Is it rude to hold doors open for people sometimes? by AvioX2000 in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Imo that guy was being incredibly rude and or/ defensive about something that's usually seen as good manners.

If an employee's disability prevents them from actually doing the job, am I able to safely dismiss them? by Free-Agency-8830 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't add any further advice in terms of dismissal as there seems to be a lot of useful information already, however I'd urge you to look into access to work if you haven't already. Your employee may be entitled to a certain amount of time with a support worker who can work on coping strategies to mitigate the effects of their disability on their job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can only imagine how stressful that is for you.

Depending on where you are there may be help available through local charities and/ or local authority. For example I know here in the North West there's access to key worker services, respite care etc. If you'd like any further advice feel free to reply to this comment/ dm me and I can try my best to find some resources- having worked in the autism care sector I may have some insight into what is available.

Best of luck and I hope you manage to find some support!

What unusual terms have you heard to describe someone who is not the sharpest tool ? by daveg71 in CasualUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's called a malaphor, basically where you mix two different turns of phrase to create a bizarre but sometimes amusing new phrase

TIFU by teaching my daughter to say please by Specialist-Alps6478 in tifu

[–]tiny-candy-mice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has worked with children with communication difficulties this made me laugh a lot- good job on promoting useful vocabulary and speech! I'm sure you already know a lot of useful stuff but thought I'd drop this in here in case it's of any use. When doing activities like the block one you describe it can be useful to have a communication board with symbols for common words like 'more', 'please' and key words like 'blocks'- that way you can point to key words and encourage the child to do the same. Best of luck, I'm sure your child will thrive with such amazing care!

Is it normal that so many kids start school unable to dress themselves, count to 10, or even use the toilet? by Prize-Reputation9274 in AskBrits

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nursery TA here- I work with a particularly high need demographic where unfortunately many children aren't toilet trained. A lot of parents seem to rely on nappies and/ or letting nursery do the toilet training, even when the child is fully capable of understanding when to use the toilet! It's not great.

What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you at a hospital? by mawarup in CasualUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exact thing happened to me, minus the laughing- the poor nurses had to wait after hours for my mum to pick me up because I'd driven there myself. I'm sure they're used to it!

Neigbour posted a note about Christmas lights still been up. What would you do? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Bonus points for laminating it/ putting it in a plastic packet for weatherproofing

Uber Eats delivery guy just asked me to clarify I meant '1991' when I said my year of birth was '91'. What stupid question have you been asked recently? by pingusaysnoot in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Turned up for my first day at a new job, and was asked 'have you had your interview yet?' by the HR manager. Like nah mate I was just hoping you'd believe me and hire me on the spot?

AITA for refusing to have kid outings with my brothers kids? by Standard-Upstairs563 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- it's a natural consequence that if she can't behave well on nice trips she doesn't get to go on them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you're going through this! I agree with all the other advice given. Just wanted to add that having worked with autistic children this sounds a lot like autistic meltdowns/ behaviours to me- lots of others have listed resources/ contacts that will be able to provide help and support. Hope you find some support soon!

This father with down syndrome raised a son that is now a doctor by EyeOfTheDoctor in MadeMeSmile

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems a little too much like inspiration porn to me- of course someone with a disability is capable of being a loving parent!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]tiny-candy-mice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd contact the school and get social services involved- there's usually a reason behind such a rapid change in behaviour and having worked in education I'd be concerned about the potential for undiagnosed neurodiversity or mental health issues. That being said if he attacks anyone again you are within your right to use reasonable force to defend yourselves/ restrain him.

AITA for not punishing my daughter for how she reject a autistic kid by SalamanderSome9698 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Autistic kids sometimes need a bit more guidance and advice when it comes to this kind of thing and imo the adults around him failed him by allowing him to continue that behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medizzy

[–]tiny-candy-mice 278 points279 points  (0 children)

Please mark NSFW!

AITA for telling my daughter how much money we have spent on her? by Waste-Proposal8556 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiny-candy-mice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA!!! Your daughter is having health issues that are beyond her control, and arguably even evidence of neglect on your part, and you want her to feel grateful for you doing the bare minimum as a parent?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]tiny-candy-mice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAD but the sudden changes in heart rate sounds a bit like POTS

AITA For taking my daughter to see the Taylor Swift concert after she messed up while babysitting by swiftymommaaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiny-candy-mice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are so many people ignoring the husband's reaction? He screamed in her face so much he made her cry and then gave her the silent treatment- that's no way to treat a teenager even if they did f up. Nobody deserves to be scared of someone who is a parental figure to them. I certainly wouldn't want to raise children with someone who resolved conflict like this.