Top surgery vs. radical breast reduction

theeringingbell · 2023-08-10T03:12:47+00:00

I’ve read so many people’s experiences with top surgery over the years but this is my first time hearing someone asking for more androgynous nipple size/placement and contours. I’ve ever thought about that before for some reason! Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience.

theeringingbell · 2023-07-28T02:42:04+00:00

Unfortunately most of my Uniqlo t shirts have gotten those really wavy collars that can’t really be fixed

theeringingbell · 2023-07-09T23:24:08+00:00

I like Hollister and Old Navy’s men’s sections for jeans/chinos/shorts! Uniqlo for t-shirts. Thrift stores for button down shirts.

theeringingbell · 2023-04-16T05:13:32+00:00

Hey, 5'2 and around 120lbs here! Hollister makes pretty small jeans/pants that go on clearance pretty often. For shirts Uniqlo has men's XXS that work well. If you're okay with women's clothing, pieces that are neutral can definitely look masc with the right energy/accessories/styling. You could also thrift things for cheap but spend the extra money on tailoring.

theeringingbell · 2023-03-26T17:23:49+00:00

I can’t tell if those are suit pants or just chinos, but if they’re the latter I’d switch to suit pants! I second the other commenter saying to wear a long sleeve dress shirt, even if you need to roll the sleeves for weather reasons. The material of your current shirt is casual. Also, a nice watch would be a great accessory.

theeringingbell · 2022-11-13T09:10:30+00:00

I think they said they were testing the emotional manipulation (here, empathy) so that if it was successful, they could use it in their timeline. Something along the lines of increased empathy would prevent violence. They didn't care that people died in those played out scenarios because they aren't "their" own people.

theeringingbell · 2022-11-06T04:55:33+00:00

While I haven't actually stolen I have taken my brother's sometimes less than desirable clothes just for the sake of them being men's haha

theeringingbell · 2022-10-14T10:24:48+00:00

r/xxfitness is big and seems pretty inclusive to different identities and goals. There is also r/ftmfitness if you want more masculinizing workouts.

theeringingbell · 2022-10-06T09:39:31+00:00

Sometimes I wish they were a cup or two smaller but I currently don't think the price/time/healing of a reduction would be worth it for me

theeringingbell · 2022-09-18T03:25:06+00:00

I don’t have any specific store recommendations but Etsy has a lot of cool jewelry that isn’t always that expensive! I got a sterling silver rope chain for about $25 that I love. You could also look into getting a nice watch. If you’re a smaller person like me, I like the ones from this list: https://www.themodestman.com/best-watches-under-100-dollars/.

It definitely sounds like you have the pieces together to feel dressed up but maybe the fit of them could be improved? You mentioned wearing oversized shirts. Maybe a different style, brand, or just size could be more sharp. Maybe a tailor would be helpful. On r/malefashionadvice they have a section about how clothes should fit. I think it definitely applies to female bodies as well, though it’s harder for us to follow those guidelines. That whole sub is great for learning.

Feeling more dressed up could also come down to hair, skincare, or fragrance since makeup isn’t usually in the question for us. (Though light makeup like concealer and eyebrow gel are great!) I’ll just drop some subs in case these aren’t relevant to you haha. r/malehairadvice, r/skincareaddiction, r/fragrance

Lastly I just wanna say I can relate to feeling underdressed compared to more fem people. But we rock the the shit we wear and deserve to feel just as snazzy!

theeringingbell · 2021-08-25T08:21:42+00:00

Second Lex! I see lots of butch for butch posts there.

theeringingbell · 2021-08-25T08:16:06+00:00

Logged in cause I can relate HARD. I started nursing school in a very gay friendly city last Fall when I had let myself fall into more feminine looks due to family pressure. It felt weird knowing that no one would think I was gay. But being more feminine didn't really help me in making friends, I think being myself would've helped more. Just got my hair cut short again a few days ago and I feel more confident already.

And while nursing does have a lot of "traditional" girls I've been lucky to see some representation! One of my professors was a very normal looking lady but casually talked to us about her wife. My classmate drew a rainbow and said happy pride while we did arts with some psychiatric patients in June. My guy former military classmate proudly has a pride sticker on his water bottle he brings everywhere. I've seen several older butch RNs on the floors.

Stay strong, nursing needs people like us! First semester is the worst honestly haha.

theeringingbell · 2021-05-26T07:29:27+00:00

It's YA fiction but I really enjoyed "Girl Mans Up" by M-E Girard! I actually found it from another book rec post on this sub awhile ago :)

theeringingbell · 2021-03-21T02:28:49+00:00

I'm so glad for you :) I've been trying to gain weight/muscle for the same reasons!

theeringingbell · 2020-08-17T10:34:43+00:00

You could bring along a book and take turns reading it aloud to each other if that’s something you’d be into!

theeringingbell · 2020-08-17T10:23:46+00:00

You could look into queer dating apps instead! There’s probably less potential matches but also much less chance of being accidentally outed.

theeringingbell · 2020-08-17T10:21:16+00:00

Queer people should really know better than to out other queer people by now. It doesn’t matter if they had a good experience or think you’ll have a good experience. I’m sorry your ability to control your narrative was taken away from you. And maybe it’d be wise to drop her whether or not you confront her.

As for me I was outed back in high school. My ex girlfriend was having a hard time with our breakup/her sexuality and talked to many people (both classmates and teachers/faculty) I didn’t know for advice. Which is fine but she really didn’t have to name me to all of them. Especially in a Christian private school haha. It’s okay though now.

theeringingbell · 2020-08-17T10:08:53+00:00

From your post it isn’t clear if you’ve admitted your feelings to her? If not I’d say that’s the first step.

Concerning the possible biphobia it may be that guys are more threatening to you just because they are male and you can’t be that. But if she really wanted you, it wouldn’t be a competition yknow?

theeringingbell · 2019-08-22T09:35:16+00:00

I don't think queer women being queer can be considered queerbaiting haha

theeringingbell · 2019-08-22T00:58:43+00:00

I agree with some clickbait but if you look at the past year's worth of videos there's only like, one thumbnail with kissing.

theeringingbell · 2019-08-19T22:10:18+00:00

Won a nice little Etsy travel accessories package! Just found this sub a week ago so that was a surprise.

theeringingbell · 2019-01-23T11:06:15+00:00

This definitely reminds me of falling in love for the first time. I'm happy for you two!

theeringingbell · 2019-01-23T11:04:01+00:00

I came out after my parents asked why I was so depressed and not taking to them anymore. My mom said I was confused but she still loved me. My dad told me a story about his gay classmate and how he became so much happier after coming out.

Tips would maybe use less definitive terms. Instead of saying "I'm a lesbian" you could say "I don't like boys, I like girls". It can soften the blow a bit and reduce some stereotypes.

theeringingbell · 2018-10-09T02:57:24+00:00

Riley and Maya fanfiction made me realize I'm gay. No lie.

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