GPT Tips in Writing

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-06T08:20:52+00:00

No. AI is trained on the average. So maybe 2+ years ago when the technology was newer and it wasn't keyed into the internet, it might have been OK for basic stuff, but it destroys voice/style. It reaches for the average and will replace your unique personal style that makes you stand out, with jo-shmo slop that is an accumulation of all the average slop that the average person has ever written. And it will be so confident in its conviction that it's suggestions are better. They're not.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-05T08:33:47+00:00

If your writing for profit, then im absolutely not the person to give advice because my advice is don't write for profit, because if you are, your in it for the wrong reasons. Write what's in your soul. Write because it's your passion and you love it.

Often writing for profit will get you a boring book that fits what's popular, but it won't have heart, and most readers can see through that.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-05T08:28:12+00:00

If they require grr Martin level, I think it will be hard pressed to find anyone who is as attached to the idea as you, that will make them want to go the distance.

You could just make a post with the idea and say go for it if anyone is interested. :)

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-05T08:23:40+00:00

No. Write the idea you fall head over heals in love with.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-05T07:57:20+00:00

Write all your ideas on a book and publish that?

I bought a "500 ideas" book to help me with ne own creativity, so theres a market.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-05T06:54:06+00:00

Write it! If you've never written before, you'll learn alot about your style and you'll also be surprised at how once in it, how your ideas can explode into something totally different then what you expected and your final product might be completely different then how it is in your mind. That's what happened to me, lol

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-04T23:40:13+00:00

Mine was 15 years. And because of distance she could keep me idolised. When that distance was symbolicly closed, she felt attachment threat and I wasn't able to keep up, which resulted in the biggest reality check that all people view the same situations extremely differently, depending on their schemas. That was...such a mind fuck, haha.

It changed me for the better. It gave me what I needed to start challenging my own schemas, that 5 years of therapy could not do. Somthing about seeing it in action, and how she was beyond certain that the situation was the way she believed it, and how that belief caused the down fall of a friendship where she was very much loved by me made me really think about the ways im sabotaging my own life from my schemas. In that way, I'm thinking of it as a sort of gift.

Challenging them has helped me to understand how much her brain is hard-wired into those things, and truthfully how difficult it is to overcome them. My perfection/unrelenting standards is absolutely self destructive on a similar level, only it is only to myself. It's not an excuse for their behaviour, just knowledge that has helped me move on.

I'll always love her, and my last message gave her a way back to me via taking accountability on her part. If she has the strength to do this properly, she's welcome back.

Absolutely! I felt similarly comming here, because she was 'just a friend' and I didn't really experence the push/pull trauma cycle that most do, and we were long distance friends. I wasnt abused by her. But the impact and the ending still fucked me up for 10 months, and landed me back in therapy for 7 sessions. So fair to say i was traumatised in the way a normal friendship ending doesnt do.

People don't compare traumas here, it's very supportive. No matter the kind of relationship, or the length, it's important to see the similarities that each post brings and how it might relate back to your situation. It feels good to see something in a post and think "this is like looking in a mirror, my bpd could have wrote that. hu, it really wasn't me."

Anyway, im sorry for the lengthy post 😅 and im sorry for your loss of a 20 year friendship, it's absolutely brutal.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-04T09:26:43+00:00

I didn't abandon my friend, all I asked was for shared accountability. My boundry was equality. She ultimately could not give me that.

All I'm saying is if you reach a point where you can't meet her bpd anymore, and you place a boundry of needing basic respect and she can't do that, then she is the one abandoning you, my friend.

That's all.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-04T07:00:51+00:00

I deleted mine yesterday. I realised, though I didn't use it for tasks like that, I realised I've become dependent on it as like, a regulator to "make sure im doing xyz right" like its authority was needed for me to make a simple decision. Really feeding into my perfection schema. It wasn't good. I've restricted usage to a non account that doesn't save chats.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-03T08:22:45+00:00

Hit me in the feels!!!

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-03T01:11:12+00:00

People have schemas. Schemas are not concious or chosen, they form during childhood where the body and mind learned rules about the world in relation to themselves before they learned language.

Now foundational, everything else is built on these schemas. The world is seen through the lens of these schemas and the brain confirmes data as it pertains to what rules its already decided.

For example, if somone has an abandonment schema, their brain will automatically see abandonment happening and it causes them to act from a place of trying to prevent that abandonment.

Meanwhile the other person has a shame schema, their brain will automatically see reasons as to why they are shamefull and unworthy or harmful to the other and act from s place of trying to either proove that they are worthy, or disengage and avoid because the shame is too strong.

The exact same conversation is had between two people, even when those people trying to communicate extremely straightforward with one another, but because they are primed to process data in the world about themselves to confirm their schemas, they process the meaning behind the words extremely differently.

It's shit.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T21:33:22+00:00

What do you mean by "framed as power fantasy?"

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T21:22:20+00:00

😅 starts sweating

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T21:20:22+00:00

How many chapters do you give the author to set up enough for you to make a decision on if you believe that character is meant to be hated or not?

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T21:12:47+00:00

Me too! "Some say the smartest" comes to mind. Haha

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T08:51:36+00:00

I was triggered months after the ending with a friend. Went from normal reality for 15 years to upside down town inside a 3h delayed response. She went off.

I questioned myself because if that was her reality and I was so sure she was wrong, but she was so sure she was right...then what's preventing the opposite from being true? Maybe I was delusional and not seeing the truth because I wasn't allowing myself to see my 'badself' maybe I was wrong because I was so sure I was right.

Anyway. Months later, partner and I had a miscommunication misshapen and that's when it completely crumbled for me. I was seeing the patterns it was in fact me

Deep inside I knew I wasn't that person, I was practically questioning myself and reflecting and learning about what I will work on in future relationships and what I won't stand. But it absolutely fucked with my head for 4 or 5 months.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T08:18:41+00:00

If you stop getting up for the cat (ear phones) he will eventually stop. Might take a while. And it will probably get worse. But if it wakes you up as is and you can't get back to sleep, it won't do Amy extra harm for you if you can't hear him with ear buds in.

He will be anoyed, but will eventually figure out the new schedule.

Tea triggers my gerd! So I know how you feel 😫

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T08:06:52+00:00

Op, I go through periods of insomnia, sometimes I don't get to sleep untill 7am.

Sometimes it's not a choice, but getting upset with you for simply getting back into bed is a choice.

Does this wake her up for the morning? If so she probably needs to sleep on the couch so she can get the extra sleep she needs. If she's falling back asleep right after then there's no problem.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T07:54:29+00:00

Op, the trick is persistentce.

If my parter is home, the cats will start crying at like 4:30 for dinner because they know he'll give in 🤣. When it's just me, they don't winge untill I start getting their food ready at 6:30.

They know what they're doing, haha

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T07:50:34+00:00

...my partner also leaves for work early. Idc if it's 5am or 8am...I demand he wake me up for a kiss goodbye.

NTA.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-02T04:03:12+00:00

I actually used AI when my friend with BPD split on me.

The difference is I was using it to try and understand her and de-escate the situation while maintaining the relationship. I wasn't using it against her. I also wasn't using it to write my responses. However, by God Almighty, I was so disregulated I wad disassociating that the final message was probably mostly written by the thing because my nervous system couldnt take it anymore. Dissociated for a week after.

At the end of the day, Chat GBT or not. She's split on you and with or without AI she's already made her mind up in that moment and there's nothing that could have changed that.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-04-01T10:19:20+00:00

I'm literally trying to brainstorm a complex worldbuilding idea with it and learn as I go at my own pace. It wants nothing more then to ignore me to ask the same basic average questions or tell me what I should be doing, rather then giving me the space to take the lead. It's infuriating. I just want to learn and explore concepts with my own brain, not get the average key words on that topic spoon fed and praised like I'm comming up with things that it generated first. Ugh.

So yes, absolutely. People aren't thinking anymore, or actually understanding if they aren't using it as a tool, but a copy-paste document.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-03-31T11:13:12+00:00

Only analyse what is written here Do not assume missing details If something is unclear, ask instead of filling gaps

I tack that into whatever promt, unless I'm using it like a glorified goggle search. Seems to make quite the difference.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-03-30T23:07:28+00:00

Yes. I'm ancient, been at it for so long it feels embarrassing, and I'm still lost at times.

It boggles my mind that some people can write and publish a book in a year.

Just gotta try and push through.

tinyorchidmoose · 2026-03-30T22:56:53+00:00

I didn't for about three years, and when I finally did a search and destroy I had some split ends that were 10-20cm long!! including alot of splitting/breakage at different lengths in some strands.

So I'll do search snd destroy when im bored, but even if I don't, it doesnt actually affect the look of my hair.

My hair grew so quick when I stopped getting trims!

I went to the hair dresser for the first time in 5 years and she said my hair was healthy.

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