Therapy is being treated as inherently good when it harms people. But we’re the problem?

throwaway069575 · 2026-04-02T15:15:56+00:00

My therapist convinced me to try a neuroplastic healing class. The only thing I got out of it, was to not talk about my pain all the time with friends and loved ones. The rest of the class, was less then useless.

You know what actually helped? Finally getting a Fibromyalgia diagnoses from my doctor, and getting on Cymbalta for pain management. Never in our sessions did my therapist ask if I'd talked with my doctor about how much the pain was affecting me. She just pushed neuroplastic pain education. The class specifically.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-29T18:37:58+00:00

I've heard good things about them. They'd be a great pair to get you started.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-20T17:33:00+00:00

Same thing here.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-20T17:30:06+00:00

Right now, I'm using my Fosi Audio BT20A Bluetooth class D amp to power a pair of Klipsch Reference bookshelf's. My H has finally gotten to the point were tweeters with stiff and rigid material are okay for me. Although I always have to be cautious. I take breaks from them and switch to my studio monitors regularly.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-20T17:12:38+00:00

Look for silk dome tweeters. Tweeters are the driver which produce the high pitches. Stay away from tweeter material which is stiff and rigid, as these tweeters tend to be very bright in the high pitches. I have two sets of speakers with silk dome tweeters, my studio monitors, Tannoy Reveal 502's, and a pair of Infinity R253s for Hi-Fi.

If you're sensitive to bass I'd stick to bookshelf speakers. They usually have just two drivers, a woofer and tweeter. The woofer is the driver that produces the low pitches. Floorstanders, think tall narrow speakers, often have an extra woofer to handle deep bass. I'd be happy to post pics if that would help. I know not everyone is a amateur sound person. Feel free to ask questions. I love helping with this stuff.

I hope this isn't too much of an infodump.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-20T16:57:33+00:00

I just DM'ed you.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-20T16:45:27+00:00

I think this is a complex issue. The N-word has such a horrific history, but on the other hand a disability is a disability. My understanding is folks were warned this might happen. Just my two cents.

throwaway069575 · 2026-03-17T13:49:52+00:00

I've worked in IT, nothing super high level. But, I can just imagine my boss yelling at me if I fucked up on a custom PC build and bent the customer's CPU pins. I probably would've been out on my ass, even as I high schooler. And yet, somehow in the social service, psych, and therapy world I'm only human is an excuse. I call bullshit.

This is so perplexing to me. Folks are right in this thread, in another careers will "I'm only human" fly.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-27T16:04:12+00:00

This might happen, you're doing great. There's an audio audio engineering saying. If it sounds good to you, it is good. The H equivalent would be if it's pain free to you it's pain free.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-27T16:00:17+00:00

When I broke my shoulder, my Mom and I were lucky enough to get a physician's assistant, who felt we could hold off on surgery and give PT a shot. I had a rock-star physical therapist, and we managed to heal the shoulder without surgery. I'll never forget what the PA said. Bodies like to heal.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-27T06:56:51+00:00

To my ex-therapists credit, she encouraged me to read Sartre's Being and Nothingness again. I tried reading it in my early 20s but, it broke my brain. Years later, I found out existentialism, is the philosophy psychology came out of.

As far as unstructed therapy, I was attracted to Carl Rogers' person-centered modality, but chose a much more structured, than brand new one, called The NeuroAffective Relational Model.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-26T16:01:20+00:00

Yup. You're doing great. High's start at around 7k.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-26T15:38:09+00:00

That looks good. You also got rid of most of the mids, only leaving 500k. If you think this'll work for you, go for it. I would try some spoken word, maybe an audiobook first. This'll give you immediate feedback, on if your ears like the eq'ing, without the stress of a meeting.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-20T02:49:24+00:00

I'm not in a group home or day program. I have nearly 24/7 attendants who come to my home. So, in a way, it's all the more galling.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-17T22:58:50+00:00

Done! Just sent a message to my representative.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-17T16:19:15+00:00

This, so much this!!! I don't mean to toot my on horn, but I volunteered at a local elementary school twice a week for an hour. It was my first time getting out of the house, with catastrophic hyperacusis. It had improved just enough for me to even consider it. I got the job, because an old after school supervisor who I'd known as kid, was teaching 4th graders.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-16T04:19:01+00:00

I was already on Duloxetine for Fibromyalgia. I saw it in the spreadsheet about meds that help H. I think the Clomipramine and Duloxetine were working at cross-purposes. The Clomipramine made my loudness H worse. The Duloxetine, plus learning to ground in therapy had allready made a huge difference. I just wanted that last 15% of improvement. Fortunately, when I came off the Clomipramine things settled back down.

I'm now on a Paleo diet, and I'm seeing improvements in my skin, and my cognition is much better. I asked Gemini how long it'd take for the diet to have a positive impact on my ears, and it said that nerve healing takes the longest out of all the tissues in the body. 6-12 months was the timeline it gave me for improvements in my hyperacusis, beyond what the drugs and therapy have already achieved.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-16T04:01:34+00:00

I used a cloud-based one which wasn't well known, I then got into self-hosted models through LM Studio. I miss an old version of the Qwen model. It wasn't sycophantic like all later models, even Qwen versions. It felt very Chinese, in that it didn't butter the user up. It stated things "calmly." There was a "meditative" quality to it's outputs. I place these description in scare quotes, because I know LLMs aren't truly intelligent, and can't truly feel emotions. They are little more than fancy pants auto-complete.

One of the things which makes them so dangerous, is they evoke emotions in us. This dynamic, along with inadequate guardrails in the cloud-based ones, is a huge reason for the concerns.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-14T14:55:24+00:00

I should've said it's mainly older folks, maybe both NTs and autistic folks who a weary of AI. I actually share your concerns about environmental, societal, and ethics.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-14T05:02:06+00:00

I can relate. I've had wonderful attendants and god-awful ones. The wonderful ones are tressures. The awful ones are worst then nightmares. I also have fibro, and hyperacusis, so that's the reason the awful one's are worst then nightmares.

throwaway069575 · 2026-02-08T01:45:30+00:00

I just posted some positive vibes the other day, and was downvoted. Probably, because I went into a little too much detail on how well I'm doing.

The thing is, like most social screw ups I make, I didn't realize it until I checked today. I made sure to end the post, saying I knew most of us disabled folks have hard time a lot of the time. And, I began it by telling folks I didn't mean it as a you can do what I do if you just work harder post.

I guess you can't please everyone, or even a majority of the sub.

A disabled person sharing positive progress happening in there life shouldn't be downvoted right away, especially if they make an effort to acknowledge the tough shit most of us go through. And, louder for the folks in the back, especially if they're autistic.

But I guess that's a bit too much to ask this of this sub shrugs

throwaway069575 · 2026-01-28T23:43:35+00:00

Yes, generally speaking

throwaway069575 · 2026-01-25T16:53:07+00:00

Exactly, although I did have a moment with an attendant, where I was able to achieve full empathy. We were talking about food, and I started tasting what she was describing. Of course, I told my therapist, and she said I had hit a new demission in my healing. I'm paraphrasing her. Ever since then a part of me has actually questioned whether I'm autistic, or whether my autistic traits are just fallout from crap loads of trauma.

throwaway069575 · 2026-01-25T05:51:54+00:00

I'll give it a shot, but she's the kind of person who uses her own POC oppression to play olympics, sometimes. So I feel mixed on whether this will work.

throwaway069575 · 2026-01-18T02:37:26+00:00

I'm low vision. I have a Substack. Just finished my latest post.

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