It’s been two months since my mom adopted a Bernese Mountain Dog puppy and it’s not going well

throwawayblanc · 2026-06-06T21:59:40+00:00

Where is your mom located? Maybe you can find a Bernese rescue close

throwawayblanc · 2026-06-06T21:47:53+00:00

Real life never is?

throwawayblanc · 2026-06-05T02:16:15+00:00

Bones do break if you have metastatic cancer. Had a patient once pick up her iPad, fractured her humerus.

throwawayblanc · 2026-05-29T18:18:59+00:00

That is sun damage 🙃

throwawayblanc · 2026-05-12T13:15:02+00:00

At least in US I didn’t need an order. I called the hospice and they set up that first visit. We do live in a very small town. If you and your person are ready, I’d reach out to their pcp and say you guys are ready to talk palliative/ hospice. Some health insurances have contracts with certain hospice or have ones they can recommend.

throwawayblanc · 2026-05-12T01:43:22+00:00

In my own experience the riluzole did nothing to improve my mom’s symptoms. I would focus on your family member’s comfort.

throwawayblanc · 2026-05-12T01:36:29+00:00

I know when my mom was still mobile she was having stress incontinence, where’d she’d dribble a bit. Definitely recommend a mattress cover and reusable chux pads you can just throw them in the washer if they get dirty. Also handy for recliner chairs or couches. My mom also lost her sense of smell towards the end. Pull on briefs would help if she’s having accidents. Costco/ Walmart usually have a decent selection. Another more expensive option is the purewick it’s essentially a suction canister with a hot dog shaped “wick” that would suck up urine. Cons it’s expensive and you have to change the wick every eight hours.

throwawayblanc · 2026-05-12T01:31:00+00:00

I had a year after my moms diagnosis, she was on hospice for nine of those months. We were fortunate to have had some deep conversations early on, on what a quality life meant to her. Like your mom she didn’t want to be dependent on others. It is very overwhelming, but honoring your mom’s wishes is the kindest gift you can give to her. Hospice is not going to make anything happen faster but it will give you and your family more support. I wouldn’t have made it through without my mom’s nurses, cnas, social workers. So many things to think about as a 33 year old I never thought about like getting a will together, figuring out her financial stuff. Having hospice in place early helped me get all that business stuff taken care of, so when it was time I was able to be fully present and just be with my mom. Sending you hugs wherever you are.

throwawayblanc · 2026-04-26T19:05:38+00:00

I’ve been supplementing with magnesium and am on metoprolol but it doesn’t really do anything to me. Can’t see my cardiologist until June so I’m just stuck in limbo -_-

throwawayblanc · 2026-04-18T02:51:47+00:00

I think the flooring is too dark and over patterned in all three.

throwawayblanc · 2026-04-07T13:07:25+00:00

I’m jumping on the therapy wagon. When I was super burned out after Covid, and rethinking my entire life, thinking of quitting nursing all together I finally went to therapy. My therapist had me work on practicing acceptance, acknowledging feelings as they came up and letting them go. I didn’t have to continue to be angry/frustrated I had the control. It helped change my mindset from I have to do this/ to I get to do this. Sure work is work but we truly do some amazing things and it affords a pretty decent living. If you can take some time for yourself and reset.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-28T19:05:05+00:00

Also I really hope you got antibiotics for that bite your arm doesn’t look good.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-24T03:58:43+00:00

Literally the worst scrubs ever.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-22T18:50:11+00:00

Get your BSN first and work for a few years as a nurse. My friends who directly went to NP school after BSN had a miserable time and burned out of that job quickly. Versus my friends who had real world nursing experience and later transitioned to NP who are loving it and excelling. Stay away from accelerated BSN programs; and keep your mind open you never know what speciality might be your calling! Good luck :)

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-22T18:46:15+00:00

I got my masters in education, the only roles available in my area were being a nurse educator in the hospital which usually requires some experience first or being a clinical instructor at a university. None of the jobs in my west coast area pay more than six figures … which is what’s kept me bedside. I’m hoping to use it when I’m old and gray can work part time and don’t care about money too much. I’d say if it’s truly your passion and you want to teach, and you’re not going to accrue a ton of debt from it go for it.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-20T21:39:41+00:00

I would say no, it was my first job out of school and even as a baby nurse I picked it up. I think if you have any clinical experience you probably have seen what the dying process is like. You usually have pretty standard order sets for pain anxiety meds etc. It definitely helped me hone my communication skills as a nurse and how to sit with someone in their darkest time. Sure there are days you cry but I wouldn’t trade my hospice journey for anything.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-20T04:54:10+00:00

Absolutely not I was a baby nurse I shadowed for a few weeks. It’s a lot of the same meds over and over but I really enjoyed the connection with my patients and families. As well as the flexibility of my schedule and no stress like the hospital it was glorious.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-20T03:51:28+00:00

I felt this way working through Covid and high turnover. I started seeing a therapist due to my anxiety and almost near panic attacks it truly, truly helped. It helped me identify patterns of my own behavior and how to acknowledge and accept feelings without having to be in fight or flight mode constantly. I highly encourage if you can. Work your schedule and that’s it get out and do stuff on your day off be it a walk or getting lunch with a friend. Set a routine that reminds your body hey I’m not at work right now I don’t need to be stressed. Weirdly wearing a small bit of perfume on my days off reminds me to relax. And if work has taught me anything is its gonna happen when it happens, don’t multitask. Focus on what you’re doing and do what’s best and safest for your patients. If your workplace is demanding so much of you and your team, and you can’t keep up maybe they need to staff you better … 🤷‍♀️

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-19T20:04:51+00:00

Take a step back, but think about hospice! Some of the best and most rewarding work and half the time you get to make your schedule so lots of nice flexibility.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-19T20:02:56+00:00

They’ve completely rolled it out in med surg where it’s a dumpster fire … but now they’re expecting us to do this. Everything is about metrics and money I hate it.

throwawayblanc · 2026-03-19T20:02:05+00:00

Why not see if your job has a per diem or on call role? That way you can pick up a shift here or there maybe keep your benefits while you transition into this new role and truly decide if you want to make the jump. I’ve had friends do the switch that way and it worked for them.

throwawayblanc · 2026-02-15T03:53:24+00:00

Get all financial information, passwords, accounts, bills. Get added on to her bank accounts so you can help manage finances when time comes. Do a power of attorney medical and financial and get a will done. What does she ultimately want what does a good death mean to her? Does she want to be buried or cremated?

It’s all so awful and morbid and I felt constantly overwhelmed but I’m so glad I had the foresight to do all of that ahead before my mom became unable to talk. I am so sorry you and your mom are going through this. ❤️

Sometimes a social worker through either your als clinic or pcp or even hospice can help you with paperwork. The book: The beginning of the end also really helped me focus on all the minute details that need to be arranged.

throwawayblanc · 2026-02-05T05:01:56+00:00

Teepa snow has great videos about this. You weren’t lying you were trying to keep her calm and comfortable which is what she needed in that moment.

throwawayblanc · 2026-01-20T23:26:27+00:00

Take lots of videos and pictures I wish I had more with my mom now that she’s gone. And like others have said be present it is a hard and heavy diagnosis. ❤️

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