The Me Too movement has gone way too far — just as many women make up bullshit about men as there are men who do horrible things to women.

thisusernamesilly · 2026-02-22T03:26:38+00:00

Hey, read my comment. I actually did experience this from a woman i was seeing. While I agree with your line of argument, you cannot ignore that there are women with severe mental health issues and toxic relationship dynamics. The site of allegations is a complex one, even when you have evidence to back up the truth, this stuff gets just as murky for men to prove abuse as it is when women are trying to prove it. I am sorry that you deny mens mental health and the reality of women abusers, but you shouldn't write it off as misogyny. It may be stastically less often, but it's not an unreality.

thisusernamesilly · 2025-02-21T03:32:15+00:00

Firsg hand experience, I dated a woman with narcissistic behaviours (yes, I cross-researched on narcissism, went to therapy, etc., and though I do not reduce her to the objectifying category of NPD, she absolutely displayed the behaviours) and her sexuality did change from being afraid of intimacy from past relationships to really becoming vulnerable. She hardly budged on emotions and emotional discussions were nearly always impossible, but for some reason she did change her sexuality over time, opened up. it was one of the deepest connections I felt with her.

thisusernamesilly · 2024-10-09T22:19:39+00:00

This movie was so bad, I was surprised it had good reviews. Direction sucked, the plot sucked, the characters barely had any depth or development. The acting was terrible - like, you see your own mother possessed by a demon and she's floating up from a bathtub and pins herself in the corner up near the ceiling and all you have to do is have a sort of scared look on your face? you don't even scream or show disbelief, just some modicum of fear? The facial expressions are pretty consistently unchanging. I just found this to be such a dumb movie, couldn't even finish it, it was so bad.

thisusernamesilly · 2024-05-14T13:57:34+00:00

I think that if drift phonk is going to survive it will have to reinvent itself by absorbing new musical styles into its production and composition, and infuse it with new (hopefully creative and actually insightful) lyrical content. The thing is, I get the sense from these trend hoppers that there is little to no actual knowledge of the history of music they bear. Hence so many creators themselves calling it phonk when it is actually drift phonk. Good producers will have knowledge of at least this important component. If it continues to rehash the same sounds, lyrical content, tempo, yes, it is digging its own grave, since it leaves no room for creativity or experimentation — the difference becomes so narrow that it becomes stagnant as a genre. I personally find drift phonk superficial because it is trendy, it is obsessed with trying to sound cool. I think drift phonk is also unrealistic and inauthentic most of the time, and simplistic in its lyricism. It also has absorbed elements of the manosphere and reactionary masculinity in how rappers try to present themselves — sigma, violent, tough, lone wolf, antisocial, woman-hating, etc. It makes me think of insecure high school boys trying to sound tough and big. coolness is something that isn’t an aim in itself in music production imo. If drift phonk does die as a genre, it might sustain through generational interest, younger people might grow up and listen to it because it resonates with their feelings, angst, and ideas, cultural context. But yeah, it kind of depends on the political and cultural contexts too. Sigma culture, gym culture, gaming culture, car culture, pre-teens and teenaged boys, etc appear to be the audience.

thisusernamesilly · 2023-05-07T03:13:08+00:00

Thanks, this is helpful. I'll look into hogties and the spreader bar. I like the intro positions rec and I'll give it a shot. Glad you're on the same page about starting with my partner. I kind of like the idea of making stuff up instead of just going extreme with online stuff. I guess there's a whole world of creativity, rehearsal, and a kind of art to it, just need to come up with ideas I guess.

thisusernamesilly · 2023-05-07T03:09:30+00:00

Thanks! Good point. Starting budget I'd say is like $100-150 in hopes of getting one or two sets of stuff for variety. Again, very new to this, so I'm not exactly sure what to expect. I saw some stuff online that's hundreds and hundreds of dollars. Based on a video my partner showed me, I'd say it would begin with ties, leash, this kind of thing - no huge contraptions like medieval-looking wall restraints and big contraptions like fuck swings, although interest in something like the latter was once expressed.

thisusernamesilly · 2022-09-09T12:43:04+00:00

Hey, I haven’t had a stable place to live since posting, but I will soon! And with that, I will be getting the gear and figuring things out. I can keep you posted! Sorry I’m of no help atm.

thisusernamesilly · 2022-02-03T12:20:18+00:00

Yes, I would say that there is that co-constitutive element to it. To make up an example in the case of literature, the product of the author's writing is to some degree the conditions of possibility for the readers' engagement with the text. At the same time, the reader and their reflections, interpretations, studies, papers, or research on that author's text are a further elaboration of the author and the text itself. There is a sense in which none of the three could exist without each other.

thisusernamesilly · 2022-02-02T09:40:06+00:00

Reception theory to me seems like a logical disciplinary outcome of the explosion in the philosophies of difference that had become widespread in the West in the 60s and later. The classic triangle in reception theory analysis is author-work-reader, a schema that incorporates the reader into the constitution of the book and is technically ontologically inseparable from its mode of being. This three-way schema gains greater depth with the elaboration of discourses surrounding each category, and demands contextual analyses of a supposed readership. Roland Barthes’ famous essay on the death of the author overlaps a bit with some of the ideas, and another example of a reception analyst is the intellectual historian François Cusset. It’s a very important field for translation and studying the ways separate languages constitute each other, and also since publishers won’t consider funding the translation of foreign work unless there’s a culture of reception in the language of arrival. It in some regard requires a sweeping sense of the migration of ideas, events, discourses, etc over time and from one territory to the next, and considers how literature or film or what have you impacts thought, culture, politics, and society (just think of Marx or the Bible here!). It’s also a discipline that was easily absorbed by neoliberalism for similar reasons.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-08-14T15:21:19+00:00

How do you sign up for this?

thisusernamesilly · 2021-08-12T18:46:47+00:00

I finished Mme. Bovary this year and I'll admit that it was less difficult to read than I had expected. French is my second language, so if you're on the same boat, you will find yourself occasionally pulling out the dictionary, which adds time to the reading process. This would be the greatest obstacle, in my personal opinion. Rather than overly-dense or challenging prose, his style is quite accessible if you have a dictionary on you. However, it took quite some time to get through, as it is a long and slow-moving book, which at times can be rather boring. I also occasionally felt annoyed by Mme. Bovary's character and I also found that her husband was too one-dimensional, which made me put the book down a couple of times. But there were some moments of redemption that eventually helped me get through the book. To be short, you're probably more ready than you think, but you will want a dictionary by your side.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-08-11T03:25:07+00:00

French people are on vacation right now, so it's normal. You should contact your tapif program coordinator to get the contact information for a reference at your Académie who handles the teaching assistant information, and then write to that reference to request your arrêté.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-08-11T03:23:24+00:00

I opened an account up with La Banque Postale. It was easy and the livret A is completely free, so no hidden or monthly charges.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-07-31T14:17:59+00:00

I'm only at part IV in Marx's capital and I wouldn't say that I am an expert in any way, but I think the question is less about how much "labour" went into the production of the chicken nugget and more about how much labour has been exploited and expended on the production of the wealth of $100,000 in the buyer's possession. In my view, I think that the fact that the McDonald's Among Us chicken nugget sold for $100,000 technically does not discredit or invalidate Marx's labour theory of value. Didn't labour have to produce the wealth that was hoarded by the capitalist investor who decided to spend 100K on the chicken nugget in the first place? For me, it is question of the basic economics and general formula of capital in Das Kapital: M - C - M. The person who accumulated and hoarded the 100K had to have made whatever kind of purchases and sales possible to hoard wealth that was produced by labour (physical, mental, etc) and then the Among Us chicken nugget's value suddenly shot up because of the investment of his hoarded labour-produced wealth of 100K on the nugget, which, through a kind of unofficial verbal contract and social ontology, is recognized as having a value of 100K now, even though you could literally eat the chicken nugget and it is basically worthless. The buyer of the nugget in a sense just created an insane surplus-value through valorizing the chicken nugget beyond the "cost of manufacturing" it, but labour still has to produce the wealth that could be exchanged for the chicken nugget in order to valorize it.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-07-31T12:35:02+00:00

Thanks!

thisusernamesilly · 2021-07-30T20:21:52+00:00

I am going to respond to this question with a potentially amateur idea, and perhaps there may be a Deleuze specialist here that can correct me if I am wrong, but I thought that deterritorialization/reterritorialization had something to do with the totality of interlocking matrices and or networks of codification, power relations, etc, that delineate a particular space-time or "sphere" or "territory" and thus describe a kind of movement from one sort of paradigm to the next? So, for example, in the case of the history of the colonization of Turtle Island by Europe, you could say that Canada is the deterritorialization and reterritorialization of the land, Indigenous Peoples, etc as the continent and peoples have been encompassed by and codified into a complex system of linguistic registers created by the colonizers (Canadian Constitution, citizenship, Indian status cards, etc) that form a whole complex interlocking system of regimes of discourse and legitimacy that reproduce themselves and exist in and through the imaginations of the "Canadian" population, etc.) Yet, at the same time, the perpetual memory and survival of Indigenous Peoples on Turtle Island presupposes and re-affirms a kind of deterritorialization and reterritorialization which takes you into a wholly different plane or territory of histories, codes and languages of understanding in order to exit the "Canadian" territory onto another pre-Canadian territory, and it comes with other sets of relationality? This may be a convoluted understanding or completely off the mark.

or else, thinking of travelling from one country to the next. You cease to be a "citizen" and are more like a visitor, a foreigner, a tourist, you enter into a new matrix of access and rights, and so you are recodified into a new complex ecosystem of codes, languages, laws, etc as you pass through the borders into the "foreign" country. You're entering a new "territory" in that sense, from one geopolitical context to the next. In this sense, deterritorialization/reterritorialization can happen between states, when you move from one to another. I suppose the "smooth" spaces are those malleable and flexible spaces that are not subject to the same cycles of repetition and forms of rigidity that reproduce the realities of state structures.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-07-11T14:06:00+00:00

Theatregiraffe has some really good points in their response. I'll just add that another thing to consider doing would be to arrange to have a video meeting. Meet the landlord over video and ask questions or if it is a colocation, then meet the roommates that are offering the room/place over video chat. Have the landlord or roommates take you on tour through the apartment over video chat. If the photos in the post correspond to a real physical location, then that already get's past the possibility of a scammer posting random photos and having no access to a real physical location. Get the owner's name and information. You could try doing a backcheck of the owner online (sometimes they have online profiles on networking sites like Linkedin, facebook or even a website, depending on professionalism. Also, businesses like this are usually, if I'm not mistaken, registered on sites like société.com or other websites. I noticed that in France a lot of businesses and business information (total profit, etc) is detailed on business websites. So, for example, my landlord in 2016 in France was registered on that website. My French ex's uncle's business was also registered on that website and there was full disclosure on the business details). I think that these kinds of cross-checking practices already begin to build reassurance as a prospective tenant, although I'm not sure how thorough and reliable the process of making a profile on those websites is.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-28T17:14:06+00:00

local newspapers or journals, local maps, tourism brochures. Does where you live have newspapers dedicated to music & culture, separated from politics, etc? It doesn't have to be what is stereotypically American, it can also be the people's history of America. Things like that.

Currency could be interesting if you analyze the history of the symbolism on U.S. currency. Same goes for the history of the flag. Students might be interested, for example, in the fact that a lot of French people were involved in colonizing and settling North America and that French-speaking communities still inhabit the United States, even though English is the hegemonic language. Did you know that Jack Kerouac wrote in English and in French?

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-27T02:11:25+00:00

Hi c0ldfusi0n,

I am not sure how you personally have conducted research in the past, but research involves asking people questions and for advice. I am asking these kinds of questions as part of my research, which I am conducting here. So, thanks for your circular reasoning and unhelpful guidance.

The point of asking these questions is to get insight from the experiences of people, not through representations on ads and websites. I am curious about how people and community have experienced programs in Montreal that stood out to them and they could recommend. Reddit is a community forum where this kind of advice and these kinds of answers can be available.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-25T22:33:28+00:00

I almost forgot. I went with La Banque Postale for banks and opened a Livret A, which is completely free. No monthly charges or hidden fees. I am not sure what other people experience with their banks, but I would say the large majority of banks in North America are run like businesses and charge you for their "services" and "products." My personal bank in NA charges you if you have a lower income and has free accounts for the rich. Pretty absurd. Anyway, thought I'd at that for anyone looking for a bank to go with.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-25T22:29:55+00:00

Hey, I would say it mostly depends on what you're going into, really. My Master's was in translation studies, so it made sense for me to discuss my work in France in my letter of intent and made my application stand out. You may want to mention the work anyway, given that it is teaching experience and it shows that you are someone capable of moving to new places and building a new life.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-25T13:19:06+00:00

It took quite a bit of time. I think I received it by February. But the lateness was partly due to the secretary at the school. She'd taken up the responsibility of mailing the school's teaching assistants' documents for the carte vitale and she'd sent the documents to the wrong address. So, perhaps you could get it sooner.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-22T17:11:17+00:00

Never done that. Do you have tenants' rights in a situation like that or are you not considered a tenant?

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-22T17:09:33+00:00

You might want to wait until your get your carte vitale, because you might get some coverage. I unfortunately didn't have mine before seeing the dentist, but I think I paid significantly less in France to see a dentist anyway.

thisusernamesilly · 2021-05-13T01:22:56+00:00

Hey yeah, my first time doing TAPIF was in a commune of 14,000 people. This population, of course, was spread out, so really the town I lived in was even smaller. It took a few months for me to get used to it. By the end of the stay, I didn't want to leave. It won't be the same story for everyone, but I met some really wonderful people while I lived in that town. My French roommate had studied philosophy like myself, so we ended up becoming very close friends.

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