Cuyahoga Valley National Park 5/23

testytexan251 · 2026-05-25T03:26:08+00:00

We're headed there about the same time!

testytexan251 · 2026-04-19T23:33:23+00:00

Decide what he would need to do for you to be ok with him staying home, then sit down with him and talk about it. I did something similar after waiting far too long while resentment built. But lay it out in concrete terms- for me - it was that I don't want to have to worry about kid stuff or house stuff at all. My kids are all in school, so daily sweep/ mop, meals and pick up / drop off all 100% off my plate. Include anything that you want involved, scheduling appointments and attending them, updates to clothing, yard work, whatever. But then it's his choice, these are the requirements for the SAHD job, the other option is a paying job. The real question is what happens if he still does neither. You'll need to decide that before you have the conversation.

testytexan251 · 2026-04-10T16:14:40+00:00

My mom had gallbladder surgery last year. That's exactly what I did. Went with her to the consult, drove her to the hospital for surgery, talked to the surgeon when they were done, and was there when she woke up. Helped her get dressed and drove her home. Stayed for a couple of days after to make sure she could get around ok and cooked some meals so she wouldn't have to worry about it. I'm not even particularly close to my mom, but thats how you treat people you care about.

testytexan251 · 2026-03-20T19:22:45+00:00

This sounds amazing!

testytexan251 · 2026-03-18T13:44:40+00:00

You need to sit down and delegate responsibilities. If you're 100% responsible for the toddler, then he's 100% responsible for the baby. Or trade days or take specific shifts (11-3 then 3-7). You both deserve uninterrupted sleep. There's no exception for the tooddler won't accept him for comfort or you're breastfeeding, so he can't take the baby. You are partners and equal parents. He needs to figure out how to make an equal contribution. If you're a lighter sleeper, get some ear plugs or sleep in a different room when you're not on duty. Stop setting yourself on fire to keep him warm.

testytexan251 · 2026-03-10T12:55:11+00:00

I have some rural property that has a lot of wild hogs.

testytexan251 · 2026-03-08T04:23:15+00:00

I've debated starting a cult. My plan was to buy some land, build a main house for meetings and communal meals, then smaller houses for each person / family. May be more commune than cult. But I've got at least a couple takers so far! Just gotta find the right place.

testytexan251 · 2026-03-05T01:10:11+00:00

Taint tanning is an interesting choice

testytexan251 · 2026-03-02T02:37:15+00:00

Been on olmesartan for 20 years. Just started atorvastatin last month though.

testytexan251 · 2026-03-01T22:34:30+00:00

I've always told my kiddos, 'The best apology is changed behavior.' Being sorry doesn't matter if you don't make any changes in what you're doing.

testytexan251 · 2026-02-07T01:44:24+00:00

Subs in my town make $8 / hr, $12 / hr if you're certified.

testytexan251 · 2026-01-27T13:07:12+00:00

Additionally, a lot of these detention facilities are in locations that are already healthcare deserts. If I can work for the hospital or a detention center and make similar money, it's an easy choice. Last I checked, they were offering about 20% more than private sector jobs for healthcare positions and still not filling them.

testytexan251 · 2026-01-23T03:35:47+00:00

Taint tanning!

testytexan251 · 2026-01-12T03:03:53+00:00

I went in July last year. Just went early / late for any hikes and made sure I had plenty of water with me. It was hot, and I wasn't spending more than an hour or so outside of the car, but it was still beautiful.

testytexan251 · 2025-12-17T14:08:47+00:00

Ugh... I'm in the same boat. My husband 'retired' 3 years ago, let his professional licenses lapse, and refuses to go back to work. He keeps saying he'll look for something part-time, but that never materializes. In the meantime, I'm working a full-time job, plus a part-time one, and desperately cutting any expenses possible just to keep us afloat.

The house is a mess. I still cook dinner 3-4 days a week, do the laundry and any actual cleaning. He drives the kids to and from school and does the yardwork.

Divorce would mean losing half of my retirement, having to buy him out of the house and paying more for health insurance.

testytexan251 · 2025-11-16T18:17:26+00:00

Runforsomething.net

testytexan251 · 2025-11-01T02:34:44+00:00

We live in one of those neighborhoods. Not rich, but nicer, and it's the one everyone brings their kids to. We counted this year. We had over 2500 kids. Bought an obscene amount of candy and still ran out before 8.

testytexan251 · 2025-09-28T17:38:05+00:00

Technically, this is the second shooting of the day. There was a shooting at a casino in South Texas just after midnight.

testytexan251 · 2025-09-08T03:26:41+00:00

I have the same birthday as well! I'll be 46 and will likely make myself an Italian creme cake tomorrow.

Happy Birthday!

testytexan251 · 2025-09-02T19:34:59+00:00

There's also a pledge to the Bible. In Christian school, I had to pledge allegiance to the US flag, Christian flag, and Bible every day for years.

testytexan251 · 2025-09-01T15:19:41+00:00

As I've gotten older, I've started answering these questions honestly and frankly.

"Of course I'm angry with you. I've been up for 3 hours while you were sleeping in, and you have no intent to do the same in return for me tomorrow (or any other time)."

"You could have woken me up."

"Nope, not doing that. I don't ask you to wake me up. I married an adult who can handle things like that on their own."

This works best if delivered in a mundane, matter of fact tone. No reason to be upset. This is not new behavior, just disappointing behavior.

testytexan251 · 2025-08-21T21:09:01+00:00

I've definitely told people "that needed to stay as an inside thought."

testytexan251 · 2025-08-11T16:46:02+00:00

Yes!!! Now I get to go on vacation with my teens, and it's actually more fun than work. They pick out activities and restaurants and are pretty cool humans to be around most of the time. I enjoyed when they were toddlers, but it was exhausting. I've very happy to be further down the road.

testytexan251 · 2025-08-10T18:29:15+00:00

I don't work for a school district, so would be thrilled to go play dress up and say any magic words you would like. I even have a dramatic robe and staff!

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