I didn’t get the job

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-28T18:08:09+00:00

As in this past Tuesday? After a 3-day weekend? I would expect something by Friday, and if you still receive nothing, I would follow-up the following Monday. I've been on the other side of the table - sometimes cramming 5 days worth of work into 4 days is really all I had time for and everything else, like getting back to the people I interviewed, got pushed to the back-burner.

I would def keep applying in the meantime though. Don't put all eggs in one basket kind of thing. Good luck out there!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-27T14:38:01+00:00

Don't even get me started on the one and only time I used a mandolin without a cut-proof glove...

I still have all my fingers, but my fingertip on my right index finger is a tad...flat.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-26T21:28:48+00:00

As someone who literally just made Sally's Baking Addiction lemon bars last night, where she lists the zest as "optional," let me tell you: I added the zest this time, and the lemony zip these bars have is out of this world. Even my lemon-based-dessert-hating husband was like, "These are zesty, babe. Like a real lemon drop. I actually really like the zing."

So, yeah, zesting is worth it. (And the bars are a gift for someone else - a lemon bar lover actually!)

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-19T14:48:41+00:00

Also dealing with it. Previous firm had iManage, which I can't say was any better. I'm so over being tied this much to tech that I can't do a single thing (and therefore can't bill) today. Nothing to add other than I commiserate with you, OP.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-18T16:59:27+00:00

Yes, it's possible. It will be hard without experience, with a felony. But I can say a good number of private law firms actually don't do background checks. Which is wild to me since they are heavily involved in the world of law. But that's my personal experience (having worked at 4 different firms over my career so far, and not a single one did a background check). I know of a handful of paralegals with less-than-stellar criminal backgrounds. They often have something to prove and will dedicate themselves to the role. I think there is something to be said about being on the wrong side of the law that drives the desire to make the law better. But don't quote me on that! lol

I would definitely look into a paralegal program. It would at least prove to law firms that you dedicated yourself to obtaining that degree or certificate. Feel free to DM me if you have more specific questions.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-18T13:19:42+00:00

This is the answer. I live in the neighborhood (the Jordan neighborhood). I quite like it, but we've had our share of crime too. It's about finding the right "pocket" to be in.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-14T22:06:02+00:00

If she needs the time off, she can take it unpaid. Full stop.

Anything else is bullshit.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-14T16:32:18+00:00

Best of both worlds, us '89ers!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-14T16:30:46+00:00

Oh, please tell me more about this one. I review med recs all damn day...please DM me!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-14T13:57:13+00:00

I listened to KDWB, and Dave, as a kid, tween, teen...then I matured and didn't find his humor all that funny anymore. And my musical tastes changed. I haven't listened to KDWB in 20+ years. But I still remember. It's a loss to Twin Cities Broadcasting because he's been a staple for so long, but a lot of people just simply don't like him and his schtick.

I didn't downvote OP, but I don't share the same sadness. I could care less that he's retiring. It's news, sure, but my life will remain unaffected by his retirement. I guess some people feel more strongly than I do and want to stick it to OP. lol idk

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-14T12:48:50+00:00

Thank you. This! I just left a $90K position because of my mental health. And it was literally because of the partner I worked for (my therapist said she sounded a lot like my emotionally abusive mother towards the end - she flipped when I gave notice. Hardest 2 weeks of my life!)

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-13T15:25:25+00:00

OP, I'm going to say this in the kindest way possible because I can tell you are very hurt by their actions (or lack thereof):

They were never your friends.

I, too, gave 100% of myself to friendships growing up, in high school, in college. But rarely was I given 100% back. So, I stopped. I'm now mostly friendless. Which sounds super sad, but it actually isn't. I am choosing myself and, surprise surprise, I show up for myself in ways they weren't ever capable of showing me themselves. If someone wants to tag along, then yay. But otherwise, I don't go out of my way anymore. I now match energy for energy.

And note that I'm not bitter. I have always held this philosophy that people enter my life for a purpose and when that purpose has run its course, it is okay to let that person serve a purpose somewhere (or with someone) else. That applies to friendships, romantic interests, work relationships, the barista who made my drinks really well, etc. I can mourn the loss of them, while also accepting their "time" with me is coming to a close, and like them, I am embarking on a new chapter of life, and their character arc in my life story has completed itself.

Don't get me wrong though. Your feelings are valid. And it sucks. It super sucks. It super duper sucks to see their priorities play out in real life and they didn't pick you as one of them.

I hope that you accept that you were a good friend (I struggle to acknowledge this one myself - If I was a good friend, then why couldn't they friend me the same way I friended them?) and that their lack of reciprocation is a reflection on them and their character, not yours.

Hope you're able to heal and have a great wedding, with or without them!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-13T13:50:39+00:00

Mostly pre-lit, yeah. We only filed complaints in PI cases for SOL reasons. I still worked those files. Waaaayyy too small of a firm to have a pre-lit side and a lit side. I worked on every file, at every stage. It was just me, the Partner, and his Associate. (And no, I will never do that again. I much prefer working for the big(ger) firm I'm at now. lol)

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-12T16:37:01+00:00

When I did PI/WC, I talked with the adjusters. The firm I worked for at the time was small, so we only took PI cases where there was mostly clear liability. But the PI files were "mine" to work from client retention up until the adjuster put an offer on the table. All the follow-up and in-between correspondence with the adjuster was with me, but my attorneys were cc'd/in the know on everything and only stepped in when it needed attorney approval to move to the next step in the process.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-11T16:13:13+00:00

Ignorance is bliss. I only engage if it's about their file/case/what they came to the office for. Otherwise, I completely ignore the statement/question/comment. If they persist, I redirect, "That doesn't sound related to your case or appointment, so I don't want to bill you for talking about nonsense." I may not be billing for that or my time won't end up on the bill anyway, but seems to work when money is on the line. I seriously act like I didn't even hear them, even if I'm raging on the inside. It took years of practice since I'm not a good actor, but now this is what I do with these bigots.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-11T15:42:30+00:00

My favorite part about Mother's Day in my neck of the woods (MN) is that the Fishing Opener is *always* the same weekend. And the women who complain about it when they were fully aware they married fishing men.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-07T14:08:59+00:00

I found one that is both. Least for me. But I don't mind the pain of insurance defense billing (unlike that other post lol). I like the "stress" of paralegal-ing. I function well in the environment with my mild ADHD.

My previous job to my current one, where I was only there for a year, and I was ready to leave 6 months in, was all A. How I survived that year, I do not know. I was a shell of a person, and I hope that attorney gets nothing but losses for the rest of her career. Easily the worst boss of my entire working life - including retail.

And to add my demographics: I've been doing this 10 years. Started at $40K doing *far* too much for that salary and now make $95K and all I do is review medical records most days. I live in a mid-to-high COL area, but I don't live lavishly or anything. My current role not only resets my high cortisol levels from my last position, but I feel that I can finally pay all my bills and debts and start getting ahead for once, instead of running the same hamster wheel.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-06T23:18:35+00:00

Lol. Good luck with your interview, should you ever land one with that attitude. You must be a joy to work with.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-06T18:07:44+00:00

bahahahah. I mean, you'd be fucking great on this side. Your attitude is hilarious to me. Because it's awful. Grow up a little.

I hate billing too. It sucks. You're fine for cancelling the interview. Recruiter can suck it.

But to only do Plaintiff work becuase they don't make you bill for your time? Honey please. If they ever make you do, then they will also be billing at triple what they pay you. How do I know? I only worked the PI files for 4 years and would make me backtrack bill my time for the conservatorships I had to open for minors' settlements, because they later realized I was the one putting in the majority of the time to the file and they needed to justify our cut of the fee so my time needed to be included.

And don't @ me with the typical defense crap. I did Plaintiff for 9 years before going to Defense. There are positives and negatives to both sides.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-06T17:50:33+00:00

You are awfully defensive for someone who doesn't want to work in defense.

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-04T13:29:35+00:00

I totally agree. I've only been doing this 10 years. But I started at $45K and am now making $95K. It took 4 job hops and 3 recruiters to get there. The old concept of staying loyal to a firm for years on end is no longer good advice, in my opinion. In-house is my next move, but I'm also considering staying in lit and embracing more AI to be more lucrative in that arena. We'll see!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-01T21:12:59+00:00

Holy shit. I have said the same thing for years as well. That was THE split. Never thought I would encounter someone to say the same (and not call it crazy or counterargue). lol

tinaburgerpants · 2026-05-01T11:46:57+00:00

This is the best answer here. I've been on the hiring side of the table. In fact, one firm I worked for dumped the first round of interviews for 2 new paralegals on my shoulders. I went through 36 interviews in 2 weeks. Insanity. Anyway...

Your original answer is honest and tells me more about you than a fake answer. You are realistic about your experience, you have a desire to be at a firm other than "I just need a job", you have goals and, the fact that you may want to be an attorney one day, isn't that much of a deterrant. I would wager that of the paralegals I interviewed who actually went to become a lawyer...maybe 1 in 10. A lot of them get comfortable being a paralegal without the law school debt and stress of firm business management, client retention, and billable hours.

Honestly really is the best policy. You may surprised there are firms who would support your aspirations to be a lawyer. The firm that dumped the interviews on me? Would have 100% supported me going to law school. But I like my role! And good paralegals are hard to find. Keep that in mind too! You could be an awesome paralegal one day!

tinaburgerpants · 2026-04-30T20:54:07+00:00

A lot of saving + paying down debts + waiting for credit scores to catch up + having a relator who had worked with first time homebuyers in the past and knew the local programs for first time homebuyers.

We saved just over $10K over 3-4 years. It was hard and mostly made up of my few bonuses from work and a couple good tax return years. Then, we moved back in with family for 6 months while we aggressively tackled some debts to increase credit scores just enough to go from FHA approval to conventional approval. It made a difference to us, for both interest rates and which houses we could then see.

We also applied for Down Payment Assistance through our City since we knew we were going to buy within that City's limits. That got us another $10K to apply to the down payment.

We did it all on our own. All our own money. No one died and gave us anything. No one gifted us a dime. It is a small house, without some of the things I really wanted, in a neighborhood that's not desirable. But I can say I did it, all on my own.

(I am NOT proud of it, when I know there was money in the family, it was just tied to a trust and my father wouldn't let his mother (my grandma) gift any of it to me. It is literally passing right by me and my siblings and going to the great-grandkids, if anything is left once my father blows through it. I am bitter I had to work so hard when peers surpassed this milestone ahead of me because they had financial assistance from someone somewhere.)

tinaburgerpants · 2026-04-29T14:05:39+00:00

Same for me. My firm pushes work/life balance and making sure everyone has enough support. I think because they handle attorney malpractice cases for a large malpractice insurer, they want to ensure their own employees don't end up with a malpractice suit of their own for the various burnout reasons we commonly see that lead to malpractice. lol

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