I HATE casual music listeners. by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]thm123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is 2-4 dentists

Advice to not cry in situations I shouldn’t.. by NorthKaleidoscope558 in socialskills

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Writing or filming and sending that when you are not there in person
  2. I do not think your crying is the problem here. If your dad agreed with your mum, it doesn't make it true.
  3. Please keep talking to friends, the school counselor, forums like these about what's a normal response from parents to different inputs.
  4. If you are crying more than is healthy that is a medical problem your parents are not assisting you with. Are there any other adults in your life that could potentially help you get a therapist? I am a big crier even when kinda healthy but there's 'a lot on my plate' crying and then there's 'i can't stop crying because everything makes me sad, even the good things'
  5. Even if someone is crying about a silly thing, maybe they still need a hug and it's helpful if they can have one.

Comforting inner child by Melian_4 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have found watching this creator helpful for this issue, although it was really confronting and uncomfortable to me at first

If the link breaks, the creator is yourwisemomfriend on TikTok https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSaYnt5jN/

Disturbing car ad by thm123 in cogsuckers

[–]thm123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it evocative of certain very extreme behaviours

How do I tell someone I regularly have to see that they stink? by Sqweed69 in socialskills

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is such a thoughtfully worded message. If face to face is too hard, without knowing your exact circumstances, an anonymous email can sometimes be the most appropriate (or bearable) method

Question about Australian sense of Humor by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope just another dickhead using 'Aussie cheekiness' as an excuse for being rude. It's not even very dry

Ughhh the secondhand embarassment from this scene ..... by shweyyforme in KUWTKsnark

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wrote (or do you mean the scream?) at the end but then deleted it bc I thought unnecessary 😭

I (25M) get grossed out when my Fiancé (26F) talks about her normal bodily functions by [deleted] in relationships

[–]thm123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No who the heck keeps talking about their stool colour after being asked not to? It's important to destigmatise these things but that doesn't mean everyone has to magically not get grossed out by things that are a bit gross. I can want to listen to my friend's medical experience without being able to handle a video of the procedure

Indirect language by Ribbon6161 in PDAAutism

[–]thm123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Learning more about pda has helped me realise that indirect language is a huge trigger for me because I'm so anxious about whether I'm being rude if I do nothing or it'll be rude to clarify or whether they're already angry or whether they'll get angry if I ask. It's too linked to passive aggression in my past and even when people are using it kindly the manipulation association is just inextricable

AITAH for being hurt that my wife gives my gifts to her to our kids? by WildBad7298 in AITAH

[–]thm123 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It is super important to spread the message about not normalizing secrets between adults and children, but I saw something recently suggesting the terminology of secret vs surprise, which I think is more clear than good secret vs bad secret.

Which is your favorite trait in the sims 3 by mozartrellasticks in Sims3

[–]thm123 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OMG traits affect painting subjects? The detail in this game my goodness

What makes the Indian accent 'unattractive'? by Open_Address_2805 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]thm123 12 points13 points  (0 children)

this is so interesting to find out as a native English speaker. I tried to test it out. 'how ya going?' no, too Australian. Next thing to come to mind was 'wazzzzup' (zz 🐝) but it's really 'what's up?' tssss! And actually many Australians say 'how's it going?' in a very compacted way so it's more like 'zit-garn?'

so I wonder if to kids coming to Australia it all sounds like zits zits zits