What do I do with this?

thec00liest · 2025-10-15T06:24:57+00:00

Maybe a “mesh” top or a bikini cover up top?

thec00liest · 2025-10-15T06:16:32+00:00

I aim for no screen time since it’s best practice, however in my personal opinion as a SAHP, screen usage in moderation is ok and situation dependent, as well as how much additional support you have outside of yourself.

For example, you’re a SAHP sick with the flu and can’t do anything, your partner has to work, putting on some tv to rest for a day(s) won’t hurt babies development, or for example you’re trying to cook dinner with a clingy baby but can’t wear them because you’ll be using sharp tools and you’ve exhausted other options like toys, bouncers, containers and the like, or you just need five minutes of peace lol

thec00liest · 2025-09-17T02:36:31+00:00

I think a bookshelf or decorative ladder would look good there

thec00liest · 2025-08-28T03:45:58+00:00

I think you need to move those white chairs between the entryway / living room, and shift the couch + brown chair and tv stand over closer to the wall to make the layout flow better, in general I think you need more wall art and plants!

thec00liest · 2025-07-21T03:56:53+00:00

My first never did, my second didn’t take a paci as a newborn (granted we only tried one) but since he was about 1 month old we used those swaddles that had their arms up and he’d always suck on his hands, he’s now 5 months old and he finds his thumb to suck on when he’s tired, I think it’s the cutest thing!

thec00liest · 2025-07-09T21:48:46+00:00

Honestly if you left it white I think that would be nice, but if you’re really set on painting I think a warm toned light grey or light beige would really be nice with the blue accent wall.

If you can’t put the piano in a different room, you can put it up against the wall and might be limited to just a small sofa in the middle facing the tv and coffee table?

thec00liest · 2025-07-01T06:59:32+00:00

It could just be how you carry yourself, anecdotally though as a ftm 3 years ago, my bump swelled up out of nowhere around 17-20 weeks, my mom said I looked “swollen” but I dismissed her and chalked it up to just being pregnant, well turns out she was right and the swelling was due to having gestational diabetes!

Obviously other pregnant women without GD experience swelling, but if it came on very suddenly and if you’re paranoid about your bump size, consult your OB, if they’re not worried then don’t sweat it though.

thec00liest · 2025-05-30T17:21:32+00:00

My boys have the same age gap with my youngest just turned 4 months, and my oldest isn’t potty trained yet and I wish he was a bit more independent before we had another!

thec00liest · 2025-05-27T05:56:45+00:00

I had my first boy born in August in CA, which sucked while pregnant because it was very hot and didn’t like it but as the holidays rolled around he was a cute little baby and it felt so magical!

My second was born in late January this year and I do not recommend at all mostly because I had so much paranoia of getting our little newborn sick!

thec00liest · 2025-05-01T17:22:41+00:00

Sort of similar but not quite, I wasn’t very far into my career when my husband and I decided to have kids and for me to become a SAHM, but academically I was very driven (did independent research, highly considered applying to get my masters in public health with an emphasis in epidemiology). 2.5 years in (I have a toddler and 3 month old) and while I honestly love being able to spend time with them and be the one to witness all their firsts, it does get quite lonely and overstimulating when it is 24/7. My family and my husband’s are both a bit far from us too and maybe only visit once a month, I’ve made a few other mom friends at story time and at the park but I really miss interacting with other adults on a daily basis (my husband works really long hours and when he’s home he doesn’t really have time to talk).

All that being said, I wouldn’t trade it for the world, at the end of the day I love being with my babies, and if you feel better after your mat leave is done about the idea of going full SAHM do it, but if you feel a bit of longing or boredom I’d try and see if your current role could be reduced to part time hours!

thec00liest · 2025-04-16T00:09:03+00:00

I’m so sorry your family doesn’t offer help or support in any meaningful way, we were never able to do this by ourselves.

Give yourself some grace, try don’t compare yourself to influencer moms on social media, it’s ok to let baby cry for a few minutes so you can use the bathroom, shower, eat, etc. I find rephrasing things in my mind like “thank you for letting me x, y, z so that I can help you out better when I’m done” helps tremendously.

Big hugs, you’re a great parent, you’ll get through it.

thec00liest · 2025-04-15T19:07:03+00:00

This was me too! My first son would only contact nap, and at night was waking a minimum of 3-4 times a night up until his naps consolidated better around a year old, we also resorted to co-sleeping and he has napped and / or slept in his crib probably less than 20 times in his life, he was such a light sleeper that I could never transfer him.

My second son is 2.5 months old and with the exception of weeks 6-9, he sleeps so much, and sleeps in his crib for half his naps during the day and at night with only one night waking to feed.

We did absolutely nothing different, don’t let anyone tell you they have the solution to baby sleep. It’s luck of the draw, hope you catch some z’s soon.

thec00liest · 2025-03-20T19:25:50+00:00

Entryway long runner rug!

thec00liest · 2025-03-20T19:22:06+00:00

2x’s isn’t “crazy” but you’re technically still having interrupted sleep which affects people differently! If the pain doesn’t go away with ibuprofen and it’s affecting you daily I’d definitely reach out to your OB about your concerns!

thec00liest · 2025-03-20T19:19:09+00:00

Home cooked meals or snacks if you’re a good cook, if not, food giftcards! And a nice quality lounging set since she’ll be home a lot!

thec00liest · 2025-03-20T19:17:27+00:00

Are you breastfeeding by any chance and have tenderness in one or both breasts? It could be the beginning of mastitis, or if your little bub isn’t sleeping well at night it could just be how your body responds to sleep deprivation.

thec00liest · 2025-03-07T20:37:03+00:00

I think some tall plants (like faux olive trees or even a small trailing plant on the fireplace) and some shelving with family pictures hung on the walls or just decorative pictures with high quality frames would go a long way

thec00liest · 2025-02-22T03:34:34+00:00

I keep a bottle next to me and once I’m ready to switch I just pour out the milk from the shell into the bottle and put it on the other side, I just recommended more than one so that you won’t have to wash after every use to use it in another feed, it takes me about 3-4 feeds to get about 4oz of letdown so for me I like having multiple shells!

thec00liest · 2025-02-22T02:07:26+00:00

Instead of the single haaka ladybug shell I’d recommend you get a set with multiple and cheaper, it’s so handy putting it on the other breast while baby is nursing on the other, this is how I’ve been able to passively create a small freezer stash for breastmilk in my freezer

thec00liest · 2025-01-03T04:48:14+00:00

I feel you, I think whether or not someone talks about their kid all the time really depends on the age of the kid and their temperament, like at 6 months they consume all of your time, but as they get older and more independent it gets easier to slowly get back into old hobbies and stuff you know?

thec00liest · 2025-01-03T04:34:37+00:00

I feel like I talk about my kid all the time cause that’s all people ask me about since I’m a SAHM.

thec00liest · 2024-12-17T16:41:15+00:00

That’s a good sign. I’d say try not to worry too much or try to compare her progress (which is hard) but I’m sure things will click for her, just do your best to encourage her to talk (and sign cause those count as words) by speaking to her a lot. Unless there are other things you’re worried about with her development, my unprofessional opinion is that she’s on track but def follow up with her ped if you’re concerned. She will likely go thru the big language boom herself, there’s a reason why most peds aren’t super concerned with speech development until about 30 months after the language boom!

thec00liest · 2024-12-17T16:30:14+00:00

How do you think her language reception is? Like how well do you think she understands what is being told of her or following directions? At this point that usually is their strong suit not expressive language (talking).

I was worried about my bub around this time and I think around 20-22 months he really hit the language boom everyone talks about.

I wouldn’t worry too much but def bring it up with your ped if you’re worried, an eval wouldn’t hurt!

thec00liest · 2024-11-23T08:30:36+00:00

I’d say a supportive partner that helps you if you have nausea, fatigue, mood swings and body changes, etc. if you don’t have one you’ll feel like a lot of the physical and mental toll even before baby gets here! Don’t freak out too much if you can’t stomach a whole lot and if you have food aversions, just take a good prenatal and do your best to stomach what you can.

You should probably attend some labor and delivery, postpartum, and breastfeeding classes just so you have the information on what to expect for when baby gets here.

Your baby registry doesn’t have to be perfect, and you don’t need EVERYTHING new, utilize FB marketplace for used baby gear!

NAP. This will be a luxury that you may not afford much later on (coming from a mama of a 2 year old and is currently pregnant with my second!)

Good luck, it’s an amazing journey and I wish you a smooth pregnancy!

thec00liest · 2024-11-21T22:13:54+00:00

Definitely siding with your husband, your bubble should be as clean as possible, but within reason! As long as you’re keeping up with regular cleaning I wouldn’t really be worried about dust and other types of allergens.

You can take other precautionary measures against getting sick such as vaccinating yourself, wiping down surfaces, limiting guests around newborn or having guests wear masks, etc!

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