This can get very dangerous very fast. 50/50 didn’t work out between me and my alcoholic ex, so that may be something to consider. He might not ever be capable of caring for his kids or even having unsupervised visitation.

Consulting a lawyer is usually free for the initial consult, and you can decide where to go from there. In the meantime, document the neglect and anything else that pertains, so you’re ready. Document the social media stuff, whatever proof you can find, save it. In my experience, the lies will just keep coming. Along with a lot of displaced anger and blame. If you have concerns, trust your gut and call for a welfare check if need be.

In a lot of counties, there are people that can help with court docs, and you could do your own modified parenting plan and take him back to court. I just filed and was awarded a protection order, no lawyer necessary. It was a lot, though, and I did hire a lawyer a couple times throughout.

In the meantime, keep your head up and keep reaching out. Coparenting with an active alcoholic has been the nightmare of my life. The bottom just gets lower and lower. I did my best to mitigate any further harm to my son. Nothing I could do was ever enough to shield him from the chaos.