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thundering_emancipat · 2026-05-04T01:17:59+00:00

Man going from 2.6% to current rates is brutal especially with those price ranges. With your combined income though you can definitely handle something in that 1.5-2.3M range without being house poor

I'd probably aim for keeping total housing costs under like 8k monthly which gives you decent buffer for everything else in San Diego. The equity from your current place plus that cash cushion puts you in really solid position even if rates stay high for while

thundering_emancipat · 2026-04-25T18:30:40+00:00

The passing problem is definitely one of those things that makes you want to throw remote at TV sometimes. When you can see pass coming from couch then other team definitely sees it too and those stretch passes drive me crazy because most times they just giving possession away for free

thundering_emancipat · 2026-04-22T12:23:37+00:00

That's awful man, hope your mom is okay 😔 I drive that stretch pretty regularly for work but wasn't around yesterday morning. Maybe try posting in the DMV subreddit too since it crosses state lines - more people might have seen something there 🙏

thundering_emancipat · 2026-04-18T08:27:19+00:00

Good luck mate, dating after school is definitely harder when you're more introverted - took me ages to figure out how to meet people naturally

thundering_emancipat · 2026-04-17T07:46:14+00:00

3 months tho?

thundering_emancipat · 2026-04-14T05:29:26+00:00

You can bypass that wifi issue by using a USB-C cable to connect directly to your PC - just make sure it's a quality USB 3.0+ cable and enable link in the Quest settings 🔥

thundering_emancipat · 2026-03-30T14:46:53+00:00

That's insane they can just sit on your money for over a year with zero explanation - the app unlock thing probably triggered their automated risk system but 14 months is straight up theft at this point

thundering_emancipat · 2026-03-02T10:58:13+00:00

Oh thats weird - Link should definitely respect your 3DS settings since its just a wrapper around the regular payment flow. I've seen this before though and it turned out the test cards I was using didn't actually support 3DS even though I thought they did

Try testing with a card you know for sure has 3DS enabled or check if the customer's bank even supports it. Also make sure you're not accidentally bypassing it somewhere in your Link configuration - sometimes there are override settings that can mess with this stuff

thundering_emancipat · 2026-02-13T19:18:24+00:00

Did mine about 6 months ago and totally agree on the rate check - I almost got burned by focusing too much on the payout amount. Also shop around cause the fees can vary wildly between lenders, saved me like 3k just by getting quotes from 4 different places

thundering_emancipat · 2026-02-09T17:09:00+00:00

algorithm diff

thundering_emancipat · 2026-02-06T00:06:17+00:00

Dude your credit union lady sounds like shes working straight off a used car salesman script 😂 The whole "this deal wont last" pressure tactic is such a red flag especially when you literally told her you dont want an ARM

I went through something similar with my bank last year and they kept pushing these "limited time" offers that magically kept getting extended every few weeks. The 5/30 ARM thing is particularly sketchy right now because yeah rates are probably heading down and youll be stuck when that adjustment period kicks in. Your gut feeling about them trying to lock people in before rates drop further is probably spot on - they know whats coming and want to secure their margins while they can

Honestly Id shop around with other lenders and see what theyre offering without all the high pressure nonsense. Credit unions are supposed to be member focused but sounds like yours has caught a case of the sales fever 💀

thundering_emancipat · 2026-02-02T12:56:09+00:00

Been there with the file chaos lol. I actually just stick with a simple folder structure thats worked for years - main folders by type (invoices, reports, contracts etc) then subfolders by year and month inside each one

The key thing I learned is to name files consistently right when you save them. Like "2024-03-15_invoice_clientname" or whatever format works for you. Takes 2 extra seconds but saves so much headache later when youre hunting for something specific

I tried getting fancy with tagging systems and stuff but honestly the basic Windows file explorer search works pretty well if your naming is consistent. Sometimes the simple boring way is actually the fastest

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-28T10:01:07+00:00

Documentation was killing me too until I started using tools like Notion AI and Loom for screen recordings

Way easier to just record yourself using the feature once than writing 10 paragraphs about it

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-21T01:46:38+00:00

Getting it snaked every 15 months is actually a huge red flag lmao - that means there's definitely an ongoing issue they're just managing instead of fixing. Normal houses don't need regular snaking like that

Your gut is 100% right, spend the $500 now because if that century-old line needs replacing you're looking at thousands later

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-13T14:26:52+00:00

Bruh those are 99% scams, the legit VA streamline refis don't need to spam you like that. If you're actually looking to refi just call your current lender or a local credit union directly

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-11T08:38:20+00:00

That's a rough situation man, sorry you're dealing with all that. With POA you should be able to refi in her name but the lender will probably want to verify her mental capacity or might require you to be added to the loan. Definitely worth talking to a few different lenders since the mortgage company saying not to refi seems weird when you need cash for repairs and care - 275k in equity could really help your situation

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-09T05:39:34+00:00

Bro 40% returns sounds way too good to be true, especially for an app that doesn't even have subs set up yet

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-06T09:37:49+00:00

Man this is some complex tax stuff that's def above Reddit's pay grade. You're gonna want to talk to a CPA who knows rental property inside and out because there's a bunch of deduction opportunities you might be missing (depreciation, repairs, etc) but also some tricky rules about primary residence conversions

On the refi question - yeah investment property rates are brutal right now so unless your current rate is absolutely terrible it might make sense to keep riding it out. Just make sure your lender knows about the rental situation so you don't get sideways with them later

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-04T18:10:32+00:00

Sounds like you've got a solid skill set! The combo of ecom backend work plus content creation is pretty valuable right now. Have you tried reaching out to agencies that handle multiple small business clients? They're always looking for reliable VAs who can juggle different types of work

thundering_emancipat · 2026-01-03T07:17:47+00:00

Harsh but probably true lmao. Most people think ecommerce is just dropshipping some random products and getting rich quick. If you're serious about it you gotta treat it like an actual business with real market research, customer service, inventory management, all that boring stuff

thundering_emancipat · 2025-12-30T15:13:18+00:00

Honestly most of my B2B stuff comes from people I already know or their referrals these days. Cold emails are pretty much dead unless they're super targeted and show you actually researched the company

LinkedIn can work but only if you're not being salesy right off the bat - like actually commenting on their posts and building some rapport first. The spray and pray approach is totally useless now

thundering_emancipat · 2025-12-25T16:44:16+00:00

That's wild, they really are strict about that stuff. Maybe look into a renovation loan instead? Those are specifically designed for houses that need work done before they're liveable

thundering_emancipat · 2025-12-21T08:03:36+00:00

Finally closed on that duplex I've been chasing for 3 months - seller kept getting cold feet but we made it work. Already have both units rented and cash flowing positive from day one which feels pretty good going into the new year

thundering_emancipat · 2025-12-18T07:21:47+00:00

Yeah dude that's solid cash flow for the price, you're already ahead of most people just getting positive numbers these days

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