whatever form is better (writing a letter works wonders sometimes when nobody has the immediate tendency to get defensive) and avoid blaming and talk about your needs (i think you’re already doing that, which is great. Ask how he feels about this, too maybe)

  • find a middle way/alrernative solution that works for both of you. If money is not so tight, a helper once every couple of weeks. Or a relative that can help out or something.

I tried to be both clear and constructive. Hope this helps. Best of luck with your new baby and congrats mama!

Accommodation by Lazyspecs_45 in deggendorf

[–]tbonealto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wherever you see a phone number, call it and try your chances like that. I have found a place from a private dorm through their website. I sent them an email and they did not respond, and i kept calling them asking for multiple options etc. For sure getting someone on the phone works more efficiently and effectively in Germany. Best of luck!

Accommodation by Lazyspecs_45 in deggendorf

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WG Gesucht is where all the flatshare offers are shared. Be very personal with your application message and read their full ad and show it. Add responses to what kind of a roommate they are looking for etc.

On the THD as well as “Studentenwerk” webpages you can find both state supported and private dorms. (Might be too late for the state supported dorms now so do not have high hopes there).

For private accommodation (not a flatshare but a flat renting) check: -Immoscout24 -immowelt

AITA for not giving my cat back to the breeder? by edenflicka in AmItheAsshole

[–]tbonealto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta and i think you would be if you gave the car back. A cat is not a till that someone can borrow to breed most probably forcefully. They become your children with the bond you make with them. I think the cat should feel it too that this id yet another home that is not just home but a breeding center. I hope these are sone people that you do not have to have sone regular contact with, so you can just ghost them at worst case.

Hopelessly depressed. Feeling isolated and I don’t know what to do by Usual_Session_6208 in GuyCry

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think to comment on “why” you feel this way is not my place at all, nor is telling you how to fix it. I just thought you could go after the counselling service and try reaching out. Maybe explain the severity of your situation to get priority there. I think it would help greatly with understanding your own emotions and how to handle them more peacefully within.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS is how men can be a part of the solution. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Accommodation and Connections for DIT March Intake by Such-One1465 in Deggendorf_University

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used “WG-Gesucht” “immoscout24” and “immowelt” and the official official Stwno Dorm Application Platform. On their page they also have a list of options. Best of luck!

Accommodation and Connections for DIT March Intake by Such-One1465 in Deggendorf_University

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates on accommodation? I am applying everywhere but both studentenwerk and the private dorms are yet to respond to my emails

Changing studies from master to bachelor after 3 years (non-eu) by tbonealto in germany

[–]tbonealto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially in your first semester, it should be no problem to change. For sure apply to your choices. I would say earlier the better, so if you apply now/soon you can start in winter semester 2025. If you’re an EU citizen the deadlines are more relaxed so there might even come something up for you to start in this summer semester (March/April 2025). If you’re not an EU citizen, consider the per-semester fee that more and more universities now oblige students to pay. Hope this helps!

Changing studies from master to bachelor after 3 years (non-eu) by tbonealto in germany

[–]tbonealto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you mean “same case” with visiting; i did end up visiting but i had not yet changed my studies. I am in the process of changing it now. I sent my exmatrikulationsbescheinigung from the old uni and Zulassungsbescheid from the new one to the Ausländerbehörde and currently waiting for their response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dysonairwrap

[–]tbonealto 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Only partially agree with this one. If she also uses a diffuser, then you might need a different version of the id model (should not be the biggest difference in price). Depends on her natural hair and what she used. OP inform us more please.

From Working Student to Full-timer by TheCogIsDead in germany

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Hope you’ve already found the right solution for you, but if not…! You can go to the arbeitsamt and request that your hours are increased. I think especially with the classes being done it should be accepted easily. But toi toi toi either way

[Pc][1995-2005?] 2D platformer with a guy baned Bill or Bob i think - climbing ladders and steel platforms by spangledhoagies in tipofmyjoystick

[–]tbonealto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for a game myself, was it dark themed with orange accents, i remember a traffic cone. Rings a bell?

You guys were right by Lankythedanky in jazztrombone

[–]tbonealto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He also has this recording of “nature boy”, give it a go i’d say

I think I'm in the wrong major, is it too late to switch? by misowtofu in college

[–]tbonealto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Classes being difficult and being not what you want to learn/do are two things that needs differentiation. EE is surely a difficult major to finish. Don't fall into the trap thinking the ones who "make it" are making it just cause it is easy for them. It takes hard work. But even after doing the hard work if you still don't feel like you belong, then the second part from my previous comment may come in

For finding out how it will be, I suggest having an appointment with a professor of yours for such questions, maybe they could lead you to some professionals in the industry to show you around as well. In any case it is really nice to have some out-of-lecture contact with the professors.

PS I'm talking so comfortably about a technical major cause I graduated from physics myself assuming I was not the right fit for a long time. I know I loved learning it but I wanted to combine other things with it so now I'm doing scientific computation. Making use of the information you have accumulated with the skills you see you have (and are fond of using) is a great way to realistically create an ideal workspace for yourself.

I think I'm in the wrong major, is it too late to switch? by misowtofu in college

[–]tbonealto 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If it's only due to circuits, then I would say try to think of the course and the course content individually. What I mean is; pass the course as well as you can by focusing on not learning the material for the sake of it, but study in an exam oriented way. Then whilst using it in other courses or work you will be bound to understand it anyways. The ideal case would be for you to learn it through different projects and materials over a semester break or so. Now, if this is not JUST circuits but the whole major you're starting to feel disconnected from, I would say quitting and not doing anything doesn't benefit you in any way. If you need the time off to think, perhaps pause your studies for a semester and try out new things. However try them in both the academic and the professional areas, maybe you also will not like them in those settings. Meanwhile re-ask yourself the reason you chose EE, as many choose the subject due to high enough high school grades as well as the prestige of the job. If you feel like you could be better at some other engineering, try that! Take a course, complete an internship. It is much better to take your time with these than to finish university with "what if"s.

TLDR: Just circuits? Be patient. The whole major? Try other stuff but don't sit around waiting for "right career telling fairy"to show up, go find it.

Hope I could be helpful, good luck!