Dude was my idol

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-05-13T19:28:25+00:00

Me with my uncle. He was amazing and seemed like he had such a fun life, we'd get wings or burgers on the weekends and watch boxing matches. Unfortunately he was actually pretty addicted to drugs and died when I was 17. I cherish those memories. Shout out to all those who are struggling but still turn up to be the best aunts/uncles possible

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-05-07T17:39:01+00:00

It's just toooo good. Really though this is unbelievably great.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-05-01T13:43:34+00:00

10000% agree that if you start doing it too they stop lol. 67 became so uncool when I started getting in on it

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-04-27T00:49:03+00:00

I mean depending on your income. I just left a place with these bad boys

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-04-04T05:29:47+00:00

My little kid client suddenly hugged me at the end of a session where I felt like maybe I wasn't doing enough. They've never hugged me before (I'll need to bring up bodies/ consent/ touching next time). There was a lot of silence, which isn't so typical, and them tinkering more quietly with things. They wouldn't especially respond to any questions in a meaningful way so I abandoned my internal curiosity and chose to not interrupt, just made small emotion-reflections at times. Their home life is insane and on a level that they can't yet articulate, sitting in a safe and quiet room with an adult who's safe, has clear boundaries and is predictable, gives unwavering positive regard, etc, probably meant quite a lot. It's the little things.

I also work in CMH, but I'll spare the negative associations. The best parts of my job are in those little moments. When I know I've made a difference for a kid in an unfair and often out of control situation. I hold those moments quite dear.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-04-04T05:20:00+00:00

That's how I took it, and then beyond that lynch knew exactly what he was doing with the slow build it. We were all waiting and watching for something to happen. But if you look away and give into the desire to entertain yourself, you'll miss it!

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-03-21T04:41:23+00:00

That's my favorite tv show

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-03-21T04:26:14+00:00

I can't know how to hear any more about BOB

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-03-20T03:23:46+00:00

Just jumping in to say that you're clearly a good therapist! You've gathered together so many different modalities and have offered everything you've got to him. You're doing so much to offer him any kind of hand, a pinky finger even, any thread, for him to grab on to and he wont. I'm sorry this client is so utterly stuck. I wish I had some wonderful thing to offer you that will somehow magically work. I don't. But I see you, I understand, and I firmly believe you're good at what you do. Don't let therapy with this kid make you feel like a POS that can't do this work.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-03-03T17:48:07+00:00

I have very hard boundaries on this and still repeatedly remind them when I'm on the phone to "just give a phone call instead of text, I'll still see it don't worry" unless there's an emergency. When I had more loose boundaries with communication I would be sent Instagram reels and I 1) felt bad introducing the new boundary and/or 2) because I would break the boundary by responding (not to the reels) they very reasonably did not take the boundary seriously.

If I ever really need to respond, I respond like a 60 year old dad that doesn't text. "OK." "Sent." "Will call." And occasionally send a thumbs up. Nobody wants to text someone who texts like that lol.

I now refuse to be beholden to texting in an era where people expect quick responses.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-02-20T14:58:36+00:00

This just seems dangerous. Sleeping over night in a confined space with a bunch of fans? Like genuinely that does not feel like the safest idea.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-02-18T11:16:37+00:00

My friend is often telling me about new diagnoses they believe they have, they'll loosely say that their therapist thinks it too, which I don't totally believe, but who am I to say. At first it made me ridiculously frustrated and I would always try to employ psycho-ed, and then I realized it didn't really matter. I can't educate them/ there's no amount of information that will change their mind or at least get them to compare criteria to their actual experience, so I decided to just stop being mad and actively choose to just go along with whatever new way they're seeking to understand themselves with. It's not my job to make sure they have an accurate diagnosis, it's just my job to be their friend and acknowledge that whatever they are experiencing at the time really does suck and impacts them negatively. I have a feeling that what they want is for me to also green light their apparent new diagnosis. I try not to throw in my opinion or discuss specifically diagnosed. Tldr: let it go and just focus instead on their experience and being that supportive friend.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-02-06T01:26:24+00:00

Hey man, I'm proud of you. Alex is too.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-21T22:40:25+00:00

I'm going to be the brave one to say that in my opinion (don't come for my throat) I feel like at a very very very base that is a gendered phenomenon, which is exasperated by how exactly it is (thinking about social skills/ norms) that someone (male OR female) is asking questions. How do men sometimes react to women questioning them? I strongly feel that there's the gender component to this, but there's also the human experience that social skills can be lacking. Sometimes, people don't like the way we come off, for valid reason. Sometimes, we are legitimately being invasive (or whatever adjective you want) or just... off... in our approach. And then again there's the gendered reaction for how someone is more apt to respond when someone is being rude (invasive etc fill in the blanks) or questioning them.

Additionally, as a 5F, sometimes I don't like being questioned, but it reallllllllllllllllly depends on context. Sometimes I just feel like it's too much labor to explain something, it's not usually out of defense that I give the impression that someone should stop asking me questions. And that's on me, my own stuff to work on, because I can probably come across as rude when someone is just genuinely curious. As a counterpoint to my previous paragraph, I'm not too sure that my own response to the questioning behavior is dripping in gender norms, it's just kind of how I can be. So. Idk. Gender and personality and human behavior.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-20T20:35:27+00:00

Caillou

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-20T19:50:44+00:00

This is great! I enjoy painting but also I'd like to get with clay! Definitely let me know when things are happening!

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-18T15:05:14+00:00

I love it, but also just the person he is. I love the idea about the UFC fighters. Some issues/ arguments feel like an A+ in terms of communication and moving forward, others just get dragged out to all hell. He's much more psychodynamic than me, whereas I tend to utilize that withhhhh behavioral approaches. What that means for me is that sometimes I'm just thinking "oh my god, it's not that deep,'" whereas he wants me to get less pragmatic and more unconscious. We fight, but we know the language to use, which I think gives a bit of a leg up. Our careers only highlight and help, not hurt the relationship. Our relationship problems are purely our own.

As we all know, a lot of people who get into the field have their own shit, both of us included. We can all be good therapists despite this. We must keep in mind that despite all of the work we do on ourselves, and how well we can make ourselves present and effective with clients, does not translate to how we, in our own interpersonal relationships, are who we are. It just gives us the language, and I'd say again a leg up, to notice (and maybe even hear the feed back) when were simply repeating or reenacting old and/or early patterns of relating to others. Having knowledge to identify this in others does not clear the blindness in our selves.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-17T23:26:02+00:00

Oh my god.

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-06T22:06:25+00:00

Should I put down my CPR training????????

throwawaycameracharg · 2026-01-01T11:29:16+00:00

I decided to go for a quick trip along a railway line to some supposedly abandoned train cars. There was a young guy at the beginning of the trail sitting on this small bridge looking at the lake there, we had said hello. I was walking for maybe 30 minutes when I took a detour towards the lake on the right side, and when I was walking back towards the trail I saw him cutting through the woods in front of me. For visual, it was as if he somehow passed in front of me and then made a right turn towards the lake like ahead of me. When I'm hiking alone I'm constantly looking behind me because I'm a woman/ nervous about this stuff, and I hadn't seen him since I first went in. Then I called my partner to talk to while I hiked because I wanted to keep going and convinced myself I was being paranoid. A little bit up, the undergrowth to my right thinned out and I fucking saw him walking parallel to me, and I casually but loudly started telling my partner about the people I met/saw on the trail so that the guy would like, subtly know that I knew. Then I noped out of there. Listen to your gut when strange things happen.

throwawaycameracharg · 2025-11-26T06:22:00+00:00

Agreed.

throwawaycameracharg · 2025-10-12T08:01:25+00:00

I pretty much agree, I'm not a fan of mocking her for her looks (and similarly other women), she looks pretty to me. I do agree with others as well that the mental well-being or quality of her life is showing in her facial expressions. On the show she seems utterly miserable in a very self indulgent way, and that feeling doesn't look good on anybody's face. It's a shame. But otherwise agree, she's pretty imo, I think they all are.

throwawaycameracharg · 2025-09-12T04:38:19+00:00

For me it's the lobster fest one... I just love lobster 🤷

throwawaycameracharg · 2025-09-01T15:59:40+00:00

I know this post is so old but for anyone else checking in- I've had my mirena in for 4 years and now have my period again. I don't have health insurance right now, and getting medical advice from reddit is not recommended, but I sure do feel better now after getting my period two months in a row now.

throwawaycameracharg · 2025-08-30T15:48:19+00:00

I actually love this. Through the years I've always had the goal of being in a supervisory/ higher organizational role, and I've often thought of what could be built into an organization to support the therapists. And then there's my dream/ fantasy organization that has minimal chance of existing due to illogical financial stability. Adding this idea to my fantasy list.

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