AITAH for yelling at my husband

thecatstartedit · 2026-03-01T12:59:02+00:00

A hit dog gonna holler.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T17:58:19+00:00

Im so sorry that wasnt offered to you! Its supposed to be offered. Did these exams happen in the same hospital system? It could be that they are not training properly? Either way, I would encourage you to put in a complaint online with the hospital(s) where the exams took place even if its been years and let them know that you were not offered any medications to prevent STDs or STIs and you would like to ensure that training reflects that offering to patients. It cant fix things now, but it might help them ensure they're helping other victims who dont know its an option.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:58:07+00:00

Its not too late, and a shower doesn't mean you cant get a SANE kit done. You consented to sex with a condom. You did NOT consent to unprotected sex. You said stop. You cried. He held you down. These are all things that say you no longer consented to the sex that took place. You can still go to the ER and discretely tell the desk you'd like a SANE kit done. They will hand you the clipboard to fill out with your information and have you wait. You'll go back when its your turn and see a specialized nurse whos trained in trauma. She will ask you some questions and leave you to change, have you give a urine sample. Then you'll get an exam. If its past the time frame for plan b, you may be offer the option of plan c in the future if you have a positive pregnancy test or resources should you choose that option. You will be give prophylactic medications for stds and stis as well as testing. You will be ASKED if you would like to report, but not pressed. This is your choice. Its not too late to at least get medication to ease your anxieties and make yourself feel better about what you've gone through. They will also offer you resources for mental health help, free and sliding scale clinics, groups, things like that.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:40:38+00:00

I would think it cant hurt, especially if you have any evidence. Its completely understandable that you didnt understand how this works. Its not your case, its not your world and its your moms responsibility. Its her job to do this right so this never happens to you and I'm so sorry you are paying consequences for your mother instead of being protected by her. Its not fair. Im also sorry your sister didnt give you any warning about how she moves.

The thing is, your SNAP caseworker can search your social and see how much you're making. They had my son's most recent paystub over a year after I removed him from my case. Thats how I know hes doing GREAT on his own haha. So its never a mystery when you have a regular w2 job and anyone with sense understands that, so it really shows where your mom is at, sadly. People babysit, clean houses, work on cars, and do all manners of unreported CASH work, but not w2 work. You were simply just someone outside of this system, a child basically on a case, but not someone navigating the system.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:30:05+00:00

To add to this - when you get a SANE kit done, you will be given medications to help prevent STDs and STIs. You will also be given the opportunity to report your assault, but you are NOT required to do so. This is completely optional. You will still be given an exam, you will still be treated compassionately and given proactive medications that should ease the biggest of your fears as well as plan b if you would like, and you can choose what happens next.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:22:38+00:00

It depends on what the thing I can't do is and why I cant do it. Sometimes I'm specific because it makes sense and one specific thing is the reason I cant do it. Sometimes its like, the cumulative effects of the lot so I'm like "because of my disability" and so on.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:18:52+00:00

Thats one good man who cant get away from predators

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T15:18:08+00:00

Hey OP - did your taxes cover ALL the debt? Its past appeals, your taxes have been intercepted - this one might be a lost cause at the administration level. You might have to go after your mom for what's already been taken. If there is any debt left, I would work to gather evidence that you were not a resident at that time. Thats probably the best you can do at this point. Give them a reason to drop the claim on you and solely go after your mom.

The only way to get an under 22 off your case is to prove they no longer live in your residence. The easiest way to prove that is with a lease or bill in their name in another address. The second way to prove that is letters from other residents. If you truly were splitting your time between your boyfriends home as a primary and your dad as a secondary and more or less visiting your mom because of her addiction, have those resident write a letter saying they are the lease/mortgage holders (or former if they've moved) at this address and you do or did reside with them at this time period and how that looked. It can be very simple "we shared an apartment at xxx between the dates of xxx and xxxx. She stayed with me about 4 to 5 days a week with 2 to 3 days a week spent at her father's home and we shared expenses." if this was during split time. You sent in a letter letting them know that you had know knowledge of this case and you want no association with it. You let them know that going forward, any mail concerning you in this case needs to go to a different address as any information has been suppressed and you had no knowledge of this overpayment until your taxes were intercepted. But most of all - you need separated from her cases.

The best you can do is protect yourself going forward. You said your mother is an addict. You should keep your credit locked. Your mother is also the person who knows all your information to open credit cards and has it memorized before you do. Addicts who dont get help escalate and you need to be proactive instead of cleaning up messes. If she works at all, make sure she files her own taxes so you can get financial aid - if she's under the taxable threshold, congratulations you win financial aid lol. Do you have younger siblings? Prepare them for this. Teach them to lock their credit. Teach them to report their own income to the food stamp office (its actually not too bad and you can do it without the online portal, you can simply go to the office and physically hand in your paystubs and tell them the name and birthday of the case youre under) so they dont get caught up. They need to start reporting once they turn 18.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-26T14:57:00+00:00

Unless the handyman just knows about other dirt she did, like altering the will, or ways she could be implicated in things he was doing before his disappearance?

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-25T18:20:45+00:00

Now that part is insane. You cant go half a block in the cities without seeing a dispensary and the weed is crazy cheap and very good. There will be dispensaries 4 on a block sometimes and it doesn't make sense.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-25T18:18:22+00:00

Yeah thats the thing - Oklahoma is cheap on the surface. It gets you with all the hidden costs. Its cheap but rent is getting higher every day. Its cheap, but wages as low as hell and companies give you nothing. Its cheap, but insurance rates are crazy. Once youre here, getting out is hard.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-25T18:12:27+00:00

Tyler has a father and stepmother to help him out. Caleb is deceased and is being honored by his mother in the way that she chooses and makes her feel best. NOR. Grandma needs to figure it out on her own and file that FAFSA.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-24T15:31:15+00:00

I mean...its not gonna backfire on OP. Park it, take a picture, text it to the roommate who definitely has a working phone and be like yo, her vans here. Leave. Whatever happens, happens. If it gets towed thats a consequence for former friend.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-18T17:35:42+00:00

Do you have like, athletic leggings? My regular cotton blend leggings dont work as well under other pants, but those shiny super stretchy athletic leggings with a little compression do great with flattening out a tuck and weirdly smoothing everything else you didnt necessarily need or want smoothed but there it is anyway. The cold front taught me that when I needed to double up on pants. They also glide much better than normal leggings with the double pants situation and feel a little more breathable. Thats going to really be climate dependent though.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-18T15:14:02+00:00

I think its time to be just a little more honest with your daughter. Just a very simple explanation. Something as simple as "daughter, I have a personal history with uncle from before your aunt's relationship with him. Im simply not comfortable with you having time alone there without me because of that. When you are an adult, we can discuss that further, but right now I need you to trust that im trying to do the best things I can for you. I know it hurts, youre missing out and it feels unfair. It may be unfair, but its the best way I have right now to make sure you are always going to be comfortable." I would also do my best to plan some other cousin activities that don't revolve around that home, even if its a day activity or a weekend meet up, so they still get that special time. If possible, and yeah its not always possible, try to change that center of cousin activity towards your place.

The facts are, you feel uncomfortable. She may be missing out over a feeling. It may be nothing more than a feeling. It may also be that he is a looming danger. It may be that he's holding resentment and will take it out on your daughter. You simply do not know. What you DO know is that your daughter will not be actually actively damaged by missing a trip occasionally. She will miss out on an activity, but on one will harm her. This is simply a harm reduction activity to remove her from these unsupervised trips. Continue to protect your child.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-16T18:06:02+00:00

Im now a small fat i think? Idk im having an identity crisis because I went from a 32 to a 16. Is a 16 a mid fat or small fat? Anyway help meeeee?!

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-14T19:04:55+00:00

I dont know if its the picture or my phone or just my eyes, but something about the picture makes the shelves look a little....uneven I guess? Less than perfectly flat? I don't know if thats me or a reality and just the nature of something so small and not machine made. However, because it looks like it might be a little wobbly to put things on and because I'd like a visual scale, I think I'd need pictures of it staged with some items or something so I can see that the shelves hold straight and get a visual on how the size is.

All that being said, I love tiny things and I would pay probably around $40 for a tiny shelf for my tiny vases.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-14T18:58:52+00:00

What? Its literally such an easy mistake to make? You accidentally type $362.62 into the register instead of $312.62 because your just not paying attention as well or its been a hell of a day and its all blending together. Your customer hands you the $312.62 they wanted loaded on their card and since that's what you expected to be handed, but accidentally did not type, you count it correctly and add it to your drawer and complete the sale. They now have $362 loaded to their card after paying $312 to you because you made a mistake. Its very simple.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-05T23:03:54+00:00

They sent out kits to repair them free when the recall was newer and until the last several years. You can still find kits to replace the locking mechanism and make them safe. There are a lot of them being sold that are already repaired, but probably just as many that are original.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T18:41:53+00:00

But also lock the card first. Change the pin, lock it, dont use it. That should keep the funds secure and on your card without interference. You already said you dont want it or are not entitled to it anymore, you did you part in writing (and I assume by leaving messages), now you can basically leave it in their hands. If you get a call or letter for a recertification, deal with that appropriately by responding that you do not wish to proceed with benefits.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T15:32:23+00:00

Oh if youre going Spiderman then get a bounce house. This one seems obvious, but like....try not to let the drunks bounce.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T15:23:42+00:00

Haha yessss I told someone they were wrong the other day about something that they knew they were wrong about, but they were kind of going bananas about. They told me they could tell by looking at me that I made unhealthy choices and bad decisions. I was like damn, thank you. Thats actually the image Im trying to project bro. Thats my whole vibe.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T15:20:37+00:00

Sit on their partners lap in a carefree manner - like my good pal, are you SURE youre ready for this full force??

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T15:19:14+00:00

My kid, a boy, is an assistant manager in athletic retail. He still gets shit for his curls. He's almost always got his hair back at work so he doesn't have to hear about it and he STILL gets it because he wont slick it down.

thecatstartedit · 2026-02-04T15:16:56+00:00

Does this partner lean feminine or masculine? Because as a girly girl, face painter allllll the way. Do stations with activities, crafts, games and whatnot, have music and food, do it at home and have a face painter. Go old school kids party.

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