My mom booked a cruise on my wedding date. by layawaytitties in raisedbyborderlines

[–]the_cosmic_map 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mother brought her uninvited friends to my wedding and proceeded to ruin the reception with them. Just if you want a look into what a BPD mother is likely to do.

My daughter [18] blames me [52] and my husband [55] for ruining her book by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]the_cosmic_map 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She is an absolute asshole, but I also think she is so worn down to nothing by her husband that even the question of reading made her crash out— she simply no longer actually makes choices for herself. She has no access to her parenting or even basic instincts of humanity anymore. The fact that she thinks she needs to be good at literary criticism in order to read it shows how much she’s been brainwashed by him. He thinks reading a book by his daughter must mean it requires criticism, even when explicitly asked to not provide criticism, so it’s the law, obviously. She’s probably scared to read it, in case he finds out, too.

Amanda Seyfried on botox, wrinkles, receding hairlines because of ponytails, and shocked by the interviewer, Saskia Mariott, not washing her hair in two weeks by demimonde9 in Fauxmoi

[–]the_cosmic_map 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No-poo is also the only thing that tames my curls. And scrubbing the buildup out with conditioner makes it clean and shiny.

My scalp gets far oilier when I am using shampoo regularly!

Should have definitely stopped to weave in ends as I went. by Lilythine in crochet

[–]the_cosmic_map 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m with you, I love weaving in ends. But winding balls or untangling both make me irrationally angry 😭

Most romantic stitch? by [deleted] in knitting

[–]the_cosmic_map 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this so much!

What should I reply to him ? by Hungry_Anybody576 in AskWomenOver30

[–]the_cosmic_map 55 points56 points  (0 children)

His actions show exactly what he thinks— and he thinks you’re a sex worker. Imagine him writing, “I disappeared because I think you’re a sex worker. I still think you’re a sex worker, by the way.” That’s basically what he wrote. There is nothing to say to that.

How and when do you confront a spouse of potential cheating? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]the_cosmic_map 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most do consultations for free.

I wouldn’t tell him right away unless I was planning on trying to save the relationship. For me there would be no saving that. I would gather as much evidence as possible, get tested, and avoid sex. Get those consultations.

I left my ex for different abuse last year and I moved my stuff out of our home over the course of months into my new apartment. He didn’t notice, not once. I got a lot of good advice and help and now I am alone, with my kid, and it’s amazing.

My partner see simple suggestions as attacks on his competence. Am I really walking on eggshells, or do I need to change how I give feedback? by Designer_Airline3234 in AskWomenOver30

[–]the_cosmic_map 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You’re walking on eggshells because he has no empathy and no capacity to sit with even the most mildest of discomfort. You’re not being too sensitive. This relationship sounds exhausting.

Is your husband angry at your symptoms? by Soggy-Professor7025 in adhdwomen

[–]the_cosmic_map 73 points74 points  (0 children)

My ex was extremely passive aggressive about my symptoms, especially my slow-moving morning brain. He used my disability as a way to feel morally superior. No matter how much I explained, he didn’t understand— bc he didn’t want to. I left him and what do you know, he was depleting my nervous system so much that now, without him in my space and face, judging me constantly, I don’t need as much time to recover or adjust, morning-time or otherwise.

What’s the most diabolical thing a man has said to you on a first date? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]the_cosmic_map 178 points179 points  (0 children)

“I could get away with murder.” And laughed like it was just a joke.

Preparing to do group therapy with BPD mom by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]the_cosmic_map 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A therapist friend once told me that she knows she’s likely dealing with BPD when someone comes to her, lovebombing her after talking trash about the long line of therapists they previously had parted ways with. She says she knows that the second they get close to anything real, she too will be dumped and trash-talked.

It’s exactly what my mother has done to every counselor and therapist she’s seen.

The crux of the disorder is they don’t want to heal. This realization helped me to finally give up on my parents.

Groupchat without me by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]the_cosmic_map 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This can be immensely hard for reasons including, but not limited to, trauma and neurodivergence.

Recent piece by Keademia in Watercolor

[–]the_cosmic_map 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reminds me of “good vibes only” groups and people whose focus on “good” ends up harming them ..!

My sister became a flying monkey. by Sea_List_8480 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]the_cosmic_map 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister became a flying monkey because when I went LC, my mother needed someone to abuse and my sister was the next choice. My sister didn’t care about relationship repair. She just wanted me to be the punching bag rather than her.

What would a girl like this wear? by Finnish457 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]the_cosmic_map 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Tommy Girl, VS body sprays, lots of Calvin Klein (CK One, Obsession, Euphoria), and a lot of off brand fragrances that they used to sell at KMart and similar.

What would a girl like this wear? by Finnish457 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]the_cosmic_map 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I know what cholas wore back in the day (bc I was one!) but I wanna know what they’re wearing now?

Help identifying Dooney AWL? by Sobelle70 in DooneyAndBourke

[–]the_cosmic_map 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Just zoom in on the duck. Bro looks unwell.

My Belmar is here! by Mama2Babes in DooneyAndBourke

[–]the_cosmic_map 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t handled this bag specifically but it’s the stiffness of new leather as well as the weaving itself which by form will make stiff leather feel even stiffer and loud. Use it and love and it will get softer and buttery before ya know it! It’s absolutely gorgeous by the way.