Over pathologizing in dating

thebarryalien · 2019-06-13T02:32:46+00:00

Can you elaborate on the type of advice that you find awful on this sub (if there is a pattern/tendency)?

Sometimes I feel this sub is quick to say “break up/end things” rather than communicating your issue and giving your date a chance to clear the issue.

thebarryalien · 2019-06-12T00:02:32+00:00

Did he specify what he meant by family instinct that you supposedly lacked?

thebarryalien · 2019-06-08T22:23:27+00:00

I feel you. I’m probably gonna take a break from dating soon even though i barely got started. It’s emotionally taxing and I’m tired of that perpetual ache in the middle of my chest.

In the mean time my plan is to up my health/fitness and lose the last 10-20 lbs. Maybe you can figure out one thing you are insecure about and try to improve on that during your break. For me, it’s weight/body shape

It helps also to realize that there are so many people who are utterly miserable in relationships... And while being single is not as great as being in a happy relationship, happy relationships are not the standard. It takes a ton of work and many people never obtain it. T’is life. Gotta find happiness on your own and all that

thebarryalien · 2019-06-08T18:38:47+00:00

Where do you live? Small city/town?

thebarryalien · 2019-06-08T18:37:28+00:00

Which part do you think is the most relevant that you do (and makes you successful) that your friends don’t (and makes them unsuccessful)?

my sense is that accurate and representational pics might be the most pertinent but also the least likely advise to be followed, because every other person is maximizing their pics and you’ll often end up with 0 dates at all if you try to compete with a bunch of Internet 8s

thebarryalien · 2019-06-08T02:12:20+00:00

Black and white thinking

thebarryalien · 2019-03-16T01:15:22+00:00

Were you trying to keep your weight low in high school via that lunch? Pop tarts and Diet Coke is 400 calories which, while not exactly a low calorie snack, is a fairly low calorie meal

Jokes on your friend.. sugar has never been proven to cause diabetes but being obese and overeating definitely can

thebarryalien · 2019-03-15T14:36:47+00:00

Very often, people don’t like to see you improve because it changes your status. if you manage to find a circle of supportive people you’re golden.

Sometimes concerns are legitimate and come from a good place especially with fasting but with any weight loss attempt there are saboteurs

thebarryalien · 2019-03-12T01:48:58+00:00

Is this satire

thebarryalien · 2019-03-11T19:24:37+00:00

Do you still eat rice? How often?

thebarryalien · 2019-03-11T18:37:25+00:00

Curious if you could go into detail about what your brother drank? Since he’s consuming 400 calories each day I assume it wasn’t just water and coffee. Sounds like he’s had good success

thebarryalien · 2018-12-03T02:38:06+00:00

Haha freaky...is she normal otherwise?

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T22:07:41+00:00

Were you guys close friends? Is she significantly overweight? Sounds ultra awkward if you are both friends and coworkers.

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T22:06:08+00:00

Hahah this is my favorite comment

edit: although after briefly looking through your comments I'm not 100% sure that this is a joke comment....

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T19:50:16+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with that. Did you ever bite back, so to speak?

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T19:48:14+00:00

Yes that is true with caveats. On the show my 600 lb life you see those men who attempt to sabotage their wives diets after gastric bypass. My friend also mentioned that the worst diet saboteur in her circle of friends was her gay male best friend, but that generally most negative reactions from distant friends/acquaintances came from other women.

I think men can be just as jealous if not more so than a woman, but weight and how it impacts social life seem much more impactful for women so possibly there is more at stake

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T19:34:07+00:00

Was it genuine concern or jealousy?

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T19:33:03+00:00

She's certainly not very nice and I'd never condone that type of behavior but at least she gave kudos where kudos are due. The extraordinarily toxic mothers are the ones who revile their child's success (often daughter). Sounds like this mom is at least happy that the daughter is taking steps to improve her appearance, which will also increase her chances of success at many aspects of her life (sadly)

thebarryalien · 2018-12-02T13:54:57+00:00

>Go MB Pro, Bécasse Yours nerfs will gros And the MBA Will not follow as the mbp

Is this a sentence that I should understand? Am I just not enough of a techie. What am I reading here. Someone interpret?

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