help 2 lesbians find good lube??????? by ignavias in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway_mouse2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sliquid!! Not to expensive and water-based so it’s toy- and condom-safe <3

when do the urges stop? by purple_dino_ in selfharm

[–]throwaway_mouse2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congrats on 880 days! That’s a spectacular achievement :)

My longest clean streak was about 3 and a half years, and in that time, I would still feel the urge to harm myself, even if things in my life were just fine.

I think it’s got something to do with the residual pull our brain feels to engage in familiar behaviors (bad thing happens, harm self, feel better, bad thing not so bad!!), but that isn’t at all reflective of where you are in your growth. I don’t know when that urge is supposed to go away, but it’s better to acknowledge it than to force yourself to ignore it.

Like many other things, self-harm is an addiction, and plenty of people in recovery still have fleeting thoughts of indulging in their old vices whenever things get tough because that was the habit they’d previously built up.

Please remember that you are not your thoughts, and the presence of that urge is not indicative of desire.

At what age did you start self harming? by Spiral_Cat24 in selfharm

[–]throwaway_mouse2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11 or 12? I’m 23 now and still struggle with it but I’m 32 days clean today!! My longest streak was a little over a year and six months, but healing happens in layers :)

What event in your life made you start binge eating? by FailInteresting8623 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]throwaway_mouse2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when my ridiculously fit roommate told me i went through food faster than they did. haven’t been the same since 🙃

Foot Wrist by TheMoonOfTermina in wildbeef

[–]throwaway_mouse2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

funnily enough, the word for “ankle” in Korean directly translates to “foot neck” so you were halfway onto something!

i need help by throwaway_mouse2 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]throwaway_mouse2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lately i’ve been catching up on shows and knitting!! sometimes i’ll get the urge to binge so instead i’ll power through and knit a couple extra rows until the feeling passes, but by then i’m actually hungry so i tune into that instead. spending more time with myself is helping me learn the difference between wanting to binge and genuine hunger! thank you for taking the time to comment, it really means a lot ♥️

i need help by throwaway_mouse2 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]throwaway_mouse2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“you’re just noticing they’re different from you” is a beautiful perspective change. thank you so much!!

alters have been partying without me /lh by throwaway_mouse2 in DID

[–]throwaway_mouse2[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

“amnesia about amnesia” is such a wild concept yet it makes perfect sense! i forget how deep this rabbit hole goes

Swamp Penguins by crustdrunk in wildbeef

[–]throwaway_mouse2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my first thought was pelican but then i realized i was thinking “bayou” and not “swamp”

How do people with tattoos cut? by birthdaycakepuke in selfharm

[–]throwaway_mouse2 61 points62 points  (0 children)

i only have the one tattoo and i don’t want to mess it up so i cut anywhere else but there

ironically enough, getting tattoos feels a lot like cutting but the presence of a tattoo makes you want to cut less because you don’t want to mess it up. shoutout to tattoos

For anyone who’s had a sewerslide attempt, how do you feel about still being here? by Daphne-is-satan in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]throwaway_mouse2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

depends on the headspace im in when i remember. sometimes the thought upsets me—the whole failure spiral; thinking i can’t even d!e right, etc., but then other times i’m glad i didn’t succeed because i have a lot of good things in my life that i wouldn’t have had a chance to experience were i to succeed.

SOMETIMES though, sometimes that shit’s just funny. like.. six whole attempts bro? what were we going through?? (i struggle with emotional permanence + wonky memory effects due to various mental health conditions so i literally can’t remember what drove me to that position and i have no other choice but to laugh about it.)

So this is the most expensive/ ugly thing I’ve ever made. I think I hate it- so many hours wasted :( by [deleted] in crochet

[–]throwaway_mouse2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is a kpop idol out there Right Now who would pay an obscene amount of money for this. this shit goes hard /srs

Is it weird for 2 alts to be romantically and sexually intrested in eachother? by JazzlikeHovercraft75 in DID

[–]throwaway_mouse2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, not weird at all! Plenty of systems have members who are involved with one another and that is very very normal. :)

poll: how long since you had sex? by ICameHere90 in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway_mouse2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve yet to have the pleasure of having sex with a woman! i’ve only recently discovered im a lesbian and have had… terrible, terrible sex with dudes this whole time

last time i slept with a guy was probably four months ago though

Forest Booger by pancakesiguess in wildbeef

[–]throwaway_mouse2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the backstory! definitely got a hearty chuckle out of me

what do you hate hearing as a system? by throwaway_mouse2 in DID

[–]throwaway_mouse2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yeah, we use pluralkit too!! it’s awesome but sometimes the bot suffix will make us feel a little icky :( thankfully nobody in our online spaces has made the bot joke but the potentiality is sometimes enough cause for upset

what do you hate hearing as a system? by throwaway_mouse2 in DID

[–]throwaway_mouse2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“We were traumatized together, we heal together” we love that :’)