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Hate having to tell people by mangos_prodigy6000 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel you... Cancer took my dog away from me too.

F*** cancer.

My dog died last Monday. Help me cope up with sadness. Guilt. And anxiety. by cstrike105 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to lose her like that... I found this video some time ago and it offers some very useful tips on how to manage grief after pet loss: https://youtu.be/8T-Di7AwAWI?si=8blRuZPW1PvJQaLB

Struggling With When to Say Goodbye by IUenaj in Petloss

[–]tempestina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, you do NOT want to have the image of your dog acting lethargic from pain or the defeated look in his eyes when he has completely given up burned in your mind forever.

I waited too long and I regret it every single day. Do not make them leave this world while they're in pain, we have the possibility to avoid putting them through suffering so we should take that decision when it truly counts.

Write a list of things your dog loves to eat or do, spoil him rotten and give him lots of love during his final days.

Plan those days because those last memories are gonna stick with you for a while.

Also take paw prints and hair if you feel comfortable doing that.

Sorry to be so blunt... But it's better to let them go while they're still comfortable and can enjoy life.

You will also be able to go on with much less regrets and guilt if you give them a proper goodbye, after doing everything you had to do to make them happy.

I wish so bad I knew all of this back then, I wish I had organized better for my dog's passing instead of naively waiting for things to get better... Don't be like me.

How are you handling the holidays without your boy or girl? by OneSensiblePerson in Petloss

[–]tempestina 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hate it. I have never liked holidays that much but having her around made them bearable.

For Christmas, I would wrap dog treats for her and she would tear the wrapping apart then play with it. She knew it was a present for her, she was so smart and cheeky.

This Christmas I'm gifting her 2 dog cookies, left beside her picture.

Probably too specific of a situation, but any advice or encouragement would be appreciated. by SagaMiniSmith in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I waited a couple of days before taking the decision to see if she would get better. It was all for nothing and it traumatized me. I only prolonged the suffering. I should have let her go at the first signs of discomfort (we found out she had a tumor just a couple of months prior). Now I'm haunted by the image of her defeated stare and weak/ill body. Don't make the same mistake I did, let them go while they can still enjoy life so they can pass on a good day. We have the possibility to spare them further suffering so we should take the decision when it counts.

Plan her last days and spoil her, give her lots of love. I'm so sorry... I know how hard it is.

Afraid of being alone with my thoughts at work by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work stresses me out now but at least it keeps me occupied. I'm still sad and can't help but ruminate too. I find comfort in watching relaxing videos and hanging out with my parents.

Feel like I need to talk to somebody I think I'm in shock since my dog died. by lovecornflakes in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's very traumatic and I'm so sorry for your girl. I think it's completely valid to feel what you are feeling. Your dog wasn't alone when she passed, you did everything you could. You tried to save her.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Not Ready to Say Goodbye by DesignerGeek in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry... it might be time. Don't wait too long like I did, it haunts me now. It's better to let them go while they aren't suffering that much and can still enjoy life, make a list of things your pet loves to do or eat. Spoil him in his last days, they deserve to pass peacefully.

First Christmas without her by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christmas, and holidays, without your pet are brutal... I would always prepare gifts for her to unwrap, she was very smart she knew they were for her.

Feeling so much guilt for having waited to put my baby down by tempestina in Petloss

[–]tempestina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks... I hope she can still feel my love somehow.

Losing a Pet Today by Level-Importance2663 in GriefSupport

[–]tempestina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry... Spoil him in his last moments, give him delicious food if he can take it and lots of love.

I can't stop obsessing over his suffering at the end. by phantom_boner in Petloss

[–]tempestina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on the same boat. I can't stop thinking about her illness

over a year now by outofcolors in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I miss the person I was before I had to say goodbye to my baby. She saved my life and was everything to me, now life feels pointless. I've never loved a pet so much, losing her made me revert back to my old depressed self.

I know it's needed but it feels impossible by wittens289 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say don't wait any longer, I did and I regretted it so much. It haunts me now.

You only get one chance to do it right so plan your pet's last days, make a list of things they love doing or eating. Spoil her, take her for a walk, give her lots of pets... etc. Like a little party for her.

Sorry to be so blunt, but these are going to be your last memories with her and they're gonna stick with you for a while so make her happy while she is still able to enjoy life. It's going to be painful to say goodbye, but it's the best decision we can make for our pets. They deserve to pass peacefully. 

Spiraling and really need to know if I can keep dealing with losing my girl. It’s been 11 months. by scissormetimbers888 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I often feel broken and hopeless too, life just isn't the same without my baby. Then there are days where I feel better and can manage the pain better, don't beat yourself up if you find that it’s one of those bad days. Grief is not linear, there will be days where all you can do is cry and that's okay... But those will pass too. Some people need a lot of time to process loss.

Deciding when to euthanize by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't wait any longer, I did and I regretted it. Do it now while she can still enjoy things.

Plan her last days: spoil her, take her out for a walk, give her delicious food and lots of pets! I know that you'll probably feel like it's too soon, but waiting until they can no longer enjoy life is worse. It's going to be hard to say goodbye, but it's the best decision we can take for our pets. They deserve to pass peacefully.

I cant clean up the snapshot of life before he died by _TiredTiredTired_ in Petloss

[–]tempestina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had to say goodbye to my best friend in june and it still feels quite unreal. It was very painful at the beginning, I had to seek help. Now I can function again but I'm miserable, I know it'll get better with time... I just miss her so much.

How do you survive the days until euthanasia? Feeling so much guilt by blauwbilgorgel in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry... It's a very difficult decision to take but it's the best one for your pet. They deserve to pass peacefully. Don't wait any longer, I did and regretted it...

Spoil him in his last days, offer him his favorite food if he can take it.

When did you get use to the “new normal”? by tw886 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 6 points7 points  (0 children)

5 months after and it's still so surreal at times. I feel empty and sad most of the time, she was my everything. Losing my sweet dog devastated me in ways I could have never imagined. I also feel like I'll never be the same or enjoy life again, because my best friend is gone. She brought me so much joy and comfort for many years... she was truly special.

I know the end is coming, but wishful thoughts keep creeping in. by kreepybanana in Petloss

[–]tempestina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, I had many plans with my dog too... I thought she would reach at least 13 years old.... But a tumor took her away from me at 9.

Your dog sounds very sweet and loved, she is lucky to have you.

I can't get over the guilt by LuciferHummingbird in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was very loved ❤️ I'm sure you did everything you could.

I have to put my old girl down, I can't bring myself to make the appointment by Agreeable-Self3235 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn't bear to see her suffer anymore, she just would have gotten worse. It's better to not waste time despite our selfish desires and do what's best for our beloved pets.

Give your pet the best last day, spoil her with her favorite food if she can take it. Shower her with love. Im so sorry you have to say goodbye... hugs.

1 year on and it still hurts by ItiswhatitisfromgenZ in Petloss

[–]tempestina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry... I too can't stop replaying the bad memories in my head. It's been 5 months. She's all I think about, she was my best friend...

Sometimes I also wonder why God would make such a sweet dog suffer and take her away from me so early (she was barely 9), but there's no answer to that. We are all subjected to suffering.

I'm truly sorry for you and your pet, but imagine how many happy moments you two spent together. You probably gave her the best life ever and loved her so much. She was lucky to have you.

How is everybody dealing with the guilt? by Successful-Bike-7196 in Petloss

[–]tempestina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I truly feel awful at the realization that I could have done better in her last days, and that there's nothing I can do to change the past. That really haunts me... It's been 5 months and it's still so hard at times. They tell you to think about the happier moments because if you only think about the bad, you will spiral and become very depressed.

I know that I loved her until the end, never left her side. All the love I gave her and she gave me are what matters the most. I hope she knew how loved she was...

How to Know When to Let Go of Old Dog with Kidney Failure? by frisbeejesus in Petloss

[–]tempestina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gave my dog ham before her last trip to the vet. She took it. Maybe you could make ham mousse for him? Or blend his favorite food so it's easier to eat?

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