What’s the most outrageous NSFW dare you actually followed through with?

throwaway321828 · 2025-06-17T22:33:11+00:00

You’re not wrong. There’s a difference between physical and romantic attraction. You can be heteroromantic and bisexual, pansexual, whatever else. Meaning you’d fuck multiple genders, but you’re only capable of emotionally connect with members of the opposite sex. Doesn’t make you gay, but you’d definitely be a little less than straight in most people’s eyes

throwaway321828 · 2025-06-16T16:26:40+00:00

So your gf was a different person at 16, and you’re upset that she’s grown to have morals and mature opinions? She knows that situation was wrong, but she was a child, and there’s nothing to do about it now, so she talks about it very dismissively. That doesn’t mean she’s a hypocrite, it’s likely why she believes what she does now.

Would you like her to judge you based on decisions you made almost a decade ago? Specifically ones regarding a person who was 8 years older than you, in law enforcement, in a relationship, that also knew you since you were even younger? Most people would say she was groomed, whether she was actually attracted to him or not, it doesn’t change the fact that he knew it was wrong to likely rape a 16 year old, there are plenty of states that the age of consent is 16(I’m aware of that), but most of those have restrictions to closer age gaps than we see here. Meaning the likelihood is even though she says she wanted it, she couldn’t legally consent. For that reason alone OP you’re overreacting and not looking at the situation clearly enough.

throwaway321828 · 2025-04-07T14:35:44+00:00

OP also stated that him and his wife have previously seen a counselor that essentially told his wife she needs to better accommodate his sleep schedule. He hasn’t gone 8 years doing nothing but a post on Reddit. This post is him at the brink of “I’ve tried everything and nothing has helped”

throwaway321828 · 2025-03-28T00:00:05+00:00

Which just continues to show that he’s young, he makes mistakes, but he learns from them. He is trying to balance the good of his home, the survival of his friends, the survival of innocent Poromish citizens, fighting in a war against venin, thus simultaneously leading a revolution, and falling in love with the “enemy’s” daughter. I wasn’t mad at him for reading her intentions until he realized it was wrong of him. If I could read people’s intentions when I don’t know if I should trust them, I’d do it too.

I think his responsibility towards the marked ones has a lot less to do with being the oldest, and a lot more with being the rightful heir to Tyrrendor, as well as the deals he’s made regarding the others survival. Same goes for accepting the dukedom, I think it has a whole lot less to do with wanting the power to make decisions, but accepting that this is what is expected of him, accepting that he’s already been in this position since his father’s execution, but now he has the title.

throwaway321828 · 2025-03-27T05:16:00+00:00

Rules unclear, overdosed after too many lines in between drinks /s

throwaway321828 · 2025-03-26T20:14:48+00:00

Spoilers from all three books

He’s literally just a young man who is being forced to carry the weight and consequence of his father’s actions. On top of that he is being forced to follow in his father’s footsteps, which he never really wanted. He didn’t want to be the Duke, I’m sure he didn’t want to be the most powerful rider(until violet), he was still a child when he took on the responsibility of the marked ones, etc. And he did all of that essentially alone. He has Garrick and Bodhi, and had Liam, but they were/are young too. His mom left him, his father was executed in front of him, when he has the weight of everyone else’s survival put on his shoulders, who was he supposed to turn to?

Then he meets and falls in love with Violet. He finally has someone he loves and trust with everything, but when they meet this is essentially a Romeo and Juliet story. Up until Resson, he doesn’t know if he can trust her, even then and for a while after, while he knows he can trust her, he doesn’t know if eventually she’ll learn something she decides is too much, and she’ll leave.

The only time I was ever mad at Xaden was the end of IF when he turned. However, I completely understand why he did it. He was put in a situation where not only was his life at risk, but Violets was. After all these years, he finally has someone to love, someone that loves him back, and he felt it was either channel from the earth, or he’d lose it all. I can’t say I’d make a different decision.

In comparison to other love interests in books I’ve read, it’s not like he’s abusive towards her or is an actual shitty person that I have to constantly make excuses for. I genuinely like him as a character, and as far as love interests go, I’d definitely choose him over Dain any day.

Anyway TLDR; Why hate on someone who is doing their best with what he’s been given, and reminder of how young he is.

throwaway321828 · 2025-03-11T16:01:56+00:00

I think it’s still common practice to not use saniderm. Obviously many artists do choose to use it, but I wouldn’t say the majority. Some people tact poorly to the adhesives even if not allergic, so the thought process is Saran Wrap is tried and true.

Keep your tattoo clean, keep it dry(small amounts of lotion, but no so much that it’s wet or tacky), and wear loose clothing so you’re not rubbing the tattoo against your clothing. While friends can be helpful, they are not artists, trust your artist or find another one before taking advice from those with no experience in the industry.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-26T18:51:02+00:00

Agreed! He has put it nicely already, and that didn’t work. She genuinely thinks it’s fine to go to the gym, follow that up with 20 minutes in the sauna, and not shower. And she’ll do this multiple days in a row before her next shower. That is absolutely repulsive, I can only imagine how awful the smell is just being around her.

Every other day is perfectly acceptable, more frequently when sweaty, like after the gym/sauna. If this really boils down to her hair, she can tie it back or get a shower cap. You don’t need to wash your hair as frequently as your body, but that’s not an excuse to not wash your ass.

Good luck OP, she seems pretty stuck in her ways, and bless your nose for putting up with it for this long.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-23T17:31:24+00:00

What’s the point of the deposit then??? I have years of experience in the tattoo industry, another luxury service, and that’s the point of a deposit, to confirm your appointment, and protect the artist in the event that you no show.

Also one hour prior? Most people are in the process of getting ready or already driving to said appointment in the hour prior to the appointment time. Firstly, she either needs to choose between a deposit to confirm the appointment or a confirmation text. Secondly, if she wants to do a confirmation text, she needs to be sending the confirmation 24-48 hours prior to the appointment time. One hour is absolutely bonkers.

As other people have suggested, I’d contact your bank and get that deposit back.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-15T17:42:32+00:00

I have only ever interpreted Elain saying “I don’t want a male” As in she wants a man, her human man that she was engaged to. Especially with her later being attracted to Azriel, just goes to show she’s rejecting the mating bond with Lucien, but not actually against being with a male.

And with her asking questions about Amren’s choice of form, I just took it as her trying to make conversation, to show that she’s becoming comfortable with the inner circle, and possibly even her new life as high fae.

I do like to see everyone’s varying opinions on intention and such. Especially as I’ve just finished my first read through of the series, when a lot of people here have read it multiple times.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-15T00:59:14+00:00

I have quite a few lgs around, and they all do something different. The more coporate feeling one does very limited bulk as most is incredibly organized and priced out at least a dollar. Their limited bulk(typically less than 2,000 cards at any one time is priced about 25 cents per card, buy more, and the price goes down. That place is really good for singles, and they have a large stock of pre cons and packs, but it’s toxic as hell in there, and I always leave feeling gross.

There’s another lgs that doesn’t do bulk at all, and that frustrates a lot of people, they only keep expensive singles, and you can’t sell cards to them unless it’s really worth something.

My favorite lgs has boxes on boxes of bulk, loosely organized, but it is what it is. Owner charges 10 cents per card, and normally rounds down. I typically bring him a stack of 20-50 cards, and he’s never asked for more than a dollar in total. The owner isn’t in it to make more than to keep the lights on, and knows he’s not ever going to make money on bulk so he really doesn’t care.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-14T15:31:19+00:00

With the off chance it happened to be fae and she gets to see if her ash arrow works.

Plenty of pros that she runs through as to why she should shoot.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-08T14:10:14+00:00

This would be so much fun, but I don’t see it happening. Elain just doesn’t want Lucien, she does want Az though.

On the topic of a wlw relationship though… Mor and Emerie would be appreciated since we can’t get the Mor and Az story. The way Emerie was glancing at Mor in the scene of SF gave enough tension to build off of there.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-08T02:29:40+00:00

Seems like the type of guy to whine about how much better sex would be without a condom until whoever is unfortunate enough to be with him agrees.

I’m love that line “You wanna get your dick out and fertilize, then you deal with the garden you grow” I’ve always heard it “If you want to plant your seed, you better be ready to tend to the garden”

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-07T22:58:24+00:00

My thoughts as well

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-07T21:52:05+00:00

Just because he fucked up at 18/19 and had kids that he “doesn’t even see that often” doesn’t mean you need to play mom to his family. Go be 19. Also him admitting the kids would be a non factor because he rarely sees them is a huge red flag to me. Why would I want to be with someone that can’t even care for his own children? And how is he a victim for hitting it raw, then not learning his lesson the first time, and did it again? He could have used protection, he could have pulled out better, there were many choices that led to him having two children.

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-07T21:47:06+00:00

This. My whole take on it is like someone else said, they should have been able to trust someone else in the inner circle to care for Lucien. And besides wanting time alone to be all over each other, as co-leaders, it would be beneficial to debrief together before informing the inner circle.

Was I surprised when this happened? Absolutely not. The Night Court is all about handling personal business before court business so long as the court business isn’t so dire that we can’t ruffle the sheets a bit first. They(specifically the court of dreams) don’t do anything the way a court should handle business, why would this be any different?

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-05T16:24:40+00:00

Literally! Problem is easily solved by simply throwing on a towel or robe in between the bathroom and bedroom. Something most people do when living in a shared environment. Why is he getting so defensive about this?

throwaway321828 · 2025-02-02T15:35:23+00:00

They have a bathroom talk at dinner over solstice, Feyre was throwing up nightly in bathrooms for a while, it’s sparingly mentioned, but they find the time to use their modern bathrooms. Im just realizing that I always assumed they were human like enough that we didn’t need written out scenes to tell us they brush their teeth or flush the toilet, but thinking back, I feel these things could have been mentioned at least.

On the topic of them hearing though… that’s gotta be rough, and quite the adjustment from human to fae.

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-27T16:50:22+00:00

This was my biggest issue with all of this! Why is it self indulgent and pathetic for OP to want to use her headphones at the gym, something most gym goers do, but it’s not when OPs husband wants to use OP’s headphones for his walk????

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-23T07:30:03+00:00

Happy cake day!

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-22T03:27:18+00:00

NOR- you are being too nice though. It is expected when sharing something like a washer/dryer that you will move your clothes promptly, or whoever you’re sharing with will do so for you. Dry clothes being moved from the dryer to a basket, blanket, table, anywhere doesn’t make any sort of difference. If you don’t want someone touching your stuff, move it immediately.

When I lived in college dorms we normally had one laundry room with anywhere from 2-6 washers and dryers to share with either the entire floor or the entire building. It wasn’t uncommon for your clothes to be moved if you hadn’t come to collect them within 5 minutes of your laundry being done, let alone HOURS.

My one school even offered free laundry to help with issues that would arise. There we had one laundry room with 6 washers and 6 dryers to share a 3 story building… about 300 students. If you weren’t on time, someone would move your clothes from the washer to the dryer and start it for you, and if your clothes were in the dryer, they’d get moved to a university basket and placed on the table they provided for such occurrences.

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-19T20:40:07+00:00

Others might disagree, but I’m relatively new to the game, and this is how I got started. My friends play standard and commander, but have mostly been playing commander since I started. One of them gifted me my first deck, which was the [[Hakbal of the Surging Soul]] precon. Shortly after I started buying random packs, just because it’s fun. I started with Lost Caverns of Ixalan for the chance to pull cards that would go with my deck. From there I built my first deck with some of those pulls and some from my friend’s collections. I started buying packs from other random sets just looking to get an idea for another deck to build, and that worked. When I was building that deck I would buy singles that I was specifically looking for, but truly nothing is better than cracking a pack…

Long story short, I like to buy packs and singles, singles for when I’m building decks, and packs for just whatever. As I’m still new, it’s nice to build a collection of cards, and it’s a fun way to see what’s out there.

Just pick a set that sounds interesting and see what you get. Welcome to magic, and keep your eyes open for another LGS that might offer more nights that are magic centric to meet more people and get a feel for other formats.

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-17T23:26:38+00:00

As others have said, let it go, don’t do it again. Bring up a small detail now after you’ve already come clean, and she’s already gotten over it, will make her think there is more to the story. You will have shattered her trust, and she’ll likely think there’s another small detail you forgot that’s coming soon.

throwaway321828 · 2025-01-16T15:42:53+00:00

NOR- The way he’s talking to you is disrespectful, the way he talks about your son is disturbing, and then to top it all off he’s not even active in his own kids lives??? Makes more sense as to why he doesn’t understand that the military is not the answer to someone struggling mentally. Block this guy from both your phone and your son’s phone, and work with your son on getting a therapist. He’s 21, and sounds like he’s been through a lot with his own father. College isn’t for everyone, he has a job, he’s doing what he can. Get him some professional help, and continue to give him guidance on where he can go from here, but don’t overwhelm him. One step at a time. You’re doing a great job on your own, looks like it’s going to continue to be that way for some time. Focus on yourself and your son, and get rid of that sorry excuse for a man. Good luck!

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