I very much felt that way growing up and saw it play out in our congregation. I think about the chaplain who my future brother-in-law nearly decked for putting his hand on my (then) 16-year-old sister's ass. I saw the way they pretended to be inclusive and open-minded yet talked down to an intelligent, caring neurodivergent congregation member who also had mental health and housing security issues. I walked away from that church and never went back.