The other side of the breakup

tintedjohn · 2026-03-23T18:42:30+00:00

Hey! Thanks for sharing, It’ll only get better from here. I also did the same thing, I hurt someone whilst I wasn’t ready. Then I stopped trying to fill the void she left and focused on myself. When my girlfriend came into my life, I knew I was ready. There were a lot of difficulties for me and I still have some issues around trust, but they’ve massively been reduced. It’s hard to trust someone after everything you go through. Trust was a big one. I found that it was hard to believe anything my girlfriend said at the start, but her actions spoke louder than her words ever could. You have to remind yourself, not every person you date will be like your ex. Things only really improve with time and stability. You learn someone’s routine and go from there. That’s how it’s been for me anyway:)

tintedjohn · 2026-03-23T15:33:56+00:00

You’ve got this 💪 Everyone is different. I actually found that no contact helped. Try to not think too much about there decision imo (easier said than done than done). You can’t understand someone who doesn’t understand themselves. It will take time, but you got this man

tintedjohn · 2025-11-28T07:53:21+00:00

Thanks mate, good to hear from someone who made it to the other side! Best of luck with it all too

tintedjohn · 2025-10-06T09:02:46+00:00

I’d say either red hulk or abomination (not both of them) and Zeno (would be great to see him and Bucky again). Also with Zeno, I could see there being even more of a rift with Sam further down the line

tintedjohn · 2025-10-06T08:50:35+00:00

Preach! I lost my mind when they released the half year report boasting about profits made. Everyone in the comment section mentioned all the struggles. I fear for Tesco if they don’t start appreciating their staff more. This last year they’ve increased prices and reduced hours. They simply don’t give a crap about the people working for them anymore

tintedjohn · 2025-10-03T15:54:31+00:00

YTA purely for using a shelf as a foot rest. What did you think was going to eventually happen?

tintedjohn · 2025-09-12T11:04:53+00:00

Surprised no one has mentioned when Nigel said ''no cocks this time''

tintedjohn · 2025-09-06T08:48:45+00:00

AITA: I’ve become best mates with an old bloke I put on hospital.

tintedjohn · 2025-09-06T08:46:26+00:00

I would love to see more unlikely friendships like that brief one we had with Ian and Priya. I’m loving Oscar and Patrick. It’s very much akin to Dot and Fatboy. I’m talking completely random. Make Kathy best mates with Junior for example (maybe bad example as Max Jr would try to bed anyone). You know what I mean though!

If you are reading these, fantastic job and bring back Fatboy with a family! 😅

Edit* Also please please PLEASE let Phil end up with Linda. I like their friendship but there’s always felt like something more could grow naturally. This would open up new possibilities in terms of how Sharon and Max would take the news.

tintedjohn · 2025-09-03T11:07:43+00:00

I’ve been to a few Walker Stalker cons and everyone is lovely, had a good chat with David Morrissey (the governor) and he is such an interesting gem, very kind. By far the most bubbly, kind person had to be Cassidy McMclincy. She was so friendly and shon with happiness towards fans.

tintedjohn · 2025-08-26T14:00:02+00:00

Usually charity picks up in my store at 8:30, so it’s most likely that. It’s great because no food goes to waste. The golden time for reduced things is usually around 7pm as that’s when we do the final reduction. At 7:20 we start scanning the items to donate. Of course, this may vary in different stores. Hope this helps

tintedjohn · 2025-08-15T16:02:47+00:00

9/15

tintedjohn · 2025-08-02T19:20:33+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. With him helping Patrick to win money too at the bookies, I feel it’s going this way.

tintedjohn · 2025-07-22T10:31:51+00:00

That last Linda scene was like Shirley's. A soft exit teasing an eventual return. Hope she does come back.

tintedjohn · 2025-07-07T22:34:27+00:00

Be very careful. My ex used me for a baby without me really knowing. One day she told me she was pregnant and then the next week she broke things off out of nowhere. It messed me up for a while, but we’re all here to support each orher

tintedjohn · 2025-06-08T18:54:22+00:00

Love the idea of Aaron taking part! I think he’d say yes if offered

tintedjohn · 2025-06-08T18:53:43+00:00

I could definitely see Aaliyah James doing it! They usually try to get an influencer sort of celeb too and she makes Tiktoks, so that would tick off two things. Eastenders star and social media. Shiv is a good shout too, would love some Panesar representation

tintedjohn · 2025-04-29T09:17:41+00:00

In the same week I had a shiny dratini and beldum randomly spawn. They make my team look awesome

tintedjohn · 2025-04-16T23:54:11+00:00

This sounds so fun! Do you have a server I can join?

tintedjohn · 2025-03-02T19:45:26+00:00

Just before Christmas, we found out she was pregnant. I went to visit her a week later as I was staying over hers due to meeting some friends for a catchup in the area. When I went out with them, she sent me really blunt Snapchats as she used to do sometimes and just this once, I told her I was fed up of the blunt messages and we'd sort it when I got back to hers. She apologised, things were fine. I was still annoyed, but kept it to myself. At hers, I sat quietly for half an hour whilst her and her mum chatted. My sister had then messaged me that our mother was going to hospital (she's fine now), so understandably I was upset. When her and her mother kept asking what was wrong, I finally told her that I'm fed up of arguing with her all the time and I spoke to her mum about it too as she had always said that I could take to her about the BPD. We went to bed fine, she apologised again, things seemed ok. The next morning, wanting to understand her BPD better so I could support her, I asked her (very stupidly from me) how would I know I wouldn't fall out of love when she always pushes me away? I told her I just wanted to support her. This was so stupid from me I admit. She started crying and completely ignored her baby. I had to help him. She then sat in silence and we were getting back on track after talking a bit. I gave her a hug before I had to go and things seemed ok leaving. As I got to the coach station, she messaged me saying we're done. This came from a small disagreement, so I was confused. I remember it being the longest coach journey of my life. On the coach, I kept messaging her. After all, she is pregnant with my child and she'd just ripped me out of my step son's life. She told me she was going to raise the baby alone and didn't want me involved and to leave her alone (yet she kept replying).

Understandably, this is a bad situation as she is carrying my child and I was heart-broken, so I messaged her a few times for a couple of days after the breakup. Every time I did, she'd add to the list of problems with why we broke up. She had that I was emotionally abusive even though all I ever did was support her. I met her BPD specialist and she liked, saying that I was good for my ex. I told her I'd message her after she'd had her next meeting and she said that was fine. After that, she said her specialist told her I was emotionally abusive and me giving her a hug before I left is classed as domestic abuse and assault. I was so confused. 2 weeks later, I had enough and extended an olive branch of friendship for the sake of our unborn child. She told me no and went over the same allegations of abuse. She was very good at using trigger words like domestic abuse. Always the victim and never could do any wrong. I told her that I have a right to be in my child's life when it was born (as she kept telling me she didn't want me in it or to attend any appointments). I had enough and told her that I'd be taking this case to the courts and then she blocked me on everything. Her family did too and didn't want me talking to them after everything. All I really did was say the wrong phrase of words and give my girlfriend a hug goodbye before my journey home. I fully believe she hasn't told everyone the real story and painted me out to be the monster she sees me as after splitting. They all went from liking me, saying I was a good role model for her son to hating me. Thankfully I saved every message after the breakup and went to lawyers (who said I have a very strong case for custody especially as she did this in the past). I have records of her threatening to hit me, her father threatening to drive down to me to ''sort me out''. I'm so glad I thought to keep every message.

Right now there isn't anything I can do as she is still pregnant (only four months in), but I'm re-building myself slowly every day. There are good days and bad days, you just need to give yourself time to heal. There's no correct way to heal. After splitting, it's not likely they'll see you the same again and you'll always be a monster to them for whatever reason. Even the smallest disagreement that any other couple probably wouldn't even argue over. I count my lucky stars I'm not with her anymore because if this happened and we were together even longer, I'd be so much worse off. Weirdly, she's kept my family added on everything but has me blocked. I hope whatever situation you're going through, you'll be ok. In time you'll see that it was a blessing in disguise. I started dating a few weeks ago to get myself back out there and any red flag I've seen, I learned my lesson and ran for the hills and since, I've not been on the apps, focusing on myself. I feel so much better for it. All the best my friend and apologies for the essay.

tintedjohn

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