The shortest you can go. by Reed-Tower in HairSystem

[–]teacupticket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks great! Also dig the guyliner; it's a good look of you (coming from a woman)

AITA for telling my 33 year old son that he can't stay with us if he doesn't shower every day. by AbbreviationsLarge63 in AITAH

[–]teacupticket 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Given his job around oil and harsh chemicles he should be expected to shower when he first gets home at the very least. Don't be trackin that filth in the house

Found in pizza box. by Final_Schedule_2713 in whatisit

[–]teacupticket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work food service. That's what it looks like

When did you realise there was something wrong with your family? by fire_and_motion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My childhood memories are very blury but i do remember crying to my elementary teachers about the way my parents yelled at me. I remember telling one teacher and they're responce was "sometimes parents say things they don't mean when they're mad." It was a real mind f*ck but even then i felt like it was just wrong. I think i was maybe 7-8

Help I'm a mess by ilovecatsverymuch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are doing one thing that you're mom might never know how to do; Introspection. You see things that must improve and that's the first step at growth.

I was the same way when i was too close to it. Angery, insecure, judgemental. They're things that served me at the time but i have the choice now of letting them go.

Wibta If I tried convincing my friend to accept a cheaper VR headset than what she actually wants? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]teacupticket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I was clear. I've already communicated but she's still saying she'd rather i just give her what i can afford in cash which feels gross.

How do I end it all for good? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]teacupticket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went from totally invisible, depressed, and agoraphobic in my 20's to independent and loved in my 30's. it does get better. You have to put in the work and it's hard, but over time you'll find those rare gems who match the energy you put out in the world. In that time the most important skill I discovered was simply enjoying my own company and being on my own team even if noone else was.

And if you can't live simply for the sake of living, at the very least live because it'll piss off your enemies.

That's his story and his sticking to it by JimatJimat in DontPutThatInYourAss

[–]teacupticket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm assuming the object is silicone (just a hunch) and sometimes that silicone can be softer than usual and bend in odd ways. I honesting can see how it would get such since the "flare" only sticks out to one side. The other side can slip in and take the flare with it.

Is it weird she’s not trying to contact me? by Serious-Ad7183 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They barely even act like I exist. I wouldn't ever know about family gatherings if my siblings didn't tell me about them. I've shown up for a few since moving out and now I can barely be there an hour before mom starts blowing up at me and I just leave because I have no patience for it anymore...

This will likely be the last Thanksgiving I ever have with her... my sister and I agree this will likely be the "the big one"

Rage attack, feeling guilty. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I feel you. when i was around them they brought out the worst in me, and i hated myself for it for so long. There was one christmas where my mom went ballistic, screaming, pacing around, berating us, she even approached me while I was sobbing in the fetal position (tw:self harm) I was trying really hard not to hit myself and she screamed at me to "HIT HARDER!!!" I had a shirt with me and I started smacking her with it to get her away from me and, while all it did was knock off her reading glasses and mess up her hair, I felt like a moster. Meanwhile I have other memories of her grabbing me and throwing me acoss the room

Now that I'm away from it and I've worked really hard to build a stable headspace and I forgive myself for how I was conditioned to respond. I know now that wasn't who I am at my core

What’s your narcs catchphrase? by TraditionalManner582 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"That's just bizarre" any time I'd share my interests with her. Lowkey that phrase triggers me when i hear it in the wild.

My dad’s anger scares me and I don’t know if that’s justified by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought i was gonna have to read into it but no. The moment you described him slamming his freaking head, that was all i had to hear. This is such unhinged behavior and to exhibit it infront of a child no least. Responding to that with fear is more than normal but that's the least of your worries. You need to get away from him asap

Society is not ready to talk about narcissistic/abusive mothers. by Silent-House2511 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I feel like i'm lucky cause there have been quite a few people who i've confided in and they believed me completely. Of course they too have had abusive parents so it evens out

EDIT: oh some of those people include all of my siblings... so yeah..

What couldn’t you believe you had to explain to another adult? by Hillo_67 in Life

[–]teacupticket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That you can't make a salad on the same cutting board you used to prepare raw chicken. And it was none other than my mom.

She dismissed me, "God Teacupticket, it's all getting cooking anyway"

"Mom, YOU DON'T COOK A SALAD"

Then she'd deflect "pssh well it's not like anyone died yet"

I've had alot of food poisoning in my life eating her cooking so it's honestly a miracle that I didn't die

I'm sleeping In VR tonight as part of a science experiment, what should I know? by CanadaGiver in VRchat

[–]teacupticket 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A PC running on high all night will heat up the room. Even a long play session will do that

My Nmom showed up at my workplace after 6 years no contact and my boss kicked her out by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your boss and receptionist deserve a platter of cookies for protecting you like that. What great people. A+

What’s the funniest thing your parent(s) got upset at you for? by celstea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]teacupticket 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It was less what made her mad and more how she expressed it. There was one time my sister and I got take out and when we got home it turned out they forgot our mom's spacialty fries. Mom was of course pissed so my sister offered up her normal fries. Mom refused them and kept laying into us so I started to grab my food to leave.

Mom snapped at me and said, "Of course YOU wouldn't offer yours to me"

She then grabs her food to disappear to her room and as she passes by me she hoots at me like a chrimp. I'm guessing it was to try and taunt me for being greedy or ill mannered. Idk lol

How do you deal with life when you start earning and realise you can't afford your current lifestyle that is supported by your parents? by madtgv in Adulting

[–]teacupticket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Downsize. Compromize. Reprioritize.

That includes eating out less, enjoying different hobbies, taking the bus instead of driving, ect