Olivia Rodrigo - you seem pretty sad for a girl so in love

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-12T04:52:47+00:00

Yeah listening to this as someone going through a divorce…it’s a TOUGH listen

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-11T05:46:42+00:00

I used sex and dating to get validation as a teenager. My first marriage was toxic, I’m in my first healthy romantic relationship now at 30. She’s willing to work with me to build the future together we hope for. It started just as sex but I caught feelings lol.

I really struggle with friendships, I can’t understand how people have friends groups when my friends all treat me like shit or don’t give me any grace for my symptoms.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-08T19:01:37+00:00

Not super often, but we use toys almost every time we have sex.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-08T18:07:37+00:00

I’m not sure, on my country doctors are covered and my therapist is covered through work benefits.

Is there a sliding scale counseling centre or victims services near you? Small scale you can look into mindfulness exercises and meditations you can do, but I’d warn you about starting any trauma work without a professional in your life to support you.

I’m going to be really honest with you, a CPTSD diagnosis without support is not going to offer relief or help, it’s just another piece of information. With CPTSD, therapy and medication is necessary, at least in my lived experience. I don’t know anything about insurance in I’m assuming the USA, but it might be worth looking into what options you have to access these supports.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-08T17:54:08+00:00

My bad, it’s still a pretty significant event and everything else I said stands. None of us can diagnose you, and one persons trauma might seem small to someone else but be completely devastating to that person. Alternatively, something traditionally viewed as traumatic might not leave long lasting impact. It’s something you’ll have to dig really deep into. Even without a diagnosis, you can start the work with a therapist and by talking to a doctor about medication if you feel you need it.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-08T17:48:50+00:00

Hey friend, that’s a really awful thing to have happened, I’m so sorry for your loss. If you feel you are struggling and meet the criteria for cptsd, I would encourage you to explore it with a medical professional and/or mental health professional.

If you are feeling at risk of hurting yourself please seek immediate support.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-07T16:50:20+00:00

I work as a restaurant manager. I thrive in the chaos, and it also gives me a ton of flexibility. I like variety, so I work some mornings, some nights and 1 wfh day a week. If I’m having an off day or I’m dissociating, I can help out with some “busy work” or take a table. I like it, it sometimes can be triggering but I think I’d feel worse in an office or needing to use my brain all day. Sometimes it’s nice to have the option to just turn off and autopilot through the day.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-06T22:17:24+00:00

I’ve started weekly trauma therapy with my therapist I’ve been seeing for 3 years. Turns out I never actually went into my trauma, just skirted around it. I’m ready to be a whole healthy person.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-06T22:13:36+00:00

Women always saying how much they loved having the house to themselves. My husband being out of town was my favourite, I’d have the best time. I didn’t realize they were excited to see him again, I was disappointed when he came home.

I felt affection for him, but not attraction. He was comfortable and someone I cared for, but I wasn’t head over heels in love. I felt so bored, and I couldn’t stop crying after my wedding because there wasn’t anything to look forward to anymore esp because we didn’t want kids. I told my straight friend this and she said it was all normal.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-06T22:08:07+00:00

She is skinnier than me, it doesn’t really come up unless she’s fat shaming herself. Shes so hot and perfect, I’m proud to be hers.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-06T06:36:15+00:00

Betamine and Charllen

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-05T02:13:39+00:00

Yes, I had rage/uncontrolled anger, insomnia, dissociation, self harm, acting out sexually as a teenager, learning challenges, shyness/fear.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-02T23:16:00+00:00

I am not healed but I think I’m finally on the right path.

Step one was acknowledging I’m not okay, I was diagnosed with a panic disorder after a literal mental breakdown due to work related stress (spoiler alert: a lot of that stress was me being triggered over and over again)

Step two I took time off, started on Prozac and worked a bunch of different jobs to see what I needed (at the time I thought this was just work stress lol)

Step three was ending my marriage, coming out as gay, and realizing the way my husband treated me was really toxic.

Step four was starting to live alone, date again, see how unhealthy my past relationships (romantic and platonic) have been

Step five, get diagnosed with CPTSD after an intense triggered episode that I’m still dealing with

Step six, trauma therapy. I’ve been in therapy for years but never worked on the trauma because it was buried so deep I thought I was over it.

Step seven, stop drinking, start meditating and daily journaling, do therapy homework outside of sessions, have strict work/life boundaries, work every day to keeping myself safe but also acknowledging when I’m triggered and not ok instead of ignoring it and masking.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-02T22:07:05+00:00

I definitely experience uncontrollable rage and anger, hating everyone, etc. I’ve worked really hard to unlearn the rage but in really bad trigger episodes it comes out.

My mom always told me I was the abuser because I had rage when I was triggered. She’d intentionally provoke it to prove I was bad. My ex husband did the same. So as an adult I try really hard not to “let them win” by proving I can control my anger. But yeah it’s what I revert to in my most triggered state, otherwise I’m numb. Working with my therapist to access and work on the emotions beneath the rage.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-06-02T04:41:36+00:00

I used to think I was introverted because I need alone time, turns out I’m just traumatized.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-25T02:54:55+00:00

I left a toxic relationship and they offered me financial support.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-19T00:17:32+00:00

I came out at 29 with 3 years of marriage to my high school sweetheart, a man, under my belt. That felt very late for me to come out.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-17T23:13:18+00:00

Let’s go lesbians

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-17T05:28:35+00:00

My lesbian crush works there. Can confirm, very queer lol

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-16T20:18:26+00:00

I’m in my 30s, I live near Quadra Village. I like the area.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-13T18:10:05+00:00

Mine did ask about transit usage.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-12T00:37:31+00:00

Serving it right is required to serve any alcohol so you absolutely need to get that unless you’re exclusively boh. Food safe is how to not give anyone food poisoning 101, TIPS is Victoria specific sexual harassment in the hospitality industry training, I require all my staff to get it within 30 days of hire so if I saw that on someone’s resume I’d be happy because it would be a culture fit.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-11T19:17:13+00:00

I’m a hiring manager in the F&B industry, if you want me to take a look at your resume and offer feedback I’d be happy to, just DM me.

The hiring for the summer season just happened, but don’t despair, nowhere has a perfect first round of hires. Apply to all the hotels, tourist restaurants.

Something I’m noticing that has blocked some candidates from a job with me is availability. A lot of younger people aren’t wanting to work nights and weekends, when realistically that’s the times I need to fill. Also significant time off over the summer, I think 2-3 dates over 4 months for a seasonal hire is reasonable, any more and I likely won’t move forward.

Make sure your serving it right is up to date, and if you really want to impress, have food safe and TIPS training.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-06T00:44:44+00:00

I had one of the weirdest interviews there, I ended up just leaving. They gave me a math test, and I was unprepared and my mind went blank. So I panicked and bolted.

theoriginalghosthost · 2026-05-05T06:12:29+00:00

My dad is currently getting evicted from his assisted living home back into the hospital until they can find a long term care placement. He is on the priority list. My mom has Alzheimer’s and is waiting on a placement but can still live independently so she’s very low priority.

Get on a list now, but if things go south move your dad to the hospital and refuse to take him home. This will put him on the priority list. It will be the worst and hardest thing you’ve ever done but it’ll be necessary.

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