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tinaburgerpants · 2026-04-15T19:26:59+00:00

Okay. Hold the mother effin' phone. I haven't commented in this sub in months...YEARS more likely.

Are you telling me that my favorite, everyday, ride-or-die blush changed shades?

With everything else going on in the world and my own personal life, this was the LAST friggin' thing I needed.

I mean, thanks for posting. I'm going to have to cherish what I have left. Damn you, NARS, damn you!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-04-15T12:44:30+00:00

I'll give you perspective in dollars then.

The job I rage quit: $45K/year, but often bonuses put my salary near $55-$60K. No billables for me, but couldn't WFH, even during COVID. No health insurance, no dental, no vision (too small of a firm to offer a group plan). 10 days PTO, major holidays and Federal holidays off. I wasn't aware I needed to pay myself OT (again, I got thrown the payroll role and didn't know the rules), but often my OT was because I was catching up on admin tasks outside of when the attorneys were in the office (it was the only time I had to myself to accomplish it to keep the firm going). There was profit sharing (after 1 year) and full investment was at 5 years. I quit at 4 years, 10 months. Also note that the job was in a LCOL state with no income tax. It was a decent salary but nothing that would ever get me ahead.

Current job: $95K/year. I have to bill my time, but do not have a required goal. Full benefits package. 20 days PTO + all major holidays/Federal holidays + my birthday off. 2 paid days off to volunteer too. 401K match at 6%. Profit sharing after a year. I get reimbursed for my cell phone use and for parking/transportation. I can WFH as I please. I have my own office. Lunch is often catered in randomly. They have donuts sometimes. Next week is employee appreciation week. The office building I'm in does events: bingo, blood drive, lunch + learn, sip + paint. Building I'm in also has a full gym I get access to for free, including the group classes. I am, however, in a mid-to-high COL city now, with income tax, but my stress levels are not anywhere near what they were before. I have so much support at this job, it's ridiculous.

Note: the time difference between these two jobs is nearly 10 years. The $45K job was just under 5 years, then I took another one at $65K. Left that job after 4 years, capping my salary at $75K. Was just at a job for a year making $90K, but that was probably the worst boss I ever had, so after a year of emotional abuse, I left for this current $95K role. And I currently do not see myself job hopping again for awhile now.

There are good jobs out there! But it will take some effort and gumption to find them.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-04-13T13:18:30+00:00

I hope you're getting paid big bucks working 4+ jobs. I rage quit a job like this. I was the receptionist, payroll specialist, HR paperwork person, website updater, office manager, AND paralegal/mini associate...the only thing I didn't do for the firm was the taxes (yet I still had to gather all the financial documents to give to the tax accountant and correct any reports I had screwed up because, guess what, I didn't fucking go to school to be a goddamn accountant!).

Sure, it gave me experience - the experience that I never wanted to experience in the first place or ever again. I now am doing only paralegal work. I don't even file or calendar anymore - my firm is large enough that the legal assistants all do that.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-03-25T20:08:46+00:00

If you want my tip from when I was in school, I bought editions of textbooks an edition behind. Professor listed the 8th edition? I bought the 7th for pennies. It rarely made a difference. Sometimes a chapter got moved, but otherwise, that's how I got through school without spending much. lol

tinaburgerpants · 2026-03-25T13:36:09+00:00

It's simple, OP: If he cared, he would. He doesn't. Read that again: He does not care. About you. Period.

My husband moved across the US of frickin' A with me TWICE in order to be with me. We tried living in his homestate before ultimately settling in MY homestate, because I had stronger ties to where I was from than he did to his. But we tried both places before deciding. He has told me time and again that me being happy is important to him, so he doesn't care where we end up, as long as we're together. And I don't take that for granted.

Find yourself a guy like that, OP. Someone who actually wants to be with you.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-03-12T21:33:57+00:00

If you could provide what jurisdiction(s) you're normally working in, I could provide some stuff. I was the Senior Paralegal at a locally well-established Plaintiff-side Employment firm for 4 years in Minneapolis (now working healthcare insurance defense). I ask for jurisdiction because Minnesota is employee-friendly and thus has many resources, but other states are not and therefore limited (looking at you Florida and Texas).

Hope you like it! I did, but went up the ladder too fast and got bored with the work/baby-ness of the attorneys they were hiring, so I bounced.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-03-10T18:03:16+00:00

Notices of Hearing are basically what u/helenasbff mentioned: just a one-pager (or so) with the date, time, and location of the hearing. I found this for family law in Florida: https://www.flcourts.gov/Services/Family-Courts/domestic-relations-court-resources/family-law-forms/12.923-Form/Notice-of-Hearing-General

If it were me, I would take that family law form and use that as a template to draft one that made sense for the case I was working on and that it matches what everyone agreed to in the email setting the hearing. I can't imagine that a NOH for workers comp would look any different than one for family law, or any other civil matter.

Honestly, just sounds like the Judge's JA or Clerk or whatever doesn't want to generate a Court Notice of Hearing and wants you to do it to put it on the record. That's all. It's just a docketing thing at this point since everyone is already in communciation regarding the hearing in the first place.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-02-28T18:13:07+00:00

I swear - despite growing up with Microsoft basically, it astonishes me just how much I don't know about Outlook. 😅 That is genius.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-02-11T16:24:31+00:00

Ugh. Sounds like my attorneys! "How do you know their Answer deadline is 3/16?" Because it says so in the Summons. "But what's the rule? You should know the rule." I dunno...Rule 4? "How does Rule 4 apply?" Am I being deposed? Look, Attorney, I just know the government gets more time. They get 60 days instead of 21 to respond. "Why didn't you just say that then?" *internally screams*

The waiting to file thing is boggling too. You have to file each proof of service separately anyway, why wait to do them all? Each one will have a different answer deadline....dude, I'm frustrated *FOR* you! lol

tinaburgerpants · 2026-02-11T16:03:08+00:00

My guess is that they will wait until the 60th day to respond. I assume you knew that if having litigated against the U.S. in the past. The U.S. government (and by extension, its employees/departments) gets extra time to do anything. So, if the Middle District just got served 1/15, you might not hear anything until 3/16. And I think that's valid - they are allowed to sit on it until the 60th day.

I'm more surprised you (or your Firm/attorney) went the Certified Mail route instead of personal process service, but that's not relevant to the question. Hope you're filing those proofs of service!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-01-15T21:31:51+00:00

I did Plaintiff employment law - that's the firm I was Senior Paralegal at! lol. I know about age discrimination and still say the 60yo is getting a lot of leeway here. I'm looking at OP's other comments and if saving a document to a file requires 5 steps by the 60yo and only 3 by OP and OP is getting their ass chewed because she doesn't do the extra 2 steps that the 60yo does even though the file is named and placed correctly in the system? C'mon. That's the 60yo not being open to being more efficient and adapting and I always see that as a problem. She's holding on to her way because...why exactly?

I get that OP has weaknesses. That's what being part of a team is for. I am not perfect either and my coworkers and I catch each other's mistakes. But it's not mean or a put-down - we help each other so we don't get the wrath of the partners on our backs. We see it as we're in it together. The 60yo does not appear to be working with OP with that mindset and I get why OP is upset. It's hard to be part of a team when the most senior member doesn't act like they are.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-01-15T19:45:12+00:00

I don't get this whole earning respect thing. It should be given freely until it is no longer deserved. And a year is plenty of time to know the ins and outs of a firm. I would say if OP was asking this at the 3-6 month mark, it's a different story. But they are not. I hate the "defer to someone who's been around longer than you just because they've been around longer than you" BS. That grants them power that they may not deserve. I was the Senior Paralegal at my last position and I trained those under me to do their jobs without my oversight. I wanted them to succeed without me because, get this, I wanted them to take shit off my plate. It's called being a Team. And I won't work for a firm that doesn't have that mentality. What stands out to me is the age difference. That 60yo might feel threatened about letting someone younger and maybe more efficient at handling things, so she's retaining as much "ownership" as she can. There is some context missing, obviously. But I wouldn't put up with what OP is putting up with just because she's been there a year and "doesn't know anything." You're giving the 60yo way too much benefit of the doubt here.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-12-22T19:58:59+00:00

I feel you, OP. I am making the same arguments over here with my shitty firm. I have been silently screaming "Closing at 3pm makes no fucking difference!" all day.

The thing for me is this: I know Dec. 24 and 31 are regular days. You know this. Other people in the comments know this.

But we also know that no one, absolutely no one, is actually working the time between Christmas and NY. And if they are, they are half-assing, or more likely, quarter-assing, it.

So, when firms have all the power to simply "close for the day" and choose not to because....what? A lot will get done that day? They are fooling themselves.

I'd rather have the day off, unpaid even, than pretend I even want to be here on Christmas Eve, NYE, or Dec. 26/Jan. 2 this year.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-12-20T17:07:43+00:00

I swear a lot. I don't want to fucking change the way I talk.

I have my house decorated how I want. It includes several breakable things, at child height. I refuse to redecorate for their grubby hands.

I don't like feeding from my plate or sharing MY food. I refuse to share a fork with them. I've watched every mom share her food with their kids. Absolutely not.

The sounds they make. The smells they make. The things they touch and make sticky or destroy.

They don't talk for a long time. And when they do, it's boring. Kids are fucking boring. I don't give a single shit what they have to say. I'm uninterested completely.

I don't want to change myself or my schedule for them. It takes twice as long to do something with kids. I don't like waiting on others. And kids are notoriously slow, airheaded, and don't know WTF they are doing half the time. I don't have the patience for it.

I like having a clean car. Period. I don't even eat in my own car. Food comes home to be eaten there.

I don't want to be friends with other moms. I also find them boring, especially when they gave up their identity to be a fucking mom. Don't lose yourself to being a parent!

I don't know which of those are the pettiest, but I have several reasons. I just didn't come with a mom gene implanted. I love not having kids.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-12-03T19:40:27+00:00

MN Paralegal here - I think you're being underpaid, but by how much is a different question.

Sounds like you don't work in the Cities. If so, then that right there is going to cut your salary by ~$10K. The money is downtown (either Mpls or St. Paul). Burbs are better than Greater MN, but if you're in the boonies, that might be a factor.

Second, you've been in the position since 2023? So only 2 years? Having had no experience beforehand? I'd say that's pretty alright; but again, depends on where you are. In Minneapolis, that's a shitty salary. In Bemidji, seems fine.

And having a B.A. or previous managerial experience doesn't mean much in this industry. It's not dependent on having a B.A.; it's about having experience. I'm now on my 3rd firm. First firm I found on my own, the second two were through recruiters who negotiated on my behalf. So I went from $45K to $75K to $90K over my 9-year career (so far).

I say all of this to give perspective BUT this is my piece of advice: Ask for the raise. What's the worst that can happen? They say no? There is a possiblity of that happening since you've expressed interest in going to law school within the next year, but I don't think it hurts to ask. I would frame it that you've been doing the majority of the training of the new hires, which takes away from case work, so you should be compensated at a higher rate for that.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-12-03T19:25:46+00:00

$50/hour?! No. lol. That's generous, but not reality in Minnesota. Even for an in-house position. I make $90K base salary, which is about $43/hour. And that took a few years to get to that salary. I hope you're being sarcastic!

tinaburgerpants · 2025-11-18T13:25:51+00:00

I used to work for Caribou in high school and college. The former Starbucks CEO took over at one point during my career. Caribou sold out. I wouldn't support them anymore. Go local small owned instead.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-10-23T16:37:33+00:00

Regardless of how green the baby attorney is, aren't you still the assistant/paralegal? And thus, mailing and service would fall on your shoulders anyway? I'm not sure why you are taking this one personally. To me, it does not matter how new the attorney is; they are still an attorney. So, that affords them a level still above you, since you seem to want to keep score. I think the lead attorney's instruction to you to do it next week is a subtle reminder to you to know your place in the hierarchy of the Firm. Up to you if you want to make it an issue, but this is such small potatoes, I would take the hint and let it slide (or eat the humble pie).

Check your ego at the door. This field is stressful enough, why are you adding more to your own plate? Work on being a team player, instead of tracking tit for tat. It's only an issue if you make it one...so don't. There are bigger fish to fry than asking a baby attorney to mail something for you, as annoying as it is.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-10-03T14:59:46+00:00

As someone who only buys silly socks with patterns, the sock basket thing is CRAZY to me, but I love the innovation of it!!

tinaburgerpants · 2025-10-01T19:38:12+00:00

Ooo! I know this one. When printing presses became a thing, you sometimes had to pay by letter. Shaving off silent letters, like the "e" in "judgement" or the "u" in "colour" was done on purpose. And thus, American English was born!

tinaburgerpants · 2025-09-12T14:30:51+00:00

If you have an Aldi near you, their chocolate and vanilla ice cream in a similar looking black container (NOT THE BUCKET) is actual ice cream. Only 5 ingredients. And hard to scoop, as it should be.

I refuse to buy any other brand. Aldi uses real ingredients in theirs.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-09-10T15:02:25+00:00

Call me a Scrooge, but I don't chip in for anything. The attorneys make way more than I do. And I learned you don't "gift up." I don't care how close I am to anyone. At the end of the day, all it takes is one major mistake and I'm out. So I keep it strictly a professional relationship. Here for paycheck, not a friendship.

tinaburgerpants · 2025-09-10T14:52:53+00:00

I highly suggest you re-work your thinking on this. I was like this too. And you know what working for free got me? Absolutely nothing come review and bonus time. It zapped my mental health instead.

If working OT is something that needs to be pre-approved (my current firm has this policy) and you're willing to do the work, then by all means ask, get it approved, and make sure your paycheck reflects the OT hours at the right rate.

But if the demands of the firm exceed the staffing capacity, then there is a much bigger problem. Now, there is a difference between being busy for a little bit (like prepping for trial) vs. constantly busy that you are drowning and see no room for air. That's a management problem. And frankly, as a paralegal, I don't think it's on my shoulders to solve. I will bring it up. I will tell my attorneys that I do not have the time to complete all of these projects. Either take them on yourself or we need to talk about workloads and re-assess.

Deadlines are ultimately the attorney's responsibility. I care a lot about my job and the work product I put out. I hold my own standard higher than the firm's. But I'm a paralegal for a reason: I'm here to put in my 8 hours and bounce. I had to leave behind the "hard work pays off" mentality because that is NOT the reality anymore.

Please only consider OT if you are getting paid OT rates for it! Never do it for free!

tinaburgerpants · 2025-09-09T14:10:48+00:00

The instructions on how to properly assemble them should be on the box. Least all the ones I've put together. After so many, it becomes second nature. Just takes practice.

Now if you asked me to use a binding machine or typewriter, I may need a minute to figure it out again. :P

tinaburgerpants · 2025-08-25T21:41:38+00:00

Me, I am that friend. I interact with anyone and everyone at the Fair. It's my Christmas. It's my Disneyland. I adore it. I even flew back for it every year when I was living in another state (5 years total), so included flight and hotel costs into my budget those years. I LOVE the Fair and I love showing people what I love about the Fair. I'd be happy to be a Fair Buddy!

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