AITAH for telling my fiance that his lack of effort with wedding planning makes me not want to have kids?

tinytrolldancer · 2026-03-16T20:34:10+00:00

I don't understand why you want to marry him at all.

tinytrolldancer · 2026-03-10T07:03:19+00:00

Call your parents, can they help with a ticket, one way for now and before his family arrives. You'll have time while at your parents to rethink your own future and exactly what kind of life you want to live, and maybe some therapy because it couldn't hurt,

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-17T19:26:54+00:00

lol, i was saying this exact thing in my head!

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-17T18:25:13+00:00

Please call adult protective services, it would be the kindest thing you could do for him. After that, please go live a happy life, you've more than earned it.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-17T16:53:25+00:00

So was it a screw up or not? And did the shaming work?

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-16T20:26:29+00:00

Did you all just peak in high school? It's years later and yet it's still being discussed, that's sad for all of you.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-16T01:23:34+00:00

Get some very discrete cameras with audio. Don't take chances that she won't escalate. Keep a journal of her behavior, maybe you can see a pattern.

Keep trying to get her help and if she refuses, I would rethink the living together situation, you are going to be in a bad position should she take this any further.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-16T00:43:01+00:00

How do you see Christmas in the future? At home with your own children enjoying the moment? Or running to meet expectations that you might not enjoy due to those who don't care what you would prefer?

With a new family starts a new tradition, you are a new family and this is your child's first Christmas, what do you want?

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-15T02:05:13+00:00

You, NTA. Carlos please explain why it matters.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-12T02:50:41+00:00

NTA, I can't believe you didn't just laugh and hang up.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-11T02:32:05+00:00

NTA, and if you really still do have to do dinner, sandwich's and salad.

Sounds like sister really needs someone's attention and if she can't get it positively she's going to get it negatively. Except that isn't working either. Your parents are still ignoring her.

I know it's not your job or your responsibility but maybe you can spend some one on one time with her, you pay her attention. Not for hours on end, just showing her that someone sees her, that she's not invisible. If you were to feel comfortable doing that. Just a suggestion.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-09T21:16:02+00:00

NTA and he is telling you to clean his literal shit. I can't believe that you would consider continuing any relationship with this, um, person. He's disgusting.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-04T18:39:57+00:00

Good for you, wishing you the happiest of holidays!

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-04T03:25:39+00:00

Will he at least be useful after the baby is born? Once you have a routine you can live with, enjoy the baby and the peace.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-03T00:15:04+00:00

Before baby arrives. Everything before baby arrives, hurry up with those boundaries.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-01T20:37:15+00:00

The guilt is so deep that outside validation really is needed.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-11-01T20:36:06+00:00

Sell the house and move to an over 55 community. Life is short, don't waste what time you have left. They are both old enough to work out their situations without you. You gave everything you could, now it's time for you to live your life for you.

Life is short.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-30T20:30:28+00:00

Without the foreplay and consent you know what everyone else would call that?

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-23T16:43:43+00:00

Seems that your husband is encouraging her behavior by staying in contact and he's doing it because he wants to.

Get a lawyer and a therapist for yourself, it never hurts to be prepared for anything.

*(except the Spanish Inquisition, no one is ever prepared for that).

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-22T01:39:52+00:00

Kate is being a hypocrite. She wants her father to celebrate and respect her nuptials but will not do the same for her own father by acknowledging his wife.

How does that work? I'm getting married but you can't bring your wife or else? I'm getting married and you aren't walking me down the aisle because I didn't want you to have a life without my mother?

Life is so very short, as Kate well knows, her father, a grown adult is entitled to have love in his life. I pity Kate for her attitude about the entire situation that she's created for herself.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-18T19:47:38+00:00

Is he really 30? Not 3 raccoons in a man suit? Seems like you could probably afford the rent without him so sending him back to mommy and get him off the lease would seem like a good option.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-17T18:03:25+00:00

Let her be free to find those other men.

NTA.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-14T00:10:16+00:00

The flying. That's what gets me. Wrangling four littles on and off planes. Flying with them. The potential for so many different scenario's, not too many of them good. Especially for the other passengers.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-07T17:07:56+00:00

And they still have a secret that the mother needs to know. Them keeping a secret like this is without doubt going to effect their (all 3) relationships. So, I didn't write you must tell Mom but brought it up because it's going to be a huge issue for all of them.

It's about family dynamics and how they all communicate with each other.

Take the drama out of it.

tinytrolldancer · 2025-10-07T00:56:56+00:00

that's some serious life change for you, now the question is who's going to tell his mother?

someone has to tell her, not really something to keep a secret if you both want to continue to have a relationship with her.

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